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The topic for this megathread is...

COMMS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT. (pic unrelated)

Basically, I wanted to highlight comms I think could use more activity.Β 

Here's a list of comms I want to highlight, and why we should be using these more:

  • THIS ONE - Not enough posting outside of the megathreads in my opinion. We need to get those numbers up and there's plenty of trans news (including positive stuff) to post.

  • /c/howdy - Ok, shameless plug here. I don't expect this to receive regular posts given it's for introductions, but I do at least wanna make people aware of it. Also you don't have to be new to post. If you wanna share some important life update, like coming out, etc. then you totally should.Β 

  • /c/fashion - I don't know why we aren't using this more. I think makeup guides/tips for transfems would go well here too and that's something I'd love to see more of.Β 

  • /c/acab - Fuck the police. We need to be shitting on them more. Srsly.Β 

  • /c/hobbies - This is another I'd love to see get more activity and I really should post more stuff here myself. Also a good place to post about Warhammer painting, gunpla, RC cars, Nerf blasters, etc. I do have some cool stuff to post about here, so stay tuned.

  • /c/creepy - Ok, this is a BIG one for me. I've been posting more here with spoopy season coming up. A great place to talk about anything horror, dark fantasy, etc. Please join me in posting more creepy stuff.Β 

  • /c/fitness - I've been looking for good transfem home exercise routines and I'd love to chat about it with others. I plan on posting about it here in the near future. Could be good for all kinds of gender-affirming fitness advice.

  • /c/ttrpg - I really wish I had more time to do this sort of thing and maybe in the near future when my work/life balance is better. There was this very awesome recent post that you all should check out if you're interested: https://hexbear.net/post/6261929?scrollToComments=false

  • /c/diy - I'd especially love to see more diy hrt recipes and stuff. I get that diy projects aren't easy to do and post about for a lot of us (me included) but just wanted to remind people this exists.

  • /c/wrestling - I think we should use this for spamming Macho Man Randy Savage memes, and I have plans to do that at some point in the future. HULKAMANIA IS DEAD. MACHO MADNESS IS FOREVER.

  • /c/trans_synths - I don't make music, but I do love listening to it. Would be neat to see this more active.

  • /c/selfimprovement - From @moonlake@hexbear.net: "Speaking of comms you should know about, please check out the self-improvement comm if you haven't yet. I'm posting the weekly mega every Sunday evening Moscow Time. It's chill and the definition of improvement is very loose so you can post about anything. If your idea of improvement is modding Fallout New Vegas, you can write about that brace-cowboy"

Are there any comms you think should be used more, or any great ideas for new ones that you'd like to discuss? Please sound off in the comments below!


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

sodium_nitride* (10/6 - 10/12)
peanutbuttercupola* (10/13 - 10/19)
oscardejarjayes* (10/20 - 10/26)
Wmill (10/27 - 11/2)
Shaleesh* (11/3 - 11/9)
Alisu (11/10 - 11/16)
Disaster_of_Passion* (11/17 - 11/23)
GayTuckerCarlson* (11/24 - 11/30)
Eco* (12/1 - 12/7)

peanutbuttercupola* (12/29 - 1/4)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 27 points 1 month ago (12 children)

That was deadass not very hard

party-cat

Also needles are super sharp I barely even meant for it to go in and it just slid right in on its own. Didn't feel anything until I drew it out.

Feel really good about that.

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

Omigosh yayyyy! So proud and happy for youuu!

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yes! So happy for you! The 3rd of October? A day that will live in infamy.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

ty! I know! Very good hrtversery.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

It's a big step! Congratulations 🎊

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Congrats!!!!!!

[–] meler@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

OMG CONGRATS!!! you should be so proud of yourself this is big

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I really hate when a historic person lived their entire life in the opposite sex to what was assigned at birth, insisted to the day they died they were a man or woman, even in some cases killed people over it etc, yet an armchair historian will say β€œthere wasn’t a concept of being trans so you can’t call them that”

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago (9 children)

making sure I am as 100% cis passing as possible to avoid getting dirty looks from everyone before going to the store and buying a pumpkin this fall

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

side-eye-1 what is she going to do to the pumpkin

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

I spend too much time on the internet

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

Butch lesbian cashier at the liquor store said I had "a lovely name" and was probably flirting. Aww yeah.

Then being ma'amed by the sushi guy. Aww yeah.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Soon I will be turning 120, what should I do for my birthday

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Me explaining later that the gorgeous barista with striking features, who was at least 4 inches taller than me in her flat converse shoes, who initially looked alarmed when she saw me then relaxed and was friendly when she realised I wouldn't break her stealth was a trans woman. For all the above reasons and more.

My father: shocked-pikachu

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

I've heard stories of trans people doing that to other trans people and I do not get how they think that's acceptable. Publicly clocking someone is obviously rude as fuck

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Intentionally outing someone is obviously bad, but I think sometimes the fear can arise too because we're often an unsubtle (frequently neurodivergent bunch) who might accidentally say something.

That and seeing a clocky trans woman next to a stealth one can draw comparison and make them feel more perceived because people around them often don't have object permanence to trans people.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

There's definitely a brief deer in the headlights look a boymoding or stealth trans woman gets from seeing another trans woman that goes away as soon as they realise they're safe.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I want to actually start hrt today but I'm really scared/nervous.

spoilerI hate this. I hate that I have to transition at all. I wish I was just born a cis woman.

This whole situation is just horrible.

[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

You’ll feel better once it starts kicking in, take that step. I believe in you. cuddle

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

Do it! I don’t have any yet but I can’t wait. Better to transition than to stay stuck in the cis man in between

[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Just speaking for myself, HRT was a big deal. Of course it takes awhile for noticeable physical effects, but my mood improved noticeably after maybe a month on it. My skin also started showing a glow that didn’t exist before. I wish just injecting it once was like a Sailor Moon transformation and I’m suddenly the pretty guardian who fights for love and justice, but it’s still worth it imo to start as soon as possible and it won’t be too long hopefully before you start to notice small positive changes. Also just a warning, you’ll have some boob pain but my boob pain felt gender affirming so it wasn’t so bad.

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[–] machiabelly@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

Wrote a silly little poem in class today

I think penises are sexy, When Women Wear them

When foreskin is softer than forearms

When warm wetness overflows, before even a touch

When cum is clear and fleeting, like the morning dew

When pleasure refracts across the night

I think penises are sexy, When Women Wear them

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[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Another transphobe has fallen victim to my karmic shield of retribution. Everyone who wrongs me becomes the architect of their own demise.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

crush

The black and sexy nightgown I purchased a while back has a chest compartment too small to accommodate me. It's all according to plan.

[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)

After dragging my girlfriend to the thrift store 2 times she has developed its own interest into her wardrobe. Very happy about that.

Thrift stores are amazing for trans people, cause A. The clothes are cheap, and B. it is easier to find out your preferred style there, cause they have much bigger variety than normal clothing stores, and C. no attendants.

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[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

surgerywild to think that if nothing goes wrong i'll be getting bottom surgery in less than a month.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (4 children)

::: spoiler injection

Shootin e into my thigh
Yeah you know ill never die
Baby i just cant live a lie
Watch me take girljuice and fly

Bloody but painless today, and im feelin great

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[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (4 children)

My domme side is coming back, goddess help you all.

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

Yesterday I got compliments on my nails and two different women held the door for me. I'm taking this as proof that I'm attractive otherwise they would have physically barred the doors closed think-about-it

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I spent the weekend working overtime with an older male coworker and at one point, a female coworker said she saw the back of my hair and thought I was a pretty girl meow-melt

I smiled so widely it made the male coworker raise his eyes, yeah man, I know we were broing out for a while but i contain multitudes. Also I think my voice went up an octave upon hearing that. Straight up brightened my whole ~~day~~ week

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Rewatched Tokoyo Godfathers and I'm 😭 love this movie so much. Haven't cried to something so good in a while highly recommend. It's very much a christmas movie but fuck it watch it now if you can.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I am cough cough cough a dis-cough a dise cough cough A DISEASED LITTLE GIRL can't cough cough, cough cough cough a big strong man wrap me in cough cough his arms and make me go to sleep?

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

estradoll life update

i ate way too many fucking pancakes yesterday

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Cleaned my room and found these cool spinning pinwheel earrings I got while back, only problem is I still haven't got my ears pierced

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (5 children)

us politicsguys i haven't been paying attention. what's happening with a government shutdown now and what does this have to do with trans healthcare?

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

spoilerContext

Basically the government is shutting down bc republicans want to put a bunch of anti trans shit in the budget bill.

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[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

I love my trans comrades trans-heart cat-trans

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Hate the feeling of wanting to talk to someone about this but not really knowing what to say or start the conversation with. The person I came out to at work recently is very supportive and idk I'd like to talk with her more but I do not know how :cheems:

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

cw:transphobiaThe only people that know that I am trans refuse to respect it.

I haven't put down harsh boundaries thus causing this issue. In fact, one of these people even talked back to me by saying "you don't have the balls to tell your parents" and shut me up for good.

Yeah, I don't have even the miniscule level of self-respect to ask people to accommodate my existence.

When I'm constantly called "worthless" and "you should kill yourself", instead of walking away I just agree with the other person and keep talking as if nothing happened.

To some extent, it's not even their fault. How can they take me seriously when I don't take myself seriously?

It goes beyond the point of avoiding confrontation, or being overly sensitive, or being cowardly. I think I just don't care anymore.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

::: spoiler spoiler

Yeah, I don't have even the miniscule level of self-respect to ask people to accommodate my existence.

They could also not be assholes. They could take five seconds to consider your existence. Just because telling your parents is difficult doesnt mean this person shouldnt respect you. Theyre being a shit person. Thats not on you, thats on them.

When I'm constantly called "worthless" and "you should kill yourself", instead of walking away I just agree with the other person and keep talking as if nothing happened.

Ive been in those friendships-that-arent-friendships... Its not good. Idk about you but i heavily internalized it, and am still working through it. Its hard. Its so fucking hard. Idk if you want advice but my first steps were getting away from those people. Damage had been done and i repeated the same stuff over and over, getting into the same situations. but leaving the friendships-that-arent-friendships is the crucial first step. Please know, you do matter, youre not worthless, and you do not deserve to be treated like this. We dont think these things about ourselves naturally, we are trained into it, and breaking that training is a whole hell of a lot easier to do if the training isnt actively being applied.

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

so this cute subby girlie im chatting with just dropped this song on me and uh....well i mean i knew i was a switch but doesnt hurt to have it reaffirmed i guess crush

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

catgirl-heart I have boobs now. I feel so happy.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

spoilerLow key not doing good at all today, keep crying, very stressed out about shit. Want to reach out to someone but don't know what to say or how to have conversation anymore.

Also the local group the coworker found ends their stuff right as I'll be getting back home, so I guess that's for next week. And I'll be running late every week bc work.

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (6 children)

wonder if there used to be a time where our memory actually worked

in relates news trauma causes brain damage :3

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