The topic for this megathread is...
COMMS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT. (pic unrelated)
Basically, I wanted to highlight comms I think could use more activity.
Here's a list of comms I want to highlight, and why we should be using these more:
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THIS ONE - Not enough posting outside of the megathreads in my opinion. We need to get those numbers up and there's plenty of trans news (including positive stuff) to post.
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/c/howdy - Ok, shameless plug here. I don't expect this to receive regular posts given it's for introductions, but I do at least wanna make people aware of it. Also you don't have to be new to post. If you wanna share some important life update, like coming out, etc. then you totally should.
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/c/fashion - I don't know why we aren't using this more. I think makeup guides/tips for transfems would go well here too and that's something I'd love to see more of.
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/c/acab - Fuck the police. We need to be shitting on them more. Srsly.
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/c/hobbies - This is another I'd love to see get more activity and I really should post more stuff here myself. Also a good place to post about Warhammer painting, gunpla, RC cars, Nerf blasters, etc. I do have some cool stuff to post about here, so stay tuned.
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/c/creepy - Ok, this is a BIG one for me. I've been posting more here with spoopy season coming up. A great place to talk about anything horror, dark fantasy, etc. Please join me in posting more creepy stuff.
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/c/fitness - I've been looking for good transfem home exercise routines and I'd love to chat about it with others. I plan on posting about it here in the near future. Could be good for all kinds of gender-affirming fitness advice.
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/c/ttrpg - I really wish I had more time to do this sort of thing and maybe in the near future when my work/life balance is better. There was this very awesome recent post that you all should check out if you're interested: https://hexbear.net/post/6261929?scrollToComments=false
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/c/diy - I'd especially love to see more diy hrt recipes and stuff. I get that diy projects aren't easy to do and post about for a lot of us (me included) but just wanted to remind people this exists.
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/c/wrestling - I think we should use this for spamming Macho Man Randy Savage memes, and I have plans to do that at some point in the future. HULKAMANIA IS DEAD. MACHO MADNESS IS FOREVER.
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/c/trans_synths - I don't make music, but I do love listening to it. Would be neat to see this more active.
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/c/selfimprovement - From @moonlake@hexbear.net: "Speaking of comms you should know about, please check out the self-improvement comm if you haven't yet. I'm posting the weekly mega every Sunday evening Moscow Time. It's chill and the definition of improvement is very loose so you can post about anything. If your idea of improvement is modding Fallout New Vegas, you can write about that
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Are there any comms you think should be used more, or any great ideas for new ones that you'd like to discuss? Please sound off in the comments below!
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cw:transphobia
The only people that know that I am trans refuse to respect it.I haven't put down harsh boundaries thus causing this issue. In fact, one of these people even talked back to me by saying "you don't have the balls to tell your parents" and shut me up for good.
Yeah, I don't have even the miniscule level of self-respect to ask people to accommodate my existence.
When I'm constantly called "worthless" and "you should kill yourself", instead of walking away I just agree with the other person and keep talking as if nothing happened.
To some extent, it's not even their fault. How can they take me seriously when I don't take myself seriously?
It goes beyond the point of avoiding confrontation, or being overly sensitive, or being cowardly. I think I just don't care anymore.
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They could also not be assholes. They could take five seconds to consider your existence. Just because telling your parents is difficult doesnt mean this person shouldnt respect you. Theyre being a shit person. Thats not on you, thats on them.
Ive been in those friendships-that-arent-friendships... Its not good. Idk about you but i heavily internalized it, and am still working through it. Its hard. Its so fucking hard. Idk if you want advice but my first steps were getting away from those people. Damage had been done and i repeated the same stuff over and over, getting into the same situations. but leaving the friendships-that-arent-friendships is the crucial first step. Please know, you do matter, youre not worthless, and you do not deserve to be treated like this. We dont think these things about ourselves naturally, we are trained into it, and breaking that training is a whole hell of a lot easier to do if the training isnt actively being applied.
If I really didn't care, I wouldn't be making so many hexbear comments about it.
These people are fucking monsters. It's not about you being a coward. This really is a case where you don't have to find the fault in yourself. There is no justification for abusing someone else abd telling them that they are worthless.