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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (9 children)

DAMCE REPORT 2:

preliminary nonsense:

  1. I am doing substance abuse. It's caffeine and alcohol. he-admit-it
  2. Studying is becoming kinda boring cause I keep learning shit I can't apply.

Dance:

  1. This shit really is horny. When we were split into "leaders" and "followers" half the class split into couples and started caressing each other. In order to continue with the classes, you need to find a permanent dance partner, and this seems to be basically your actual partner.
  2. This shit is gendered AF. Every single "follower" was a girl (even if we count me)! Even the instructor was just using female pronouns for everything. Kinda affirming?
  3. Everytime we switched partners, my new "leader" would give me a firm handshake and we would do introductions. This wasn't done with anyone else (I was paying attention).
  4. Salsa is fun. But I don't want to be cut out from dancing cause I don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Why do we even need permanent dance partners?
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[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (15 children)

Discussing the name and history of a particular niche porn site and it's owner's identity journey (CW discussion of Porn, Slurs, dysphoria and brainworms)So there's a niche porn site called "[plural of t-slur] in Trouble". Oof right? It does softcore Damsel in Distress BDSM videos and pictures, only more recently actual sex acts have been performed and on the more tamer side of things.

Now it's an OLD website (and it really looks it too), it was started in 2001, 24years ago. It's owner, photographer, and occasional model, Sandra Gibbons is a trans woman. Now she didn't actually know this before creating the website. She identified as a crossdresser or transvestite. Which is where the name comes from, the early 2000s were a marginal period where the t-slur meant both trans people and crossdressers, see RuPaul having a song called "[T-Slur] Chaser" in 2009! Which I think is way too late honestly, but for context.

But an interesting thing happened, over times less of the models Sandra Gibbons worked with identified a cis male crossdressers, and more identified as trans women or non binary. And you see her undergo the dialectic of reflecting whether she is transgender or not through her blog. Dealing with many of the same dysphoric thoughts trans women have "It's too late", "I look too masculine" etc.

As it stands right now she uses Sandra as her name, she uses she/her pronouns, she dresses femininely when in public. She said in 2022 she recognized she had Gender dysphoria but wasn't going to take hormones, ~~and I really do hope she has changed her mind since then and quietly started since then.~~ [This is still my opinion but see comments downstream for context]

She has also talked about changing the name of the website. But as it stands it's a largely boutique trans-owned website that features trans women and has a fan base in trans women, there's definitely an aspect of reclamation of that word. I believe it doesn't really make much money, it's really just love of the game. And if she didn't squat the name, a big exploitative porn company would probably snatch it up.

Anyway I just wanted to share this odd and interesting story of a trans woman and her old ass website.

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[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Hey gamers pronouns and being mindful of the ones people have on their employee badges got mentioned in our staff meeting and now I want to crawl into a tight spot and die like a rodent

I grabbed my badge and tore it up into little paper shreds when I got a moment alone I couldn't stand the thought of wearing it and I haven't done so in months and I didn't realize just how much I really don't want to. No one's bugged me about it before though

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[โ€“] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 1 week ago

Sometimes people talk past you until you believe it for a bit. I hate seeing it happen to others.

I want trans people to believe trans people.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Upping my shaving routine from every other day to everyday. I cut my top lip a bit but it's worth it to be this smooth

[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (5 children)

How do you do this? My skin gets so angry with me if i shave every day? (I know i ask about this every time someone mentions shaving but nothing seems to work...)

I should just get laser. Like. All the laser. Like. Put me in a box with 1000 lasers and zap every non-head-hair on my body for 20 continuous hours i will survive and thrive

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[โ€“] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Changing my name before the state locks this shit down, cost me like a weeks pay, and two weeks of admin, what a lovely experience

if youre in victoria, australia, transgender victoria may be able to provide you a reimbursement for this stuff

i think theyre at www.tgv.org.au, i had to email them

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[โ€“] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It's fall season! Time for me to have my yearly delibetating coughing fits!

On a more positive note, imma try out ALL the dancing courses we got and spend the whole week moving my hips.

On a more (ew) note, dancing is really bringing out all the wierd latent homophobia shit from my friend who I did not expect to have any such brainworms. What the hell do you mean "modern dancing is gay so I won't do it"?

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

spoilerI feel awful. It's all I can think about. They're going to genocide us. All I want is to try and fix my broken body. Why did this have to be me. Why do I need to suffer like this. My only chance at being alive.

Even without fearing for the future and being targeted ts sucked.

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Fuck, I gotta skip my remaining dance class tryouts cause of my cold (i don'twant to infect everybody). Will I manage to find a damce partner even if I don't attend all the try-outs? Who fucking knows.

I somehow didn't realise that we were supposed to be meeting up with each other after dance classes to find partners. I always just book it for the trains.

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[โ€“] Moss@hexbear.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

I went for a hike that was kind of a disaster, nearly died about ten different times without exaggerating. Anyway I'll post more about it later, because when I went to poo just now, I wiped and there was grass in my ass?

You touch the grass and the grass touches back

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