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I was planning to write a longer post for this mega and then Silksong happened so... oops?

Short version is this week is my 9th tranniversary. I don't remember which day exactly so I like to say it was 9/11 so I'd never forget. What ultimately cracked my egg all those years ago was not the deep yearning when looking at women that I couldn't identify as envy or the increasingly intense and umm horny dreams where I had the power to instantly change my gender. No it was that fucking faceapp gender swap filter. I just kept staring at that pic like it was a mirror into an alternate universe where I was happier and suddenly everything clicked into place. The first few years were hit or miss with a lot of other life changes happening at the time that interfered with getting properly started so in some ways it's more like a 5 or 6 year tranniversary but whatever. vivian-shrug

It's weird to say I'm almost done but I really am so close to making all the changes I wanted. I'll never stop being trans, but I'm definitely moving from trans(itioning) femme to trans(itioned) femme and that's quite exciting. And maybe a little wistful looking back at the journey.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Im gonna be modelling on a runway~

Got selected! Doesn't pay. I also dont have to pay anything. I think it'll be fun!

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 22 points 3 weeks ago

Play 911 in reverse and you get towers being constructed and birthing planes and I think that change of perspective is beautiful

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

s/o to charlie kirk, the first man to ever cause me to achieve orgasm

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (7 children)

Went to trans night at the commie bar last night. Had a good time doggirl-thumbsup got compliments and a touch more on my outfit (and height) from multiple people and like damn yall i get it im tall but stfu im not a top spend 30 seconds with me and its obvious lol, im just tall vivian-shrug

But i did my eyeliner and makeup last night for the first time since april and it felt so good to wear my armour again! I love it and it just is so funnn! I just need to do it early in the day so i can recover for a couple hours from the intense dysphoria of looking in the mirror...

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (12 children)

The bottoms are so desperate theyre circling our precious tall puppies like sharks in a school of tuna

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[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago

unexpected downside of charlie kirk biting it: i have a hangover for the first time in like 7 years

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Just a genderfluid tboy wearing a lace croptop and 00's era bedazzled pants

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I think a lot about those studies that showed just knowing a trans person is enough to change people's opinion positively on trans right. Like not being friends or family, just knowing of a trans person.

That's why I kind of love being a huge, beautiful, goofy, obviously trans woman with amazing style who, as a meme I once saw said "was a a pleasure in class and I'm determined to make that everyone's problem".

Like I am going to start a conversation with you ostensibly Cis person and you will enjoy it. Then if trans rights ever come down the track as topic, you are gonna remember me and have a positive opinion.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I like passing but its a little sad to not be read as trans. One of my coworkers didnt know I was trans until me and her had talked to a trans patient about healthcare and clothing stuff and sge asked me how I knew that all - and was surprised when I said I was trans. We'd known eachother for over a year!

I fully respect people who do stealth cause thats their preference or for safety but I like being openly trans

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

I alternate between "Tarot is not real, its a fun parlour game for self-reflection".

And "as a trans woman I have profaned both man and nature to gain mystical foresight like my many sisters before me".

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

tarot is not real, unless it tells me that Yeah I Do Deserve Some Pizza As a Little Treat and then it is the gospel truth

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[–] meler@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

transphobia, hopelessness, ughI don't regret coming out, but I just wish I could put it on pause just for a day or two so I can breathe. I'm so sick of how people treat me, and I'm so sick of begging people to use my god damn name. I don't even hate my deadname. I actually kind of like it as a name if I'm being honest. But the downright refusal to use the name I'm explicitly asking people to use just feels like a slap in the face every single time. I've told my dad several times now that I don't want to talk about it anymore, and that he can just do what he wants because I'm done feeling like I have to justify myself to him. I asked him if he saw the possibility of a world in which what he was doing was wrong and he said "I am rarely ever 100% certain about anything, but I'm 100% certain you're not a woman." Like at this point trying to talk to him about it is not worth it. But he just keeps fucking bringing it up. Has sent me 5 page long letters written in google docs asking me to see things from his perspective. That he's trying to do what's right for me and that I shouldn't be mad at him for it. The only reason I'm still talking to him at all is because I have $38 in my bank account right now. The financials are kinda shot right now. And sometimes he sends me money. I feel trapped. I just want to leave this god forsaken town in this god forsaken country. I'm so emotionally burnt out and I don't know what to do.

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

etsy witches cursing right wingers does work, keep doing that

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I want it known this was how I found out

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)
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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Vampire The Masquerade describes vampire sex as "a biting frenzy"

Say no more, sign me up for a biting frenzy

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

we dont understand how in the current state of things in the US people are still telling trans people to go see a doctor for hrt... like are you paying attention at all or???

not like a majority of doctors understand trans healthcare at all anyway xP

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (9 children)

Because DIY isnt, like, easy or straight forward and you have to deal with crypto and its still good to have an endo/prescriber who can figure out your lab values but also help you deal with mental health shit and fertility shit (the two most common concerns with the transgender patient population besides gender affirming care). Some people have insurance that covers meds and otherwise have to pay out of pocket for DIY.

I get the fear that a doctor might not be an ally to say the least. Knowing how to get DIY is a good skill even if you have a great doc who has your back. And I get that doctors aren't all geniuses who know the WPATH in and out - or know when to ignore the WPATH recommendations and go with current research. I don't know how to handle the balance of risks and benefits with yall yankees.

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

its not the fear of a doctor not being an ally (though many such cases) but the fact that most doctors dont got a bloody clue what they are doing when it comes to trans healthcare period, or just dont care to know. also you really dont need a doctor to read two numbers from a lab and compare them to well known baselines.

i feel like calling getting prescription E "easy or straightforward" is just sugarcoating it, especially right now when its so unstable. the amount of hoops you potentially have to jump through is significant.

the US govt (yes this is a US centric post as stated, but it also applies to like... many places at the moment) is actively trying to collect everyones medical records, is actively trying to ban trans people from existence, and is actively throwing people in concentration camps. i dont see how recommending someone go risk that over at least researching diy is a good idea.

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[–] ComradePedro@lemmy.ml 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

Vampireposting (cw: blood)The feminine urge to kiss a woman with a cut and bleeding lip

vs

The feminine urge to bite my lip until it bleeds to tease vampiregf into kissing me

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago

My parents, especially my mom likes to brag by saying that she fully understands me. Imagine all the information she doesn't know about me was actually beamed into her head. It'd hit her like unlimited void.

No but seriously, at this point, if they were to find out just how much I have been suffering for so long, they would be devastated. I think knowing that I am trying get into therapy for ideation would break them from thinking that they failed as parents.

I might just be doing motivated reasoning cause I don't want to tell them, but I think keeping things from them would actually be beneficial for them.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I have to wash my hands off at work, usually with alcohol. If your hands are wet with alcohol and you touch certain kinds of printing on plastic, you'll get an imprint on your hand

Anyway, I left work with my left hand imprinted with DONT

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago

agony-shivering honk-enraged badeline-scream I JUST BROKE MY FAVORITE HAIR CLIP AND THEY DON'T EVEN MAKE THIS ONE ANYMORE. FUCK

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

Haven't been on the bear site for a bit, too busy being gay. Just posting to say I love being trans. I love my genderfluid fiancΓ©e, my trans boyfriend, and my enby partner. I love all my trans FWB. I love my trans best friends. I love that I rarely have to ever talk to a cis person. When I was younger, I would never have imagined this would be my life, lol. But I love it!

I love you all little trans people in my phone <3

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

scared the class when talking about charlie kirk the other day, whoops Silly-Liberator

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Trans women have an inherent advantage in doing Tarot and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago

ngl I am finally feeling better about shaving my body- although I did still cut myself doggirl-cry

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I love yall poly people, I had a good time being poly. But maybe I want to be monogamous and it would be a little nice to have the choice. Wtf is going on in queer kinky dating lol, its like an inversion of mono-poly ratio in cishet vanilla dating.

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

you know....i do like ginger ale, especially this brand that's basically a cider but spicy, real easy to get white girl drunk with catgirl-happy

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

its 2025 we arent still pretending misandry is real right

[–] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

Small thing I did over the weekend but on tumblr I periodically bully terfs for the fun of it.

But I clapped back on one terf and someone actually began following my blog. I know it’s a very tiny thing, but I like how someone somewhere out there in the world saw a rando say that hatred against people like them isn’t ok.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

If I had the death note I would manipulate all the leaders of the western world into flying to the desert in texas, laying down to spell out "God is watching", then they all simultaneously die of a heart attack. It will be televised of course.

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[–] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

tomorrow i'll be celebrating 11/9 by going to my first bottom surgery consult gender-reveal

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Quitting weed has made me so much more interesting. Now when I'm bored, I think "what should I do? I could write, I could read, I could go for a walk, I could drive somewhere new, I could bake something, I could draw, I could meet up with friends, I could do a workout." When I was addicted, the answer was always "I'll get high and watch things I've already watched and eat a massive amount of food." I actually do things now. It's so much better

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[–] WittyProfileName2@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Refilling my hormone prescription at the pharmacy and the dispensing chemist asked me step into the consultation room.

I was worried there'd been some sort of fuck up somewhere and I was gonna have to spend all day making phone calls to this or that NHS ward because the WGS, the local gender team, and my local GP had started arguing over who's managing my hormones. Again.

Turns out she just wanted to ask what my preferred pronouns were.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Okay chat I have kinda a burning question in my mind that I've been wondering for a while.

Okay, so my cisf friend, several years ago, wanted us all to go to ikea and she got a blahaj and kept like asking me if I knew what it meant (I did not) and kinda smiling/smirking. What did she mean by this? Obviously she knew it was a trans woman thing- so I guess I don't understand?

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Maybe she thought you were trans

Or she just thought it was really cute

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Probably not, she was fine at first when I came out but kinda ditched me after I asked her to use my name.

Maybe.

[–] tithonis@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago

It's unfortunately not uncommon for people to find your transitioning cute or endearing or positive in the abstract but once they have to acknowledge that you are in fact who you are and you expect them to respect that, fall off like that. You're cute to them as a pet, as a toy, but not as a fully realized human being.

Transitioning really put into contrast who my friends were and who tolerated me so long as I was useful to them somehow. I keep my friends close, anyone who tries to put a disclaimer on their support of trans people - of transfems in particular - can fuck right off. I don't have time for that shit.

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

bottom surgeryI've got this idea super lodged in my brain that, like, it would be a huge power move if I got an orchi but then also got teste implants. I don't even know 100% what the point would be but the thought is just reeaal stuck in my mind

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I told my therapist I've been scrutinizing my appearance more in an almost phrenological way and she said next session we're gonna talk about where I spend time on the internet

Mom found the /r/4tran subscription

Funny, the preoccupation with my brow really kicked off from a YouTube short

And yeah actually the more that I think about it this has been fueled a lot more by /r/transpassing and related subreddits than anything from /r/4tran. I just reflexively discount anything in greentext so I don't think it's that impactful

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