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Half of the time I look forward to my death, it doesn't scare me since I don't see the real point of my life, what scares me is if my agony would be slow and painful.

But then what? I just stop existing and it's like I fell asleep? Do I see light? Darkness? Nothing? What is nothing?

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[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 35 points 1 day ago

The connections in my brain that made me me will fail and I will cease to exist, same as before I existed.

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 21 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Nothing. Was in the hospital for a heart attack last year, my heart stopped for 8 seconds. I was 100% completely unaware. Was told later what had happened.

[–] wisely@feddit.org 11 points 1 day ago

Over 4 minutes for me. Can confirm, no concept of time. I slowly became aware of a noise that turned out to be my own breath from chest compressions. Then I became present again.

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 4 points 1 day ago

Hope your doing well!

[–] Spiderwort@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Some people don't remember their dreams. Some do.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Anesthesia is different from sleep.

[–] Spiderwort@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

If you don't remember then how can you tell?

Sometimes you remember dreaming, sometimes you half-remember dreaming, sometimes you remember nothing.

I'm assuming that the unremembered part is full of dreams too.

[–] jeena@piefed.jeena.net 16 points 1 day ago

You become what you were before you were conceived.

Its a state equivalent to before you were born. Its feels exactly as it felt back then. That is the nothing.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago

The ~40% of me that are Microbes are going to have a field day.

[–] Free_Opinions@feddit.uk 6 points 1 day ago

Either of two things:

Nothing. However, I don't think most people quite grasp the meaning of that. Kind of how they think that before the big bang there was just empty space. No, empty space is not nothing. There's no empty space, there's no time, there's nothing. By definition it cannot be experienced. Experience simply ends. It's as if nothing ever happened. The universe could just as well have never existed.

The more optimistic theory is that consciousness is in a way immortal. You can only experience being, not not-being. It's kind of how when you go under general anesthesia and then wake up it's quite unlike sleeping. When you've slept you have the sense of time having passed in between. With general anesthesia this is not the case. One moment you feel sleepy and then you wake up in another room. From your subjective experience you never lost consciousness to begin with. Whose to say that something similar doesn't happen with death. Instead of experience ending it just moves elsewhere. It's a pretty difficult concept to explain but it's somewhat similar to the idea of quantum immortality.

[–] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 9 points 1 day ago

My family will be very sad.

[–] baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

When you die, your brain dumps dopamine and you enter a euphoric state in the brief moments before you’re technically dead.

Time is relative for every entity, according to the theory of general relativity. I posit that as you die, your personal timeline extends to infinity. The state of euphoria is therefore permanent to you, the experiencer. It’s not heaven, but for you it might feel like it.

Additionally, every neuron fires as your brain gives out, so during that personal eternity your life is "flashing before your eyes". If this reflection on your life fills you with contentment, that is heaven. If it fills you with shame and regret, that is hell.

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 6 points 1 day ago

I have an opinion on this, but it saps all the fun out of the discussion when the question is asked by someone who gets no enjoyment out of their life. I'd rather you get professional mental health than have a bunch of people on the Internet assure you that death will be the end of your suffering.

[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

You're dead

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 day ago

Sounds like someone elses problem at that point.

[–] palordrolap@fedia.io 6 points 1 day ago

Do you remember what it was like before you were conceived? Like that.

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The game will be over, I will remove the VR headset, and continue living my real life. I’m sure in time the memories will fade.

[–] RobotZap10000@feddit.nl 5 points 1 day ago

You've lived a long life, but a settlement needs your help! Here, I'll mark it on your map.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Whatever it was like before you were born. You return to that, literally nothing to be afraid of

[–] rbn@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 day ago

I think i'll just stop existing at some point. Maybe there'll be some pseudo visual sensations ('light') as I die but other than that I don't expect any kind of 'after life'.

Half of the time I look forward to my death, it doesn't scare me since I don't see the real point of my life

I think we shouldn't be scared of death but still try to enjoy our limited lifetime as much as we can. If you feel depressed continously, I can only advise you to seek help. Life shouldn't be like that. If you have friends or family that you trust, tell them how you feel. In case you don't, that's okay. You may reach out to professional organisations or helplines instead. :)

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 5 points 1 day ago

I believe it's very similar to falling asleep, and you may even tap into a dreamlike state of consciousness depending on your circumstances. Eventually, your self awareness stops and fades into nothingness. What you see if anything at all, and what your perception of time is or how self aware of the situation you are will depend a lot on the circumstances of the death and your individual make up, the same way not everyone dreams the same way or even remembers dreaming at all.

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 day ago

If my partner is still alive, then she would be very sad. Likewise my older siblings. God, I hope my parents aren't alive to see it - that would suck for them. My best bud would also be pretty torn up (we've lived within a few blocks of each other for most of the last three decades, and get together at least once a week). There's also an old ex who if they're still around, I can count on a great eulogy from them. Makes me wish I could stick around just to see that.

Unless it's a particularly horrible death, I don't think anyone would be dangerously sad. I'm insured to the hilt, so there should be enough to go around to cover expenses, including my partner's current level of comfort.

From my perspective, it's likely to be a big nothing (I would be very surprised otherwise). But I've never really put much stock in individual consciousness: sure I may be stuck to this one perspective because of how brains work, so it's the only consciousness I can truly know, but it's not the only one. The others (like other other people) will keep going after this one ends. The biggest changes are going to be in the social and legal dimensions of my former life.

[–] psyklax@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago

Lots of people have my old answer, which is probably correct, that you were dead before you were born. That means living is the unusual state to be in.

I believe in a sort of quantum immortality, having been in many close calls where I saw myself die but because I saw it, I avoided it.

I also had a near death experience once. Lets say I "dreamed" that I saw the big bang in reverse (the big crunch) and then saw it repeat (the big bounce) and I relived my life up until that moment. This time I didn't die, and here I still am. I don't dare test this theory, death terrifies me.

Begs the question, when would I die for real in this system I believe in? Can I die at all? Maybe I am everyone, and it's just one soul stitched across all of time and space.

I don't know. It brings me comfort to believe it. Gives me courage to do the right thing despite danger. A person who does not fear death has control of their destiny.

[–] 11111one11111@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I've died. It's a permanent state of unconsciousness. No thoughts. No dreams. No life flashing before your eyes. Just nothing.

[–] Sergio@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 day ago

But then what? I just stop existing and it’s like I fell asleep?

If you're asking about your cognitive state, it's like a process or event that ends. Like if you roll a ball down a hill and the ball stops bc it's at the bottom of the hill. The ball's still there but the process of the ball rolling is over.

what scares me is if my agony would be slow and painful.

To some people it's helpful if they read up on things like palliative care and hospice care. To other people it makes things worse to think about it, but personally I found it comforting to know that there are options and procedures to handle that.

[–] ___@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

Hopefully the Egg is revealed.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

We get judged and are either accepted into one of the three levels of Heaven or face punishment if we were exceptionally twisted.

[–] z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

If you believe your self, your awareness, your consciousness are manifestations of neurons firing in a brain, then as soon as those stop, you cease to be.

I believe that those neurons are a sort of radio signal, and that the self as I know it is a kind of wave transmitted from some time/place. When the body dies and the brain dies with it, I believe that connection is gone, and that signal is lost, but that the time/place from which the signal originated still exists. This doesn't indicate that I, the self, still am somehow alive or exist in some other way, the specific manifestation of myself as who I an is gone in this case, but I do take some solace in the fact that the signal that propagated the awareness of my own being still goes on.

[–] aaron@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

I think this is probably a dream. Who knows what's on the other side. Animals are really good at experiencing severe pain and forgetting about it. I wouldn't worry about that. Life is a joke, so laugh at it.

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago
[–] tomi000@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I think its like being anesthesized or a high dose of nitrous, consciousness slowly fades away, its a bit trippy, can be scary, and then youre gone. Depends on the circumstances though, some deaths are probably a lot quicker than others and you wouldnt feel a thing.

[–] Spiderwort@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

It's like dreaming (like you do when you go to sleep) except moreso

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We'll be resurrected and face judgement before God, all who have sinned will be found guilty and cast away to hell, except those who have repented and came to Jesus for forgiveness of sins - in which Jesus will have already paid the punishment for.

[–] Tujio@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Imma let you finish, but Neo had the best 'died and resurrected for our sins' arc of all time.