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Children of Time is a 2015 science fiction novel by Adrian Tchaikovsky.

In the distant future, humanity seeks to create new habitats for itself on distant planets, terraforming them and seeding them with life. Dr. Avrana Kern is heading one such project, orbiting the tentatively named "Kern's World", where the plan is to release monkeys le-monke infected with a nanovirus that will accelerate their evolution. Through an act of sabotage from an anti-technology group that has also destroyed much of Earth, the monkeys are never released, and the virus instead infects a species of spider, Portia labiata. The book follows the evolution of the spiders and their eventual civilisation, as well as a remnant of humanity that fled to Kern's World hoping to find paradise.


also children of ruin and children of memory, the sequels, are really good


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[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm so glad I started growing my hair out when I did

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

"I just really like longer hair on guys and really want to try it myself" -my egg ass (to be fair I do still think guys with long hair look real nice)

Now I keep looking at it and it's sooooo weird to think I ever had shorter hair

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[โ€“] KatGirl@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (4 children)

How do I tell my hairstylist that I want this haircut without showing them this image of a dog girl?

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Had a dream I had an avatar to go out in my place to do stuff for me, felt nice since I didn't have to mask so much creature only downside was resisting the urge to bunnyhop everywhere to save time no-copyright

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[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

secretly kind of hoping that Donald Trump will be too busy thining about invading Greenland and/or Canada that he'll be too busy to do anything terrible for trans people

[โ€“] SadArtemis@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

Fingers crossed, and hopefully Canada will be too busy thinking of Trump's impending invasion for the next likely PM (Poilievre) to do the same as well.

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[โ€“] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago

alone with my thoughts for the first time since November because all my podcasts took the week off

[โ€“] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Finally gonna go to my GP today and ask for a referal to a transgender clinic. I'm so excited/nervous I couldn't even sleep.

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[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)

does anyone have tips for a gnome infestation. i tried publicly crucifying one to send a message but they seem to have founded a religion instead

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[โ€“] Kiagz@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

internalized transphobiaEvery time I go outside and see a cis woman my age I become jealous and sad. I feel so inferior to them. They're born with the right body, while I have to spend a huge amount of time, effort and money in order to change mine. I have to be on HRT for the rest of my life, do voice training and go through several major surgeries, and even then there's no guarantee that cis people will perceive me as a woman.

And will I ever feel like a real woman? Even if I reach the point where I fully pass, that won't change the fact that I've spent several decades living as the wrong gender, and that I'll never have periods or the ability to give birth distress

[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

moodWhile feelings of inferiority to cis women passed quickly for me, the sense that I've lost something I can't get back by not having the right childhood or adolesence definitely lingers, and the lack of those "universal" experiences of womanhood sometimes makes me feel like there's this huge gulf between me and the people around me. (even though i logically know they're not universal even among cis women)

I try to cope with the otherness of it by thinking about how stuff like this affects a ton of people. A lot of people lose the opportunity have a "normal" adolesence for all sorts of different reasons, we as trans people aren't alone in this. Tons of cis people aren't able to have babies and don't function "right" biologically. And while I don't think it will ever not hurt it doesn't have to define us.

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[โ€“] Yukiko@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

CW: Depression, dysphoriaI have been so godsdamned depressed the last few days that is stemming from some extreme dysphoria that I've been feeling with. And yes, regardless of after having had top and bottom surgery, I am capable of becoming dysphoric. I don't feel genuine. I feel fake. Without having had those experiences I missed on growing up, I feel that I will always be on the outside looking in regardless of what I do. I always see these ciswomen whose experiences I could never emulate and it just kills me on the inside. Yay. I have a vagina, I have breasts, but I'll never have those experiences. It depresses the hell out of me and it is draining the will to live out of me. I hate it so much. Couple that with feeling of not being capable of fitting in with any trans communities for a multitude of reasons. Further couple that with the crushing depression that's on and off since my divorce and I just fucking hate life right now. yay

[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)

it makes me happy whenever i see capybara in hot springs. they deserve all the love and goodness in the world

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[โ€“] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Just paid my semester's tuition and... I have more money than I thought I would, I've got an entire extra month's rent compared to what I expected and then some more to cover all my books. I'm starting to feel actually kind of okay being independent? A lot of the worry about if I'd be able to be okay is gone now, replaced, admittedly by other worries, but I feel okay about my situation, even if it's not super secure or the most comfortable, its become livable. Especially since the past few weeks finally gave me my first real break in over a year and I was able to rest a little.

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

What I am doing now is not working. I'm going to try and get on diy. I still don't think I can be independent before changes are noticeable but another year without E (or however much time) isn't going to change that. May as well try it and see if it helps.

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spoiler thoughts of suicide I've been feeling hopeless and like I'm going to have to kill myself anyway. It doesn't really matter if I start a timer on moving/coming out. Worst comes to worst I'll have to come out and they'll be disappointed in me or whatever. I can't get out of this by myself so maybe E will help. If not shrug-outta-hecks there really are not that many more options. At least I can die knowing what E feels like. If these mythical mental changes are real or hype. :::

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[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago (4 children)

in an act of unimaginable malice from the gods to make a human existence a cruel joke, they made the world's horniest trans woman with a curse to be perpetually single

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[โ€“] Moss@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

dysmorphiaOh God I reeeeealllly hate the way I look so much. I got a look at my side profile today and I just hate the way I look, I can't believe I appear to other people like this. I have way too much fat on my face, my neck is too wide so my face just looks like a blob. I'm also overweight and just fucking hate the way my body looks

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

Richard and Mortimer was quite good for it's run, I especially like when one half of the titular characters turned themselves into a pickle. Had the series continued perhaps that scallywag Richard could have transformed some more possibly into a woman, they might have finally been happy. Alas with the cancellation by the Woke Council with the show's association with the Ronald McDonald corporation we shall never see this possibility.

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

Someone just called me a nerd and I don't think I can mentally recover from that

[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

every single person who's ever protested the building of new homes because it'll lower house prices should have their house confiscated and given to someone who doesn't suck

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

My checklist for mental health are make sure I'm clean shaven, paint my nails, and finally epilate. If I can do 2/3 I feel fine usually but feeling bleh so might push myself to do the last one. Just gonna procrastinate first and get some reading done or whatev

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[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I try to dress well no matter what I do, (I have low self-confidence, but knowing I look the best I can do helps a ton) but the last couple of days have been so cold that shapeless bundle of cloth have been the only viable option. I hate winter madeline-stare

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[โ€“] khizuo@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago (6 children)

transition goals: to get to the point where i can have long hair again without someone immediately misgendering me

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[โ€“] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

i hate microsoft if you didn't know cw: dysphoriame: searching Microsoft Teams for a message.
Teams: includes "[deadname] (You) - message" in the results, despite my name being changed in the system and legally for 3 months.

yes, thank you microsoft for giving us pronoun flairs, that only me and like one enby in the company even use lol, but could you not deadname me? you are valued at 3.16 trillion USD and you can't amend (or can't be fucked amending) my name within a system you have almost complete control of. sometimes i see my deadname email flicker before being replaced with my new one and i can understand why they might have my old email but why are you storing my deadname???? is my legal name just a display name?? lea-dysphoric

i'm soooo fucking glad microsoft successfully abused their market power to eradicate slack and make us use this steaming pile of bland corpo dogshit. i throw up a little everytime i hear that fucking teams ping, i reaaaally want to quit just because of our dependence on this repugnant company

i know this comes off a bit trivial, i'm privileged to have an office job. but it gives off the same vibe as my birth certificate having "previously known as [deadname]", both constant reminders that i'll never be just me but me who used to be someone else and that shit sucks

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

I'm missing out on formative years by not having an ex by now, all the ex jokes I could be making as a jaded 30 something year old ๐Ÿ˜”

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[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

Boobs are growing again. Also probably more important than size for me is that they're getting a lot rounder and less awkwardly shaped catgirl-heart

[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

Got some neat stuff thrifting

Kinda wish I could post pics because some of the clothes are really cute imo and I actually found stuff that (mostly) fit me

Found some nice gym stuff too, got a pair of fancy tech wear sweatpants that make my legs and butt look good meow-bounce

Got some cute plushies my cats have been enjoying too and a street hockey stick for playing cat hockey in the house and that's been fun

Bless whatever tall/large femme donated the shiny windbreaker and hoodie with the faux fur hood lining and sleeve cuffs, think it might be my favorite dysphoria hoodie now despite it being a little short on the torso and sleeves

Might hem it to a crop top or elbow length sleeves and wear it as a summer night kinda layer later but it's really cute imo in a "sporty goth (queer)" kinda way and I'm kinda in love with it

sicko-fem

[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

sad, misgendering, deadnaming, family shit

call one relative I'm out to on the phone to catch up and vent because she was concerned and knows I've been struggling lately

deadnamed and misgendered like 6 times and talked over repeatedly

I don't know why I bothered tbh

She's "the good one" and the rest of the family would probably be worse if I ever bother to come out to them

I think the best idea is to just work on myself and my transition and maybe someday show up to something like nothing happened and act like they're weird for not recognizing me and then act really confused when they try calling me my deadname

At least I have cats

[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Does it make sense that I'm kind of hoping I've actually been infertile all along? Then I wouldn't have to be responsible about fertility preservation. It would just be a fact of life and nothing anyone can blame me for

[โ€“] Thallo@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago

That makes total sense to me. It basically absolves you from making a major decision

[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

massive volcel violation postingthought #1: "holy shit just 8 months HRT has made my ass look incredible" hyperflush

thought #2: "holy shit just imagine how fucking stunning it will look after about 2 years HRT" panting

[โ€“] amy_jmayday@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago

anxiety, dysphoriahate when i'm waiting for my meds to get delivered, gives me like a creeping undergrowth of anxiety constantly prodding at the back of my brain. i've been diy for long enough now i know they'll get here, i know i'm not gonna run out, but every time i take my meds i'm like compulsively counting pills and it's like there's a blaring countdown playing in my head - " ~~13~~ ~~12~~ ~~11~~ 10 days until your soul gets ripped out again." really gotta get a pcp again, even just dealing with this once every few months is too much.

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Me working at sega"Alright, so new plan we start a new sonic game but we don't remake green hill zone no-copyright my last words before being thrown out a window

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[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Trying to get used to drinking water again after having energy drinks being my primary mode of hydration during the winter holidays. Water kinda sucks doggirl-tears

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[โ€“] kristina@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (2 children)

spoiler drug

THIS DRUNK KNOWS HOW TO REMEMBER TO USE SPOILER TAGS. WHAT IS YOUR EXCUSE

GIVE ME 10 PUSHUPS

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[โ€“] sictransitgloria@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (3 children)

what are good things to do with puppygirls im new to this

[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

give them an xbox controller and they will play video games

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[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 13 points 1 week ago

give a puppygirl a fish and you'll feed her for a day. give a puppygirl a fishing rod and she'll bring it back to you wagging her tail

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[โ€“] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (13 children)

yapping about dysphoria, I don't actually know if this is coherentShaving takes so much work. And as much as I guess it's for me, like, it bugs me that I've been prioritizing self-care, self-reflection, self-exploration essentially since COVID and it hasn't had the desired affect of me becoming more of someone that people naturally want to be friends with.

I thought working on myself would demonstrate value or something, like my classmates at the time would see that and want to help. That's what I did for them, I would help if I thought someone needed it. Maybe I'm overthinking the concept of attracting or manifesting, or whatever. Like, I don't know if I understand what makes people want to stay in touch, I don't think that's an emotion that has been directed towards me. I don't know if I register socially, like I'm not viewed as someone who can be invited out for pizza, or texted,, or whatever.

But I can put zero effort in, go a week without shaving, wear sweats. Or I can moisturize, style my hair, and pick out all kinds of jewelry. I feel as though I'm overlooked, regardless of how I try to present. I just keep wondering at what point I can have, point blank, the conversations I want to have.

I often wish I were a woman, but I also don't think I know a goddamn thing about women, but ALSO know it's not great to be like "women are a separate category that confuses me" internally. So I somehow feel invalid no matter how I approach this.

I think I'll feel this way until a member of the local LGBTQ+ community catches me in a big cartoonish net because I see no way to solve everything about myself on my own. I think I'm at the natural endpoint of being a man, lmao

I feel like I'm caught in some sort of Ouroboros where my problems just keep feeding each other. I wish I could just like, see what happens in the minds of well adjusted people. I wish I could load a save where I already have someone who is gonna notice if I disappear or am not doing well.

I truly feel like if I were able to explain the exact intricacies of what I'm discovering to be a Russian Nesting Doll of trauma to someone, that person would be compelled to help. I keep saying this, but please talk me down if I'm talking crazy. I want to be told that I'm an idiot if these things are stupid. To let me sit in the wrongness for this long is unfair.

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[โ€“] space_owl@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago (11 children)

do any trans people listen to The Front Bottoms bridget-smug

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