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He got me to read the Manifesto and would have hours' long debates with our social-democratic roommate and now this. It's really shaking me up a bit.

He is on the whole defeatist 'nothing will fundamentally shake the imperial machine so might as well pick the wardog with better domestic policies' tip. I want to get through to him but I am getting stuck.

For example:

i also refuse to not vote my conscience but i figured this time its not like doing this abstract process to pick if id prefer -100 points vs -200 points is gonna matter that much if i genuinely believe itll even be slightly better under kamala i might as well

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[-] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 32 points 3 days ago

Met a kid online when I was a teenager who was the first communist I ever knew.
Then he went to college and was literally brainwashed by liberal propaganda.

[-] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 20 points 3 days ago

The conservatives were right.....

[-] Ildsaye@hexbear.net 23 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

The person who first told me to read Mao, which got me into Marxism-Leninism in general, has become totally incoherent during the pandemic. The difference between us is that I have experience participating in organizations and seeing them fail the marginalized up close, and I experienced some of the same relief Hồ Chí Minh described as I took in Marxism Leninism, but my friend's individualist tendencies have not exposed them enough to the fatal downsides of meandering eclecticism. They are now an antivaxxer who sees all public health as draconian, no AES are good enough for them, just sort of stuck at the Chomsky and Foucault despair dead end.

[-] xiaohongshu@hexbear.net 49 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Heh, that’s nothing. My mentor, one of the best Marxist theorists in the country I grew up in, is now a reactionary who spouts right wing conspiracy theories lol. He got me into Marxism some 25 years ago and was one of the most progressive activists back in the days. Also we’re not from a Western country.

I honestly think that failures after failures of left wing movements globally since the 1990s have broken the brains of many who used to be at the forefront of left wing activism. It also coincided with the period of neoliberalism being spread to the Global South in the form of overseas educated professionals returning and joining social democratic/democratic socialist parties en masse and brought Western liberal ideologies into traditional workers parties.

I sense that many here are probably quite new to the whole socialism/communism thing. It’s sometimes discouraging to think that in another 10-20 years, probably half of your comrades would be fighting you on the other side of the struggle.

[-] AssortedBiscuits@hexbear.net 27 points 3 days ago

I sense that many here are probably quite new to the whole socialism/communism thing. It’s sometimes discouraging to think that in another 10-20 years, probably half of your comrades would be fighting you on the other side of the struggle.

This was true for every single revolution (the most tragic example being the Irish Revolution), but as they say: the struggle continues.

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[-] frauddogg@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago

It’s sometimes discouraging to think that in another 10-20 years, probably half of your comrades would be fighting you on the other side of the struggle.

After watching the survivors of the failure of Amerika's civil rights movement and who they align with, I've come to accept that this will be the case until the heat death of the universe. No one is immune to minstrel-ing out for the crackers.

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[-] duderium@hexbear.net 28 points 3 days ago

The trotskyist who helped a lot to radicalize me (I later became an ML thanks to hexbear) got a good job with the teamsters and is now just a standard liberal as far as I can tell.

[-] porcupine@lemmygrad.ml 16 points 3 days ago

trotskyist

a standard liberal

same-picture

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[-] Moss@hexbear.net 29 points 3 days ago

The friend who radicalized me is now a fascist-adjacent EU liberal.

It's depressing as fuck and I honestly don't know why, but at some point it's like he just decided to become a bad person. He was a communist when he was like 14, got me into it, then when he was like 17 he became a piece of shit. Insanely misogynistic, would only talk to women he wanted to have sex with, and just incredibly rude to people he didn't know, even when they were nice people.

Now he's moved to the Netherlands to study EU politics or something, and all I know about him comes from his Instagram posts. He posts ableist shit all the time, he's in love with the EU and he just posted a Ukrainian fascist badge which he owns.

I remember sitting in a park with him when we had just finished school, telling him that I was going to join an ML org. He snorted and called them larpers, to which I pointed out that he didn't do any political activity at all, and I'd rather larpers than nothing. He thought because he read Lacan and smoked weed and was cynical that he was above politics.

It's so depressing. He used to be genuinely empathetic. He was a feminist when every boy his age was sexist, he would always tell people of the evil shit the US does, he genuinely got angry at capitalism. Now he's just a sack of shit

[-] TreadOnMe@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

It's because nobody is anything at 14. It's quite literally politics as aesthetic. Literally never trust teenagers to be consistently principled on anything going into the future, because those principles are purely ideal.

[-] ShimmeringKoi@hexbear.net 51 points 3 days ago

This kind of shit terrifies me to the core because what if I become like that

[-] GaveUp@hexbear.net 47 points 3 days ago

You'll probably become a much calmer and happier person TBH

[-] Kuori@hexbear.net 29 points 3 days ago

perhaps, but you also lose your human soul.

[-] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 27 points 3 days ago

Username checks out

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[-] TerribleHands@hexbear.net 33 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I want to get through to him but I am getting stuck.

Why do you care about how they vote? It literally doesn't matter.

Find it pretty funny how electoralist brainworms have infected even socialist Americans to the point that they'd think convincing someone not to vote is a useful course of action.

Just laugh and ignore him honestly. Or go vote to better maintain a friendship. Or lie about it. Again it simply doesn't matter.

[-] CyborgMarx@hexbear.net 50 points 3 days ago

It's not about whether voting matters or not, it's about watching a supposed comrade fail such an obvious litmus test

If some "leftist" started bragging about voting for Trump or pressuring people to do the same, we'd rightly dogpile that dipshit, it's not the act of voting that's causing the beef, it's who you're voting FOR that leads to these rifts

[-] bubbalu@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago
[-] MaeBorowski@hexbear.net 34 points 3 days ago

Why do you care about how they vote? It literally doesn't matter.

I agree that voting doesn't matter in terms of making a material difference in the social hierarchy because the US is not a democracy. However, who a person votes for (or whether they vote) is an indication of their values, which are in turn an indication of their future behavior, and anyone who votes for the regime that is currently conducting a fucking genocide demonstrates either their ignorance (which it seems OP's friend cannot claim as a so-called socialist) or a fundamental lack of solidarity with those who are being dehumanized, tortured, and murdered, the victims of that genocide. It demonstrates a fundamental lack of solidarity with all oppressed peoples of the world. Just because voting doesn't matter with respect to who wins the election, it sure as hell matters on an interpersonal level.

Find it pretty funny how electoralist brainworms have infected even socialist Americans to the point that they'd think convincing someone not to vote is a useful course of action.

It has next to nothing to do with electoralism as it is only tangentially related to the election itself. Again, it is about a person's position relative to class struggle. If a member of the ruling class were murdering your family and your friend decided to throw in their support to that murderer with the rationalization that that murderer might benefit your friend more than some other murderer, it doesn't matter how inconsequential their support is - it still tells you a great deal about your friend's priorities and interests which don't actually include your dying family or other oppressed people, only themselves.

Or go vote to better maintain a friendship. Or lie about it. Again it simply doesn't matter.

Everything else aside, this is still terrible advice. Lie to your friend about your principles regarding genocide to "better maintain a friendship"? Gross.

Again it simply doesn't matter.

Socialism is not nihilism.

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[-] miz@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

when people show you they don't care about genocide, believe them

[-] REgon@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

Elections don't matter, but who you vote for if you do does matter. It is an indicator of personal values.
If you are aware a candidate is committing a genocide and you are still voting for them... Then that does very much matter.

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[-] glimmer_twin@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

even socialist Americans

“Socialist” Americans are borderline useless to the actual liberation of humanity. 99% of them just want a bigger share of imperial plunder. All the good non-white ones got killed decades ago. The amount of truly principled socialists in the USA is so low as to be a completely irrelevant political force.

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[-] Parzivus@hexbear.net 36 points 3 days ago

I think the other people telling you to cut him off or calling him a fascist are going a little far. "Might as well" isn't exactly a Kamala canvasser, lots of people get alienated in America. The obvious question to ask would be "is the difference big enough to bother voting," and question why his politics have changed.

Ultimately he's your friend and you know him better than anyone on a reddit spinoff forum, and its your call whether to convince him to vote differently or if this should affect your friendship.

Americans are all spineless imperial dogs

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[-] blobjim@hexbear.net 34 points 3 days ago

Voting in American elections is just signaling your fealty to the regime.

Of course I'm still voting so whatever. I like filling bubbles okay.

[-] bubbalu@hexbear.net 29 points 3 days ago

Jonesing for a multiple choice test lol

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[-] EelBolshevikism@hexbear.net 28 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

the whole "everyone who is doing lesser evilism is basically a hitler follower" thing is starting to genuinely piss me off. no these people specifically, like in OP, are not saying "might as well" because they're trying to justify their preference for domestic vs foreign lives. they're saying it because they are still used to a US with absolutely no organized left or worker's power. they don't see themselves as sacrificing anything because they think the left is completely incapable of doing anything in the US and that there is no leftist cause to sacrifice. this isn't the position of a hitlerite, it's the position of a leftist who genuinely thinks no positive systemic change is or is currently possible. i understand getting annoyed at online proselytizing blue MAGA types but implicitly lumping actual comrades who still have misplaced faith in lesser evilism in with them is not a salient analysis of material reality, the leftists voting for KKKopmala because they think collective bargaining is entirely out of reach and every person they know keeps yelling at them to do so are not at all comparable to Blueman Bloodmouth salivating over palestinian death counts

edit: of course it's still extremely bad to be defeatist to the point of being complicit with a genocidal regime, but i do genuinely think the animating force in this case is defeatism rather than pure seflishness, so they're far more redeemable than most types. Of course it's up to OP whether it's worth the time for them to do that

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[-] Angel@hexbear.net 32 points 3 days ago

This reminds me of when I read a post somewhere about someone who met up with the person who convinced them to go vegan at a cafe after not seeing them for years. The person who convinced them to go vegan ordered a latte with dairy in it and revealed that they're an ex-vegan now. OP was so confused and disappointed.

I may be butchering some of the details, but it was something like that.

[-] bubbalu@hexbear.net 31 points 3 days ago

You either die a hero or live long enough to become a villain. It's like old communists like Angela Davis stepping back from overt struggle and letting themselves become fangless 'critics' because they need to retire. Except in this friend's case we are still young and he was never concretely politically active.

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[-] grazing7264@hexbear.net 26 points 3 days ago

Liberals don't understand that nothing will be better under Harris

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[-] TheBroodian@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

Sounds like your friend is enraptured by cpusa

[-] adultswim_antifa@hexbear.net 26 points 3 days ago

Like most Americans, I live in a state where my vote won't matter and I'm keeping my conscience clean. This one is just a bridge way too far for me. I think I would probably reconsider if Rashida Tlaib endorsed Kamala, but I don't think she will or should.

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[-] plinky@hexbear.net 26 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

voting is not politics, reading is not politics, make fun of him. If your state loses by 1 vote, tell him he should have gone with a better argument (like 10k donation to rcs)

P.s. (in the realm of absurdist arguments) there is a higher chance that some hot palestinian lady or mma fighter will make trumpo bomb tel aviv, than that kamala will not listen to some bloodless mormon sicko. That's ignoring euros wouldn't go that far along with trumpo. Domestically she would do jack shit cause of the senate anyway

[-] porcupine@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 3 days ago

‘nothing will fundamentally shake the imperial machine so might as well pick

I hate to be the first person in history to point this out, but your friend's vote doesn't determine who sits in the imperial throne. Your friend's vote is a superficial indicator of personal support for a given aspiring war criminal. The imperial president is appointed by an unelected council of elders chosen by from the two wings of the US bourgeois party.

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[-] glans@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

the reason you can't provide a counter argument is that his position is completely incoherent. Not saying that just cause I disagree either. You posted 1 sentence that has 4 or 5 different thoughts that are irrelevant or contradictory to each other. Maybe the reason he likes kamala is they are on the same wave length in terms of cognitive context?

kamala-coconut-tree

But seriously I don't know if logic is the name of the game here. If you are going to try to reciprocate the gift of communism and pull him out of the pit, I wonder if checking for emotional salience might help. I would ask who or what has changed his mind? There could be a relationship: with a person, group, identity, even a parasocial relationship or other indirect influence, that has contributed to this. Or has his relationship to his context changed? Has he discovered a new/latent class allegiance? One of the various trains of thought mentioned is "this time its not like doing this abstract process". What the heck has changed to make it concrete/direct now? Nothing has changed in the system to make it more tangible. If something's different, it's him.

I'm also curious about the variation between the post title and the body. The latter is his weak ass attempt to justify his own behavior which is one thing. But why does he want you to do the same so badly? Surely he knows "might as well" isn't a compelling argument for anything. I won't leave my house for "might as well". Might be downplaying his own commitment to avoid cringe. Or maybe he really cares what you think and wants you to endorse his behavior. Or he has adopted a new theory of change that involves each person getting one other person to vote. In any case, if you can draw that out, it would be clarifying for you both.

I personally don't see the fascism inherent in this small amount of information that others are pointing to. I have heard some almost-compelling arguments made on the issue of abortion alone. I can imagine if I was a different person, with different experiences, and less stubborn, I could be swayed if it came from the right source. We are all influenced by those around us. Some people are really easily influenced.

To inquire in the opposite direction, I might ask him what would convince him to change his mind. Perhaps leading in the direction of a viable political organization to join and act with. Evidence of class power. Instead of focusing on his current trajectory, imagine a different one. A few minutes of world building to get out of your heads.. Imagine a left that wasn't in utter disarray, would you still be making the same argument? If not, why? Because there would be hope! What would it look like? Now is that what the democratic party looks like? Is that what it feels like?

At the end of the day, there are some lessons that can only really be understood and internalized through struggle. You can learn in 30 minutes of experience things you can't learn in 30 years of reading and discussion. Has he done anything communist or was it more of a talking thing? If not, he should.

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