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[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 233 points 11 months ago (6 children)

Guys who refuse to wash their arse because it’s “gay”.

The sheer amount of self-hatred, insecurity and homophobia caused by toxic masculinity and shitty upbringings is astounding that you’d rather have swamp ass than be worried you’re gay.

[–] kux@kbin.social 70 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Not saying it doesn't happen but I've seen this said a few times now, and have never heard of anyone who actually refuses to clean their arse. Have I just lived a sheltered life or what?

[–] thawed_caveman@lemmy.world 47 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The internet can amplify incredibly marginal phenomenons. Like, how many incels can there possibly be? Yet you hear about them all the time

[–] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 22 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You actually have this conversation with people regularly?

[–] PR3CiSiON@lemmy.world 23 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] sanguinepar@lemmy.world 21 points 11 months ago

Also good at the end of a job interview, and they ask if you've any questions.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 22 points 11 months ago

Proof homophobes are full of shit.

[–] iAmTheTot@kbin.social 16 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Have you actually seen this? Like, do you have a first hand account?

[–] BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 101 points 11 months ago

I did. I was talking to some guys and somehow my bidet came up and everyone found it pretty amusing and "gay". I said something like: well imagine you accidentally touch dogshit or something and then wipe it off with a piece of paper and go: well that's good enough until my next shower.
One guy said: what do you mean, next shower? And i said, that's your next opportunity to clean your ass with water and soap. Where everyone seems to agree that was also for gays.
It's extra funny to me that in a previous conversation one of the guys said his girlfriend hates giving head. I wonder why mr. Poopy butthole.

[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 49 points 11 months ago (2 children)

If you search for “boyfriend refuses to wash ass reddit” on Google there are plenty of stories for you to eat your dinner over.

[–] theKalash@feddit.ch 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Well it must be true if it's on reddit.

[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 34 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

lol actually just look. Literally tens-hundreds of stories. It’s not a global conspiracy or group false memory. I get the Reddit hate but that’s just silly.

Edit: some of you struggle. Y’all understand that I can lie about a personal experience much more easily than I could lie about the combined hundreds of experiences of mutually individual people on the internet. How is it that until I’ve personally experienced it it must be false? Real cream of the crop with you lot.

[–] iAmTheTot@kbin.social -1 points 11 months ago

If I wanted to read reddit, I wouldn't be on kbin. And I was asking if they, specifically, had a first hand account.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago

Sounds like he enjoyed the way it felt and that scared him.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

How does this even come up in conversation, like what's the context? Do they not wipe either?

[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 37 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It’s usually partners complaining that they stink because they don’t wash themselves properly.

Some guys openly just admit it because they just don’t realise that it’s not normal. So fearful that they won’t put their hand anywhere near their own ass.

[–] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

I sleep naked. My sheets would be so very rank.

[–] BlueAlienSmut@lemmy.world -3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

An ex of mine refused to wipe and would shower after every poop, claiming tp was ineffective, BUT WOULD ALSO refuse to purchase a bidet; the toxic masculinity here was thinking he was outsmarting us all while also contaminating every shower he had ever used

[–] Socsa@sh.itjust.works 5 points 11 months ago

Washing your ass isn't contaminating the shower, that's almost as bizarre as thinking using tp makes you gay.

[–] Maalus@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Washing your ass under the shower doesn't "contaminate" it. Sure, use toilet paper first, then go wash yourself. But you would be surprised how much shit (literally) is in the air. It's everywhere, even on your toothbrush.