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[–] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 1 day ago (15 children)

I hope I'm doing this right, sorry if I'm not

spoilerSo my egg cracked about a week ago, my partner has been really supportive and I am so much more emotionally available, which is obviously great. Though 20 years of pent-up stuff has me crying every time I think of how greatful I am. I'm posting because I want to get used to talking about being trans since I definitely have a bunch of internalised transphobia (yay...) and I think talking about it will help normalize it for me.

I do have a few supportive friends that I want to tell, but it still feels kind of cringe..... So if anyone could, I would be so happy to have someone ask a few questions.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago (8 children)

ask a few questions or answer a few questions?

[–] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 23 hours ago (7 children)

Sorry I meant ask me a few questions. I don't really know tbh lol. I'm just trying to find a productive way to work through my anxieties.

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For example just saying I want to use she/her pronouns is hard even though its true. I've been taking baby-steps towards presenting more femme, pushing myself up to and slightly past my comfort zone but in safe spaces.

I'm a tired millennial and really don't want to keep waiting until someone finds out or I'm 100% ready. I have too much else to do. I do have an appointment with a therapist, but I don't want to just wait until then to try and work through my stuff

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 3 points 15 hours ago

I don’t really know tbh lol. I’m just trying to find a productive way to work through my anxieties.

Makes sense to me. When I came out to my brother, I'm glad he asked pushed me to express myself more. Not sure what you want questions about though.

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For example just saying I want to use she/her pronouns is hard even though its true. I’ve been taking baby-steps towards presenting more femme, pushing myself up to and slightly past my comfort zone but in safe spaces.

I’m a tired millennial and really don’t want to keep waiting until someone finds out or I’m 100% ready. I have too much else to do. I do have an appointment with a therapist, but I don’t want to just wait until then to try and work through my stuff

Its hard changing when you are so used to hiding things, not just from others, but primarily yourself. So many coping mechanism unconsciously formed. I can't provide much help since I've been taking things far slower than I'd recommend to anyone.

What are the things you are feeling most anxious about? Coming out to specific people? General treatment by public? Facing your own thoughts? Figuring out what you want?

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