hello ❤️
my son is a senior in high school and will be attending prom with his boyfriend in about 3 months. he hasn't decided what exactly he's going to wear, but just in case it's a tux or a suit, I'm trying to get my ducks in a row because idk where to even begin. 🤦
searching "rent a tux near me" gets me all kinds of cis-man focused stuff, adding "trans man" onto the end didn't get better results. I'm sure there are all kinds of considerations to keep in mind, but idk the first thing about getting a tux for anyone at all, let alone a person with a different body shape than Average Dude.
I might be over-complicating this and worrying too much (haha me? 😅🙃 never!) please let me know if that's the case. it would be a huge relief!
I know we need to start with measurements; I'm fairly confident about taking them, since I've previously successfully measured him, my husband, and myself.
after that, I'm totally lost. his body shape is becoming more blocky and less curvy, but he's still got a little bit of hip that seems like it might be difficult to fit in suit pants. he has binders that he finds comfortable, so I think shirts and jackets might not be too difficult to fit, but heat might be an issue? he gets grumpy when he's too hot, just like his mom 🥰
we live in rural Ohio, so I don't feel comfortable taking him to a random rental place; most of the time, people are nice to us, but I don't want to risk it for prom. we can drive about 2 hours to get to Columbus, OH, which has a pretty large queer community and probably has a safer place to go for fitting than anywhere closer.
all of your thoughts, directions, suggestions, advice, encouragement, reprimands, and jokes are welcome 
thank you.
If heat is an issue, then you should really consider the material it’s made out of. Linen or cotton tend to be the coolest but if you don’t like the aesthetics of them a lightweight merino wool one also does a great job at regulating temperature. Just stay with natural fibres.
And with sizes, well... trans people tend to have problems with standardized clothing because our bodies are just not standard. I have 3 different sizes across my shoulders, waist and hips. Thus I have to make compromises with clothes that cover more than one of these areas. And standardized suits, which cover the whole body, are already a problem for cis men. So I would guess that your son is likely to run into problems as well.
But the good news is: Nobody really gives a shit if a teenage boy has an ill-fitting suit. Mine was too big for me and I was fine. On the other hand, if he really wants a well-fitted suit then there are definitely options. One of my relatives is a cis man with REALLY big hips and he manages just fine. It just takes a lot longer to find the right stuff and you might need to buy one and have it altered. Or you get a custom one, but that will be pricy.
linen/cotton might rule out a tux, depending on how sartorially minded he is—traditionally it's wool, silk, velvet, etc.
Velvet is commonly made out of cotton or a linen-blend, it’s just a type of fabric. But velvet tuxedos tend to be very cheesy. So yeah, they’re probably ruled out then.
Honestly never stopped to consider what velvet was when you get down to it
Perfect for prom then!