Funny how I'm sitting in a waiting room for my mental health appointment, reading this.
Stay strong people.
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Funny how I'm sitting in a waiting room for my mental health appointment, reading this.
Stay strong people.
Thank you for this post. I needed to cry a little bit and reading this post helped me let all of that out.
Feeling much better 🫂
I unfortunately know how hard crying can be for guys. I'm so sorry 🫂
Stay strong! ❤️
Hard to be depressed when we are absolutely dominating the leaderboard for these stats. Oorah fellas! 💪

(But don't actually)
It's the time of year where most of the anniversaries of the worst days of my life happen basically back to back.
December through the first week of January are the hardest. In those 5 weeks there's 7 anniversaries. Not to mention not being welcome at any family gathering anymore since I was outed as being queer.
Couple that with a hearty unhealthy dose of survivors guilt (from a couple of those anniversaries) and you get a perfect storm every year.
I'm much better than I used to be but it's still not easy.
Hey, I get it. I have a very similar sort of deal going on around July and September personally...
It really isnt easy... I look back at the art I was making before and after the 3-year series of events and its just... Wow. I wish I could be like me 3 years ago...
You're seen. And I know nothing about you beyond this comment, but I personally feel a sense of "we're in this together!" that eases my mind, and I hope this comment has done the same for you.
Love your way <3
Patriarchy hurts men too.
Famously, the first major legal win for feminism was a man getting custody of his child.
Its sad that so many men have swallowed the propaganda that feminism is somehow hurting them.
Patriarchy absolutely hurts men as well and I don't want to take away from your comment. I fully support it. And I fully support men revolting against the patriarchy and living how they want to live without the pressure to conform.
The first major legal win for feminism was about a mother being granted custody because before 1839, fathers were automatically granted custody of their children.
The Custody of Infants Act of 1839 is often seen as the first feminist legislative victory in a long campaign to reform English marriage laws (Shanley 17, Chase and Levenson 40). While legal scholars have noted instances when a father’s total control over his legitimate children had been limited by judicial rulings prior to 1839 (Abramowicz 1345), the 1839 Act stands as the first major reform to recognize the rights of mothers. The important role played by Caroline Norton in the passage of the Act is also key to recognizing the law as a feminist triumph (Shanley 17).
Prior to the 1839 Custody of Infants Act, a father had a right to his legitimate children and was automatically granted custody if he and his wife separated for any reason (Bailey 393). Most fathers granted custody or access to the children’s mothers because it was considered ungentlemanly to deny mothers the opportunity to be with their children. Judges could also require a father to grant access or custody to the mother in circumstances in which the children’s welfare would be in jeopardy if they were left with their father. (Bailey 394)
The patriarchy is the enemy of men and women alike.
patriarchy hates everyone, it just hates women 0.1% more.
It’s even the little things. I am only now learning how to properly take care of my skin because… it’s just not something men are generally taught is important/how to do (in British culture, at least)
If I'm honest for a sec, I've been struggling lately.
Work has been super intense and nothing I can do ever feels like it's enough.
Deep down, I know it's not a me problem, hell, I'm the best damn person for this particular task, it's just... a lot. That also means I'll have to lead this thing for a month, away from home this time.
People see how I fix things and think it's easy for me.
It's not. I'm just used to making shit work at the cost of my own self.
I'm tired of paying that toll and I don't know how much longer I can keep it together.
I recognize this present overwork-dragon facing me, I've been down this road before and I know how wholly it can consume me. Not even in a vore way either.
Being away also means there's nobody to fuck my brains out or use me as a toy to take my mind off this thing.
Still, silver linings... this time I'm lucky enough to have my soul-friend-bestie along.
It doesn't make it less bullshit, but at least we're going insane together.
Anyway, idk why I'm dumping a wall of text here.
Gotta get back to it... peace.
Don't feel bad about sharing your feelings. Never do!
I'm sorry you're struggling like that. I know how rough things can be, but not like this. I'm sorry...
I'm glad you're still here with us. And I'm glad you have such a good friend in your life 🫂
I can't really offer much, but if you'd like to talk about any of this stuff, I'm here.
Please don't give up! You're not alone in this 🩷
Take my plus one upvote and gratitude. It is vital we are reminded we have feelings and hardships just as anyone else
Thank you for posting about this. This both helps men and helps women by alleviating some of the "BuT wHeN iS mEnS day" chuds.
Last year's 19th November was shit. I hope Lemmy can give us a better men's day this year.
Thanks for this. I opened this in the Uber to my psych appointment funny enough. Hoping she'll let me switch my meds.
I lost my dad to sucicide when I was younger, it's a deamon that trickles down and has knocked at the door at multiple points in my life. But I think knowing what happens after is what has helped me embrace life as much as I have. The sun will always rise tommorrow
I'm just going to share this here, and it's entirely anecdotal.
I'll put it behind a drop down so read it of your own volition.
spoiler
Somehow despite being quite the introvert I have somehow managed to encounter numerous men who have been horrifically abused by the women in their life, myself included. For example one young lad who regularly slept with his own mother, a grandmother who did wildly inappropriate things with her grandkids (hiding candy in her clothing...)
I lived with emotional abuse from my mother, and a creepy cougar teacher who was far to interested in a younger me.
Later in life, I had a small group of friends and out of the 4 of them, all 4 had been out right sexually assaulted.
One guy was roofied at a club by a wannabe dominatrix who didn't understand BDSM, woke up in her bed chained up.
Another woke up to an older female cousin raping him while he was sleeping on a couch.
Then there was the guy who worked in bars, hen parties were a nightmare and plenty of women would get handsy and see nothing wrong with it.
There's more but I don't remember right now, and I don't want to dig it out.
So in summary.. why am I mentioning this here?
It's not to bash anyone, but rather to suggest that just like many guys are told to watch their brothers for abusive behaviour we should encourage women to be aware of the kind of abuse that other women can dish out and intervene if possible.
Also, if you do try to engage with a guy about his emotional state, do consider that it is extremely common for men to have in the past opened up to a partner only to have it weaponised against him thus making him hyper vigilant about doing so again.
You can call this "pretentious concern", you can call me mean and two-faced, I don't care...I care about men. And even though I've said some horrible stuff, I love and care about them.
So please, reach out. I won't judge you, no matter what ❤️
Why did I start sobbing? Everything is fine
🫂
Thank you for your kindness 🙏🙏 on average, men go their entire lives without a single compliment and are expected to silently carry burdens and never show a moment of sensitivity or “weakness”.
Fuck I didn't expect to tear up browsing Lemmy for memes but here we are