Ask Lemmy

A girl canceled a date once because I'm not on Facebook or anything else. (I asked her out in person).

She combed through socials as a kind of background check and interpreted my absence as suspicious. Modern problems.

In her introduction she made it a point to mention that she’s an INTP and wanted to know what type I was. I simply said that those types of personality tests aren’t really my thing. I got a reply back, something to the effect of “Well thanks for showing up front what a toxic and hateful human being you are!”

So yeah guys, sorry about being so toxic and hateful for not being into personality tests.

i have a couple of women on dating apps who repeatedly match me then accusing me of being someone else and threaten to report me. I block them.

also lots of them IRL and on dating apps refuse to interact with me further once they find out where I grew up or that my parents aren't educated. because that means i'm not from a 'good family'. I also find this totally insane... but I guess it's fairly normal for people to judge you based on your parents/hometown?

I will say the weirdest fight I ever got in in a relationship/dating was a Russian woman who lost it on me because I eat breakfast cereal. She went on this rant about how cereal/granola is for children and grown men can only eat toast, fruit, or eggs/sausage breakfast. She was so weird, but a every Russian woman I have dated has really backwards ideas about gender roles and they also disapproved of my lack of heavy drinking.

got a match and first question was if I was an EU citizen, I am, but decided to reply "no" just for fun. Then she asked me if I was here legally and on the path of citizenship, I replied yes just to see where this was going.

"alright, contact me again when you're an EU citizen"

Vegan kinkster unmatching people with a leather kink.

I have no social media and that's a red flag apparently

In another life I matched with this girl, picked her up, no joke the first thing she said to me in person after just meeting her was that she loved me. I just picked her up and saw her for the first time. I dropped her off right there. I didnt use it much after that so I never got to shine and have someone unmatch me.

I couldn't take off next month and fly to another continent

it was a couple. we vibed, i stayed over one night at their house, got drunk at their bar and set a bunch of alarms on their Google nest. it was really nice to experience something that was entirely my fault

ive never used one but I knew a guy who did not like who killed roger rabbit because it was to unrealistic.

I'm so glad I got married before the dating apps became the norm.

I unmatched a woman IRL face-to-face because she told me (in one unbroken monologue) that she slept with a co-worker in Sydney while she was visiting a regional office and that she attends SLAA meetings and that was her first slip in 3 months and that she's also a psychic medium and she's building a website to list her mediumship services, and she is obsessed with marvel movies. Then she asked me to go get a coffee with her

No one part of this is too much of a red flag, but all of it together, and she knows I'm good with tech and can build a website with my eyes closed, I probably would have ended up doing a bunch of web work for free. Plus I really don't think that medium people are talking with the dead, at best it's a hallucination or a lie, at worst it's a trickster entity that should not be interacted with under any circumstance.

So I just peaced out and I feel like I made a good choice.

She told me that her favorite comedian was Jeff Dunham and that she didn’t like reading.

Because I was in the Navy at the time. Not wanting to date someone in the military isn't a bad thing, I get that. But I talked about it in my profile and had several pictures of me on the ship in uniform. Then weird part was that when we met for our first date and it came up in conversation she acted like I had kept it secret. Really fucking weird.

About 3 lines in back and forth the girl said "by the way, I don't and won't ever give head". I said thats kind of a deal breaker and she unmatched me.

This post is making me so beyond grateful that I never had to do online dating, and never ever will, I’d rather die a lonely old spinster than do online dating.

I have had women match with me just to reject me in DMs.

unmatched because i had a verified check mark and they didn't know how to get one (neither did i)