Be excellent to each other.
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and Party On, dude.
Leave it better than you found it
"Try anything at least once" be it food or an experience you don't know until you try. You learn about the world, about others and most importantly about yourself.
Have you ever went skydiving? Not a gotcha, just actually curious. I kinda want to.
Did enough of that in the army my knees put that in the category of did a bunch of times and dont ever want to do it again. Jumping at night is the worst. I also hated packing my chute the most.
My cousin has a similar one, but it’s “try anything twice”. Often times your first experience in something may be rough but the second go around can be significantly better. Or in the case of food, sometimes the first time you tried it was from someone who didn’t know how to do the dish justice, or bad ingredients put into it.
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My grandfather (who died well before my time), but I picked up the saying from my mum;
"Pray to God, but row to shore"
My sister gave me the following to bring me up from the depths of despair, and to bring me back to earth before I make an Icarus of myself:
"This too shall pass"
1: It’s weird to not be weird
2: Hate only the hateful
3: Be intolerant of intolerance
"I pretended to be the person I wanted to be until I became that person, or he became me." Attributed to Cary Grant. On the days I wake up feeling miles away from the person I want to be, I can pretend.
Don't count your drugs over the toilet.
“Your rights end where another’s begin.”
A nicely summarized mantra to push back on the paradox of tolerance. Many people use free speech, free market, etc, as an excuse to impede others, and this is my response to that.
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The golden rule. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
What about: "you have food stuck in your teeth"?
"if you comment on someone's appearance and it would take them more than 5min to fix, you're an asshole. If it would take less than that, you're helping them."
Expect it to get worse. Either I'm wrong and pleasantly surprised or I get to be right as a consolation prize. Also encourages me to plan ahead so when things go bad, I don't spend as much time mid-crisis figuring out what to do.
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If you're gonna be stupid, be smart about it.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
"Anything for a weird life."
Said by Zaphod Beeblebrox in the original radio version of The Hitch-Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy in response to being led by another character into the zany peril of the moment.
A relationship can only work if all parties are getting out of it what they need.
f you plan for the worst, all surprises are pleasant
treat people how THEY want to be treated. don't treat people how YOU want to be treated, cuz you aren't the same as everyone else.
golden rule is trash.
The golden rule is a oversimplification of Kants categorical imperative which is
"Act only according to that maxim whereby you can at the same time will that it should become a universal law."
So it actually accounts for people being different by saying it has to be applicable to everyone (universal law).
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"Don't be a cunt"
Dont do anything that you would be afraid to explain to the paramedics.
the serenity prayer (or mantra, for the non-religious)
The cure to all of life's problems is salt water: sweat, tears, or the sea.
... And sauerkraut (brine solution) for healthy gut, too. This tracks!
If you encounter a problem once fix it. If you encounter it twice fix it but note it might be recurring. If you encounter it thrice consider a permanent solution.
Nothing more permanent than a temporary fix.
If the women didn't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy
"Everything that can go wrong, will go wrong"
Made quite a few enemies and traumas by being paranoid af.
Other ones I have:
-egos trip. But the humble doesn’t stumble.
-if you’re not talking income, then walking outs the outcome
-talk to me nice. Or don’t talk to me twice.
-Minor setback for a major get back
-the reasons change like seasons change.
Motivation is not required
As a disabled person who’s spent most of her life in abusive relationships if I waited for motivation to get things done I’d be long since dead
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"It's better to fart into the toilet than to shit into your pants."
One of my own making after a particularly bad gut bug.
Can't never did anything
If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is
"Ever Tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett
Live every week like it's shark week.
"Sense and honor your intuition; it always has your best interest at heart." ~ Unknown
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