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i am middle aged man, i experienced life since before even computer and smartphone is a thing like today.

back then, i feel that life is much easier, what i mean easier is more simple life, less competition, less stress, fresh environment, and more happiness despite lack of technology.

but right now, everything is just too complicated despite of power of tech, internet, smartphone, and AI helps, i feel that life is much harder right now, what i mean is like competition is everywhere, stressful everyday, crowded city, and i easily depressed these days.

is it just me or everyone else can relate to what happens right now?

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[–] AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 1 points 10 minutes ago

It's really hard to tell what was just younger kids not being exposed to the world vs. things actually getting worse. I was a kid during '08, and things didn't really change for me at home cuz my family was always very frugal, especially my dad.

Climate change has empirically gotten worse tho. Inflation, enshitification, food quality, all of it SEEMS worse but it's hard to quantify it you know?

[–] VeldtSchema@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 hour ago

OP, it’s also going to sound like a cliche, but touch grass. The cancer-like tech companies want to replace your sense of community so that they have more power over you. F them, join a local group, and find yourself feeling more powerful when you have a real community behind you.

[–] VelvetPinkOtter123@lemmy.world 1 points 26 minutes ago

Also middle aged and my only real issue is how stupid everyone is

They don't read. They don't research. They don't question... not in a "conspiracy theory" way, but they don't see a headline and go, "is that true?"

They're morons that feed off negativity.

They'll post an article about something terrible but then I'll look it up, find out it's bullshit, and then post the data that shows it's bullshit and instead of everybody being like, "oh thank God, I was worried there for a second" they go, "Fuck you. Obviously everything is shitty and how dare you even try to point out that it's not"

What the fuck is wrong with people these days?

[–] gary_host_laptop@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 hours ago

yes, join your local communist party

[–] furrowsofar@beehaw.org 7 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

Wealth divide is worse. We are also in a time of change geopolitically. Also in a time where powerful actors benefit from creating controversy including media, social medial, political, and geopolitical. We live in interesting times.

[–] HamsterRage@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Describe a time of geopolitical non-change please.

[–] Ibuthyr@feddit.org 1 points 2 hours ago

Well, before smartphones people didn't get bombarded with bad news all the time. The changes were there but we hardly noticed them. Now they're being shoved in our schnozes to instill fear and push us all to the far right.

[–] geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

Life isn't that bad yet but owning things is starting to become impossible. You used to buy and own things now you are more and more only allowed to rent them. Be it movies, video games or your house.

[–] distal@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 hours ago

Marx and Engels predicted that economies would become dominated by rentiers

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 10 points 5 hours ago

I think about it this way.

In 1995 I could leave the house with nothing in my pocket except $10.00 and have a great day. Ride the bus with cash, get food with cash, buy stuff with cash. If I needed a ride there were free phones to car services in most stores.

Today, if I go out the door I need cash, a credit card, and a phone.

[–] KssioAug@piefed.zip 3 points 4 hours ago

I believe it's a mix. Both 'nostalgia goggles' and straight up facts.

What I mean is that, when we were kids or teenagers we didn't see things the same way our parents did. They were the ones struggling, and we were pretty much just playing around and complaining of mundane stuff. So it's hard to tell how much 'easier' life was back then... we were just young.

But at the same time I do completely agree that the advancement of technology and growth of USA giant corporations really fucked a lot of things up badly. While back in the day we couldn't find answers or information to everything so easily, we lived a more 'natural' life, where everyone actually expected things to take a while to happen: you had to wake up, literally read the news if you wanted, take the car or bus to the job, and just then you started working, and while working you had to do some research and so on.

Nowadays things either happen immediately or you're tagged as lazy or something like it. You wake up with a lot of e-mails or message notifications on your smartphone, and people expect you to answer these demands ASAP. It's not expected anymore that we do each thing in it's own time anymore, and the volume of work is much bigger because you're expected to solve problems much faster. This volume of demand and unrealistic expectations definitely generate stress and anxiety, which are huge health issues nowadays.

And the fact that we now realize, thanks to the amount and speed of information we have today, how the industry leads are fucking everyone up without consequences doesn't help in the slightest, since it leads to a feeling of being powerless and exploited.

[–] Switorik@sh.itjust.works 82 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Bills went up, pay did not keep up.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 21 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

This is true, but It's not just that. There is friction built into everything, designed to squeeze as much as possible out of us.

[–] Brimstone@lemmy.ml 3 points 4 hours ago

Yeah companies used to pretend to please customers and now they don’t even pretend.

The staff are minimum wage and don’t care because it’s a big corporation so you can’t get good service.

The price is high because the shareholders must be kept happy so you pay over the OSA Odds.

Corners were cut in several places making the product to please the shareholders too and the workers manufacturing got minimum wage in the factory wherever it was located and have zero interest in making good products as a result.

Basically capitalism ate itself

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 25 points 16 hours ago

here i am still unable to buy a house or car

[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 54 points 16 hours ago (7 children)

There's a whole lot of awful going on.

My dad used to rant about how government should be run like a business, no, no dad, it really, really should not. Businesses do not care about people, businesses don't want anything but money, your money, and they will twist, turn, manipulate, lobby, and flat out steal or harm people to get it.

So the next time you call 311, the non emergency police line, or God forbid 911 remember, your call is very important to us, a representative will be with you shortly. If you'd like to take a brief survey after the call just stay on the line. If you'd like to talk to our chat bot Sally just say, hey Sally!

[–] thanksforreading@lemmy.ml 3 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

My dad used to rant about how government should be run like a business, no, no dad,

The last thing you hear: Sorry but your citizen contract has been revoked in order to meet our 3rd quarter profit target. You have been terminated!

[–] jtrek@startrek.website 12 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

My dad used to rant about how government should be run like a business,

Anyone who sincerely believes that is too fucking ignorant and or stupid to be taken seriously. They're a hazard to themselves and their polity.

[–] lemmylump@lemmy.world 17 points 15 hours ago

He's dead so you can relax

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[–] Today@lemmy.world 12 points 13 hours ago

All of the things that were supposed to help us by making our lives easier really helped them and now our lives are harder. I don't see an end to that.

[–] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 43 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

im putting groceries on credit. i had a great credit score till this year, i havent even tried making payments on certain things including ER bills. only a matter of time before im bankrupt, and i am also disabled. i have given up on having a future and I'm only 32.

[–] distal@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 hours ago

Mid twenties here, same situation. My bank closed my accounts lol

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 23 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (8 children)

It’s both: it’s just you and it’s everyone else. In the modern age of relatively fast technological development, people tend to get overwhelmed by change in their later years. But also things are getting worse for almost everyone[^1] under late-stage capitalism.

[^1]: Almost everyone living under capitalism, that is. In China most people’s lives have been getting easier.

[–] thanksforreading@lemmy.ml 0 points 5 hours ago

If you talk to Chinese they have the same complaints though.

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[–] myszka@lemmy.ml 12 points 15 hours ago

I think this is due to increased alienation. We've become more isolated and distanced from one another and, more importantly, more distanced from our own creative self. This is what happens when production is largely automated but humans are still involved - we turn into small faceless gears in a big mechanism.

[–] o0evillusion0o@sh.itjust.works -4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Yep. It's all over for humanity. Enjoy whatever you can before it all goes up in flames.

[–] distal@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 hours ago

This mindset isn't really conducive to meeting your needs.

[–] bigmclargehuge@lemmy.zip 13 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

You're correct OP. I think the difficulty of modern times is multifaceted. A lot of other comments here speak to various parts of it these days, but I want to add one I've noticed related to this issue.

Pre mid-2000's, technology worked for us. If you look at the hayday of tech (1980 thru early 2000's), it seemed like every tech innovation was aimed at the consumer. The tech got better and we did too. The tech worked for us.

Nowadays (and I think I can see all this turning course around the time of the 2008 collapse), tech is not for us. The consumer has become the product, and tech is built around working through us instead of for us. Manipulating us instead of helping us. It sucks.

I have no doubt that if the washing machine was invented today instead of like ~100 years ago, they would be the size of car, and only installed in corporate offices. You'd have to go to an office to get your clothes washed. Consumer-level washers wouldn't be a thing. They'd tie it to work like healthcare. It seems like no one is interested in making quality consumer devices. The consumer devices we do have are designed to become obsolete quickly without any repairability, so you buy another fast (i.e. all modern cars).

So yea, I think when you add this on top of everything else, it help explains what is amiss with life today. My 2c

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 8 points 16 hours ago

you are totally correct, it feels like tech is no longer for us, we are the product and we are forced to buy stuff with planned obsolescence, also they are getting more expensive.

[–] burgleyerturts@lemmy.world 12 points 16 hours ago

Good time to unplug.

[–] o_d@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 16 hours ago

Technology has enabled drastic increases to efficiency. Capitalism ensures that the gains of which are expropriated away from the working class and into the hands of the capitalists. Instead of reduced hours, increased vacation time, and higher pay, we're working longer, taking less time off, and earning less.

[–] BonsaiBoo@lemmy.world 11 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Yep. The Amish were right.

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 14 points 14 hours ago (5 children)

the socialists are right.

it's not about technology, it's about capitalism.

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[–] monovergent@lemmy.ml 8 points 16 hours ago

They like to say we are doing better than ever because the the numbers and technology are great. Yeah, I might not be starving, but what's the dignity in a rising tide of techno-feudalism and serfdom? And the technology that, in another society, could have freed us from long hours is instead being used by the ruling class to further exploit us.

[–] halfpipe@hexbear.net 8 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

It's basically impossible to go out and relax or have any kind of good time when you know you're probably being filmed from 20 different angles throughout the night, and the cost of any kind of faux pas is that you might get video uploaded to make you a laughing-stock.... and that was before the millions of AI surveillance cameras that have like a ~2% chance to hallucinate imaginary crimes and file automatic police reports went up.

But yeah, everything is also really fucking expensive now.

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[–] Drewfro66@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I think a lot of it comes down to paperwork burden. It used to be if you were entitled to something there was an office you could sit down in and they had a responsibility to get you want you needed before you left. Now, they send you home with a link to a webpage that doesn't work and a million online forms that time out that you have to fill in perfectly or they get auto-rejected.

I'm dealing with this with a work friend who's trying to apply for medical leave with hostile management. If you can't count on your immediate boss getting you the paperwork you need in a timely manner without throwing a fit because you're "trying to get out of work", it just becomes a million times harder to live a normal life. It used to be that there was a chair somewhere you sat in and could reasonably expect your problems to be solved by the time you stood up again.

[–] I_Voxgaard@hexbear.net 4 points 11 hours ago

Yes the cult of individualism has led to everything that isn't profitable being "self-service"

[–] dan1101@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

I feel the same way, so many things are objectively worse. Cost of living up, government services and safety nets going away, taxpayer money funneled to billionaires, scammers, and wars. Technology is getting more expensive and more invasive. Everything is a scam or a trick now even from previously reputable businesses. The environment is being ravaged and natural resources are being used up and none of the big players doing most of the pollution care, they only care about revenue. Ethics and accountability are down, grift and cruelty are up.

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