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You make $65,000 (USD 🤢) in a dead end career doing nothing but showing up sometimes. Guaranteed employment without change in intensity or salary until retirement in 15 years at age 62. You receive 3 weeks paid vacation, reasonably priced medical, dental, and vision insurance, 401k matched at 2.5%, and virtually unlimited sick days as long as you don't call out too often (>3x month). You are given 6 college credits per semester to use at the local university. You're currently working on a PhD.

You live comfortably and have 1 year's salary saved. Zero dependents.

Do you ride it out, or do you seek a career change before it's too late.

I know, infinite unknown variables, but what would you do regardless?

UPDATE: I'm slightly taken aback by how many of you actually took the time out of your day/evening to reply to my personal crisis. I've think I've replied to everyone, which, in doing so, made this morning surprisingly sunnier. So thanks for that.

Adding some thing I've shared in replies. I'm a homeowner with zero debt aside from a very affordable mortgage. Purchased my car outright new in 2024, had household concerns addressed over past five years (new roof, HVAC systems, sump pump, water heater, shed, remodeled bathrooms), have three degrees, and a lifetime of piss poor fortune.

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[–] Glytch@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

I would kill for that level of financial stability. Ride it out and find passion in hobbies outside of work.

[–] credo@lemmy.world 55 points 1 week ago (3 children)
[–] alianne@lemmy.world 46 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Regardless of the answer, I'd follow this up with "Are you unhappy?" If you're happy-ish or at least not unhappy, then the peace of mind that comes with job security is a big motivator.

You can always seek happier happiness outside of work so long as the work itself doesn't promptly steal it all when you go in the next day.

[–] credo@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

It’s an optimization problem.

There are a lot of factors that could go into what you or I end up calling happiness. We probably see things differently after all. Job (life) security, being wild and free, location, family, friends, money.. the list goes on. Optimize for what makes you happy.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I'm a contradiction. I'm no more unhappy than I am happy. Pay isn't the best, but the certainty and creature comforts make it tolerable.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

My take - based on everything you are saying in this thread, it sounds like you aren't happy, but that you are balancing that unhappiness with potential unhappiness you are worried about facing if you were to try for another job.

You talk about pay and creature comforts - but you seem to be avoiding talking about meaning. What is your purpose in life? Because if this job facilitates that purpose, then by all means, keep it. But if it undermines it, then you should ditch it.

Like, imagine you are on your deathbed, and a young highschool boy comes to interview you about your life for a school project. He asks - what did you accomplish? What are you most proud of? What did you learn? What is a story you'd like to tell my class? What are your regrets? If you could do it all over again, what would you do differently?

What do you want your answers to be?

[–] Sanctus@anarchist.nexus 5 points 1 week ago

Only thing that matters

[–] Mr_Wobble@thelemmy.club 29 points 1 week ago (3 children)

The location matters. $65K in Arkansas is not the same as $65K in California.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

West Virginia-Lite. About 2 hours outside of DC. Homes around here range from dilapidated trailers to McMansions. A cornucopia of ugh.

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[–] naught101@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Also income matters less in counties with better social support nets and health systems

[–] Carl@anarchist.nexus 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Yeah, this is impossible to answer until we know the cost of living in OP’s area. In my area, $65k would be decent for one person, but would basically be hand-to-mouth regarding income and expenses. You wouldn’t be able to save anything with $65k, which means you’d have zero wiggle room for future planning or surprise expenses. But if I was able and willing to move to the middle of bumfuck nowhere, I could be really damned comfortable for $65k.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 24 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Ride it out. No question. You have unlimited opportunities to grow outside the job.

No employer is going to hire a 47 year old. Too old to train and not enough experience in the field to be a good manager.

If you aren't getting enough excitement from the job, go out and start dating or find a hobby.

Heck, the the year's salary you have saved there are dozens of businesses you could start.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 6 points 1 week ago (8 children)

This is more of where I'm leaning, but then I think I'm wasting my potential, without having any idea where to even exhibit potential.

I'm referred to as a "generalist" at work. I'm told that's a good thing.

[–] meco03211@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Your potential doesn't need to be limited to work. You can exhibit that in a multitude of ways with no connection to a job.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago

Having a job was my parents only aspiration for me. They thought college was a waste of time, and that I would be better off finding a job in retail, working my way up the ladder into management like my father, and live with self-inflicted misery for the rest of my life.

I've been employed since 12 years old. I'd only been without a job for roughly 18 months back in the early 00s when I was furloughed from a customer service role at a bank. I was given a nice retention and severance bonus, so I took that money and started an associates degree. Finished it in under two years, picked up a part-time gig, transferred credits, worked and earned my bachelors.

I equate success to maintaining a job. Just the way I was wired, I suppose. I would much rather find success in something not involving money, but I can't separate the idea of success from money. Capitalism.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago

I've worked in the arts and I've worked in public health.

Yes, you can get a certain satisfaction from helping people, or creating something.

In the end, if you're looking for true fulfillment, it's an inside job.

No career is going to guarantee happiness. Look at superstars like Charlie Sheen or Tiger Woods. The both had all the external validation anyone could ask for.

My best advice is to accept that your going to be on this job, and start looking for answers in otehr places.

Have you tried meditation?

I know it sounds corny, but in the end, happiness is a choice not a destination.

[–] PapaStevesy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

It doesn't sound like a demanding job, just do whatever you feel exhibits your true potential with all the free time it gives you. If you get good enough that you can make that your career, then it'll be a much less risky move. As long as the work doesn't kill your soul and it's not harmful to society or nature at large, it sounds like a great deal to me.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

The fuck? I got my job around that age. And we hired our temp who is at least 65. And a treasury manager over 60 too.

It's harder, I'm sure. But 47 is absolutely NOT too old to change careers, that's nonsense.

[–] pHr34kY@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I would totally start a side hustle if I was set up like this.

[–] corbs132@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How has nobody suggested the obvious yet? Keep your current job while you interview, test the waters and see what's out there. You might find something you enjoy more with a big enough raise to cover the college credits. You don't have to quit to start looking elsewhere. I know you're talking about career, not just job, but I'd argue the same still applies.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 4 points 1 week ago

Thanks for this. Justifies some of what I've recently been doing. I've been at this job for almost 20 years. I've been awarded the top employee honor at work, essentially the "outstanding achievement" award for employees. Not sure why. This was just a few years ago, when I essentially quietly quit.

Recently received notification I had been moved to the final search committee for a major leadership role at a neighboring college. Regardless of the outcome, this was primarily an attempt to see what interest there still is out there. This would be a CIO role, one I'm more than capable of running with considering the size and scope of the school. I just don't know if that is even how I want to end my working life.

Nobody prepared me for any of this. I guess none of are technically.

[–] atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As somebody who is quickly coming up on 2 years of unemployment, my recommendation is not to fuck with the job market right now even with a year’s expenses covered.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 6 points 1 week ago

Almost 20 years at my current employer. Stepping away without something else already lined-up sounds like career suicide. Yet another reason I'm hesitant to shake things up.

[–] TargaryenTKE@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Dude, that job pays THREE TIMES as well as the equally-dead one I currently have (even more if you include benefits). Just accept the good fortune bestowed upon you, get paid to do practically nothing, and find a new hobby to invest all your new free time into. Like, how is this even a question?

Edit: I redid the math and turns out you're making 3x what I do, not the 2x that I originally said

[–] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 0 points 6 days ago

I'll chime in as another in a job with worse pay and benefits going nowhere.

[–] CrabAndBroom@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago

That was my thought too lol, this is essentially my job but with better pay and benefits.

[–] skisnow@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 week ago (3 children)

virtually unlimited sick days as long as you don’t call out too often (>3x month)

"virtually unlimited" = 36 days a year

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[–] Avicenna@programming.dev 8 points 1 week ago

If you are already doing a PhD you are probably lucky to have a job that pays reasonably without requiring much. But even if you decide to change jobs, don't leave till you are guaranteed another job.

[–] arotrios@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Finish the PhD, then get a new job.

$65k will be worth half of what it is or less in 10 years. You will, at best, get a raise of about 5% per year. You will see a 20% - 30% raise if you jump ship with the PhD provided you go for corporate positions (you'll barely be treading water if you decide to teach).

The stability of the current job is an illusion - they will let you go the moment it becomes profitable for them to do so. The only person who can ensure you stability is you, and the only way you can do that is by maximizing your earning potential so you have enough wealth to survive a jobless period. Do not rely on unemployment benefits - they're a joke and often arrive as much as a year late.

Source: I took the stable route at that same salary number. Was laid off after 10 years during COVID, while I was sick. My next position I jumped from 65k to 90k, and with the next to 110k within three years. It took over 18 months for me to receive my unemployment benefits.

Companies have no loyalty to you. You are a resource to be exploited. Treat them the same way, and you'll be much wealthier and likely happier for it.

Holy shit I would realize I no longer have any real problems in life and figure out what makes me happy with all of that free time

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

So, what am "I" hoping for, I guess? More money, more possibility for advancement? What other jobs could I get?

Not to be a dick, but the median personal income for a full-time employee in the US is ~$55,000, and half are definitionally below that. If you live in San Fransisco and are working towards your PhD in data science, I guess sure, vomiting face, but that detail wasn't in there.

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[–] rekabis@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You’re focusing too much on what you are supposed to do and too little on what you could be doing.

I would grab this with both hands. Max out the education, and work on side projects that don’t impact the day job. I mean, that is what the “show up sometimes” means, right? Ya gotta warm the seat but you don’t have much to do? So fill that time with things that improve your skills!

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago

You’re focusing too much on what you are supposed to do and too little on what you could be doing.

Absolutely, but man is it a hard habit to break. Obviously one I'm struggling to break myself. I literally have a text note stating "Do what you want and do it for fun" on my phone's lock screen and home screen. I'm trying my best to change my way of thinking about all of this, and rather lean into a "fuck it, it's a paycheck, (most) everyone needs one, use all the money for fun and live deliciously because at least in my inevitable end, it will all just go to some charity.

[–] farmgineer@nord.pub 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If they allow remote work, I'll take it since I'm about to lose my job and, with the shitty USD <-> JPY rate, I only made slightly under that last year.

Were I you, though, I'd be looking.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 4 points 1 week ago

Should have added the remote schedule. Two days in office, three remote. No device monitoring. Round trip commute 70 minutes.

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Are you looking for advice? Cause that's how it sounds lol. The answer and reasons are different for everyone.

Ultimately the question is, how does the job make you feel? If I hate getting up everyday to go to work, I'm probably going to at least look at my options if not straight run out of there crying.

If it's ok but nothing too exciting. I don't dread it but, I also don't look forward to it, I might stay. But only if I can find a way to spice it up a bit. Maybe that's a new podcast to listen to while working. Maybe it's finding something to do in my down time, maybe it's researching a new hobby or something.

If I like the job but I'm not going anywhere but I'm that close to retirement, I'm going to probably stay. Until they give me a reason to hate it. Then, I'm out.

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[–] ultranaut@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Unless your salary is inflation adjusted over those 15 years, you are going to end up in a bad place if you ride it out. I personally couldn't make it on $65k and would be looking to either supplement my income or find a higher paying job ASAP. If it was a reasonable income for where I live and covered my bills, and resulted in me being able to still afford retiring at 62, I might stick with it if it wasn't driving me totally crazy with boredom.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Disclaimer: No idea what amout of wealth that translates to in your specific location.

I think the work itself really does matter, what use is wealth if the job is destroying your mental or physical health? What you'll do with that depends on what other (theoretcially) marketable skills you have, how the actual market for those skills is right now, and how long it would take to take any relevant training (that's on your own time, not while you're already employed). Do you have any idea what you'd do instead of your job?

Also, how certain are you that you actually get to retire at 62? 15 years is a long time for some asshole politician to decide that whatever retirement plan you may have isn't worth the paper it's printed on ...

[–] Canconda@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

retirement in 15 years at age 62

Zero dependents.

or do you seek a career change before it's too late.

Whatever is driving this feeling... lean into it bro.

[–] Tooks@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago

I really feel your comment. Now to figure out what to lean into.

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[–] tpyoman@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Strictly me with my life experience, at 20 I would try and find something else more exciting and fulfilling, today in my mind theories I would stay especially with my phd in progress it would give me time to do it properly, and give me enough money to at least stay alive, and not be pressured into any bullshit stressful situation at work which has been my experience with jobs so far.

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[–] ToiletFlushShowerScream@piefed.world 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Do you absolutely LOATHE your life right now the way it is? Do you regret EVERY choice you ever made in your life that steered you to where you are now? If yes, then you are probably part of the majority of Americans your age. Go ahead and look for change, because no matter what happens, you won’t miss where you are now.
BUT if you answered no, then congratulations, you are happier than most people your age, and keep looking for other ways to find joy because more than likely you’ll end up in a worse spot for you and regret ever shaking things up.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Depends, of course. I'm not personally wildly ambitious about work so that would be fine with me. If no raise though, that money will not be enough in 15 years. So it would need to come with raises to meet inflation at least.

Retirement at 62 would be a big upgrade from what I expect to be able to do, but I did raise a lot of kids.

[–] missingno@fedia.io 2 points 1 week ago

Sounds a hell of a lot better than the dead end job I just left.

[–] BananaLama@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

Seems like you already made your decision.

Lets say you change careers and want to come back to your current career at this or another company. Would that be feasible. If yes, you literally have nothing to lose.

If not, you have to be a bit more careful picking your new path but also little to lose

[–] shirasho@feddit.online 2 points 1 week ago

I would ride it out assuming inflation and rising cost of living didn't exist. Well, those things do exist. The question you need to ask yourself is if you would be unhappy living with the spending power of ~60% of what your spending power is now. If the answer is anything other than a solid yes then you should be looking.

Finish up any schooling and get a new job lined up before you leave your current job. The current job market is incredibly toxic and near impossible to navigate. People are posting vague job descriptions they have no intentions of hiring for to make it look like they are growing when they are really stagnating. AI is being used to push highly skilled workers back into the market.

[–] Afflictedlife@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

52,832 more dollars a year than I survive on. Unless you think your job will evaporate soon you have a pretty good thing. Get your PhD. Keep your job as long as you can. Jumping at somthing new has a very good chance of blowing up in your face in this market. Caveat, I don't work so what do I know? But if you aren't severely depressed about it I'd stay

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