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Iโ€™m not saying get a loveless marriage to have children, but do get in a loveless marriage to save on taxes, pool resources, living separately, not having sex, like roommates. I'd be playing the system.

Am I broken?

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[โ€“] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 hours ago

Getting married for love was imo, a brief fad, and a gross perversion of marriage, it's always been about wealth and inheritance

i cant make a more articulate point rn sorry

[โ€“] dingus@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago

Is that not technically the legal purpose of marriage to begin with???

[โ€“] Malyca@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 hours ago

No? Lots of people do that. Love isn't for everyone.

[โ€“] BoxedFenders@hexbear.net 4 points 6 hours ago

What if one of you end up in a relationship with someone else and want to marry them instead? You'd have to go through a divorce with your fake spouse and that could get messy if you bought a house together or share other assets.

[โ€“] Transform2942@lemmy.ml 34 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I sort of did this once.

I don't know if I would exactly recommend it but if you do, work out a prenup with them first.

It's EXTREMELY important to work out the sort of details about how things will be divided and unwound in advance

[โ€“] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 8 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

You're not broken.

The world's broken and you're coping.

[โ€“] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 13 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Isn't it called a marriage of convenience? Usually those are done for immigration purposes, but it could be other conveniences too

[โ€“] thagoat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 hours ago

Yes it is. Came here to say this.

[โ€“] marcie@lemmy.ml 4 points 9 hours ago

I think it's generally smart to marry someone you've been living with for more than 2 years. If you don't like that idea why are you dating them still?

[โ€“] Melobol@lemmy.ml 7 points 10 hours ago

Your idea is as old as marriage for love.
No one will stop you, and in today's world it is even easier to 'get away' with it. If you are hetero you could even marry a same-sex person that way potential babies as problem are out of the window. I'm assuming you don't want kids, and you won't change your mind? That's the only safe way to do it.

[โ€“] the_abecedarian@piefed.social 6 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

You're reacting to the increasing costs of the means of basic existence. In a way it's rational, though going as far as marriage is a big commitment. If you found someone who felt exactly the way you do and is willing to marry you for the same reasons, I don't see anything wrong with going through with it. You'd definitely want a prenuptual agreement in case it doesn't work out, though.

It might be easier to live with friends or family and pool resources with them, though ofc it wouldn't be the same tax benefit. Maybe talk to a professional accountant to learn if you have ways to save on taxes even without getting married.

Having been in the poly community, pooling resources without some kind of contract is going to end messy.

[โ€“] average@hexbear.net 1 points 7 hours ago

Idk how beneficial the tax benefits would be without kids. Pooling resources is sick tho.

[โ€“] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 6 points 11 hours ago

Marriage, as a romantic notion, is about demonstrating a lifelong commitment to another person.

Marriage, as a legal institution, is about creating an economic incentive for intergenerational land ownership among the government-favored ethnic group.

I might suggest that you, at a bare minimum, like the other person even if you're not romantically fixated on them. The marriage process comingles assets and incomes in a way that's very difficult to unwind over time. Idk if I'd consider you "broken" for thinking about it. But you might want to reconsider what you're getting into, especially if there's someone other than your prospective partner who does have a romantic interest on one (or, fuck it, both) of you.

For folks who are married, the joke has been made a thousand times "We should have done this when we were poorer". And I even have a friend who did a court-house wedding, months in advance of the family celebration, just to get the tax rebate sooner.

But, it's a big decision. You're sharing credit as a single household. Depending on the state, your partner can have all sorts of medical and legal authority that constrains you. And if you don't even live with the person you're married to? The economic benefits slide off quite a bit.

[โ€“] RotatingParts@lemmy.ml 5 points 10 hours ago

You don't have to get married to share resources, just live together. Before you do, make sure the "sharing resources" is clearly spelled out and agreed to. Also check state laws to see if there is a minimum amount of time of living together when the home is both of yours (in that one can't kick out the other). Some states will declare you married if you live together for a certain amount of time. Be aware of how your state handles that especially if you don't want to be "surprised" married.

[โ€“] IWW4@lemmy.zip 4 points 11 hours ago

I would do a lot of research on the how much money you would be saving by doing that.

Other than the health insurance aspect you can pool resources with someone and not be married.

What do you mean by living separately, as in different bedrooms in the same house.

[โ€“] andallthat@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

If the other person feels the same about it and if you trust them and you are good friends and....

Come to think of it, to make this work in the long run, you need basically the same ingredients as a "regular" marriage.

[โ€“] Eat_Your_Paisley@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

There isn't enough tax relief out there to make it worth having a roomate.