Asklemmy

Marriage, as a romantic notion, is about demonstrating a lifelong commitment to another person.

Marriage, as a legal institution, is about creating an economic incentive for intergenerational land ownership among the government-favored ethnic group.

I might suggest that you, at a bare minimum, like the other person even if you're not romantically fixated on them. The marriage process comingles assets and incomes in a way that's very difficult to unwind over time. Idk if I'd consider you "broken" for thinking about it. But you might want to reconsider what you're getting into, especially if there's someone other than your prospective partner who does have a romantic interest on one (or, fuck it, both) of you.

For folks who are married, the joke has been made a thousand times "We should have done this when we were poorer". And I even have a friend who did a court-house wedding, months in advance of the family celebration, just to get the tax rebate sooner.

But, it's a big decision. You're sharing credit as a single household. Depending on the state, your partner can have all sorts of medical and legal authority that constrains you. And if you don't even live with the person you're married to? The economic benefits slide off quite a bit.