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Like was it a meaningful debate or a flat out flame war? And what was the main theme you were arguing over?

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[–] Treczoks@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I recently had a discussion about the bible with someone who actually took the book literally. At least the bits he considered "good".

He did not even understand simple concepts like "John the Apostle" is neither "John the Evangelist" nor "Apocalyse Fever Dream John".

[–] HoneyMustardGas@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I am a fairly new Christian so I cannot relate. I know who John the apostle is but I don't know about the evangelist or apocalypse fever dream John lol. Never heard those terms. I've been reading the Bible consistently for about a year. I still have a lot to learn in order to properly debate anything about it. For some reason I worked backwards. I read revelations first and tried to make sense of it by them reading the gospel and parts of the old testament. I still skip around but never do I take the Bible literally. I mean some commands are straight forward but I cannot wrap my head around the fact that Job was just whipped out of nowhere by the devil and it doesn't show him like freaking out because the devil either showed up or was whipping him somehow from the spirit world. It was the first book I really connected with.

[–] Treczoks@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

It is about getting the message out of the text.

Take Noah. Two different stories, two different boats, and both with differing writing styles. Some people seem to believe that the text provides accurate building instructions. Which leads to the issue of which one to follow, and needing steel, because building it from any of those texts with wood and reed in that size is a folly undertaking.

Or take the Gospels. You can basically condense the Gospels to a few lines of text along the lines "God loves you, regardless of who you are, and wants you to do the same". That some people don't get this "regardless of who you are" and that some televangelists shamelessly exploit people on the line of "Give away your riches and follow me" are the most painful failures of American Christianity.

[–] Tiral@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

People that believe all that ghost shit on YouTube is real. It's basically boomers and religious tards with a 3rd grade education that don't understand how easy it is to edit video for the average person. They all comment "May Christ protect you" and other crap like that. While these people pump out an episode every week like clock work where they're possessed, attacked, or some other BS. Best part is when they go "we almost died" over and over, because name one person on a paranormal investigation that died that isn't an obvious natural cause.

[–] Meatwagon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

That women should have the ability to give informed consent at a doctor's office.

I've had to argue for decades that birth control shouldn't be held hostage until women submit to a pap smear.

It's flat out unethical to hold a prescription until a patient does an unrelated screening, no matter how good your intentions are. It'd be like doctors withholding Viagra until a guy got his prostate checked annually. Yes, it's a good idea to do cancer screening but no one should be coerced into any medical procedure against their will, especially such an intimate and invasive one. This only happens to women.

And yet you'd think I told them they should skin their new puppy alive. The amount of vitriol and even sexual harassment I got for maintaining this was mind blowing. And it was always from other women. I was told I'm a little girl, or not a "real" woman like it's some sort of twisted right of passage.

I wasn't debating that the exam doesn't save lives or that people should stop having it done, just that women should have a choice and not be coerced - that it should be treated just like colonoscopies in that it's entirely voluntary.

It hasn't been that big of an issue in recent years. But early 2010s holyshit you'd think women didn't think that they should have bodily autonomy (and a lot of this was coming from fellow pro-choicers!).

This was a thing in the southern US. I know the North half of the country wasn't as insane.

[–] dustyData@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

People on social media get irrationally angry when I point out that all science confirms that physical punishment of children for the purpose of behavior change or discipline is a net negative. For both the development of the child and also society as a whole. And as such, any corporeal punishment of children should be considered assault and child abuse. People will desperately defend their right to exert violence on their own children.

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[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 days ago

Marxism-Leninism.

[–] aramis87@fedia.io 19 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Sigh. That under Swedish law, it's entirely probable that Julian Assange did rape that woman (reddit fanbois are a special kind of special).

That Elon Musk is not a real-life Tony Stark, but is in fact a slightly autistic narcissist who insists on inserting himself into the public eye and has an excellent PR team (reddit fanbois are a special kind of special).

That covid is real, and is bad, and is in fact deadly; and that vaccines are good, not a government conspiracy, and may save not just your life, but the lives of your families and friends.

Probably one of those three.

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[–] akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I stated that in a democracy fascist, racist, neo-nazi political parties should not have the right to form, campaign or run for government because - other than the obvious reasons - they are inherently undemocratic. I also added that this is not a paradox of democracy and that claiming otherwise is apologist bullcrap trying to justify fascism, racism or other institutional, totalitarian forms of oppression.

I got death threats.

Edit: maybe this doesn't apply here since there was no arguing really? 🤔

[–] HoneyMustardGas@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

Yeah, Lemmy is a bit more sophisticated and civil compared to other social media. That is why I always come back.

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[–] WraithGear@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

that voting blue no matter who is bullshit.

and before anyone comes to argue otherwise, that you MUST vote blue on the election or else you vote for the other side, i bid you a ‘jog on’. ESPECIALLY since you have to answer for the continuing campaign of the democratic party against their progressive candidates.

vote blue no matter who my ass. you either have a person i would eagerly vote for or i will find someone else. it is your fault we have these republicans painted blue arguing for policies slightly left of hitler.

don’t let perfect be the enemy of good, is horse shit when good is enriching and empowering corporations, and genocide.

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 12 points 4 days ago (5 children)

I don't remember exactly what it was that I said that I got absolutely dog piled on and told I was wrong repeatedly but it had something to do with fire hydrants. 30+ replies telling me I was wrong and stupid and didn't know what I was talking about.

For the record, I work in water and fire hydrants are very much part of my work. But, a bunch of random people on reddit definitely know better than me. 🤷‍♀️

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

did you say that fire hydrants can be other colors than red?

Lmao no but my camera roll proves that. I used to know towns boarders by their hydrant colors before I moved 🤣

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[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

That historical events can be approached and assessed without contemporary extrapolations. But to boil down years of internets, including old ezboard forums, I'd say it's been over the Clean Wehrmacht theory/myth.

I used to be really into WW2 history communities and I would routinely approach things objectively and piss a bunch of nerds off who pervert history and just want to obsess over how Hitler could've won.

So I have argued far too much with people who hate Hitler just because he lost the war to Stalin. Like, primary sources would mean nothing. I'd have correspondence transcripts from commanders and diplomats, and they'd have their latest Hearts of Iron game run.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

those folks aren't interested in history, they are interested in fantasy.

for a lot of folks, that's all history is, or why it's fun, it's the fantasizing about it. It's not the boring staid work of a true historian who is looking at boring crap like cargo manifests to piece together the reality of history.

[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago

They'd sure extrapolate into conclusions for contemporary society and modern politics from those fantasies, which was the usual source of contention to start arguing.

For some reason they're ceded the right to call what they're doing history and not fantasy. Hence things like the Clean Wehrmacht theory become more than fantasy to folks.

[–] BurgerBaron@quokk.au 3 points 3 days ago

Meaningful never, I liked suggesting junk food/sugary drinks should be treated exactly like Cigarettes on reddit which is mostly American and watching the sparks fly.

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Way too many people think trans people's right to exist is a debate.

The reading comprehension and overall common sense on this website is piss poor.

I struggle to recall any "meaningful" debates.

[–] HoneyMustardGas@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

There is no debate. Everyone has the right to exist. How could someone argue against that. They are just shouting idiocy.

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[–] GiantChickDicks@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Across many platforms, I've gotten the most vitriol and heated discussion about pit bulls. It's a topic that has gotten me nastier responses than politics or other hot button issues.

It's really frustrating. I have many years of experience in rescue, shelters, veterinary medicine, and more. I've worked with more of these dogs over the years than I can count. I've also worked alongside people with much more experience than me, and I have yet to meet a single person in animal welfare that views pit bull type dogs as broadly dangerous or difficult to work with. I'm sure those people are out there, but it's not a common view.

You can discuss the wide variety of factors that lead to this sweeping characterization of bullies, ask people to talk with animal professionals in their lives about their experiences, and encourage them to volunteer to get actual experience with these dogs. It doesn't matter or seem to nudge them into considering anything other than these dogs being ticking time bombs.

I'm not saying everyone should own pitties. Spreading misinformation and continuing to demonize pit bull types can influence other people who could be a perfect home for these dogs to never consider them, though. So many dogs with wonderful temperaments are euthanized and never even given a chance just because of how they look. It's really disheartening.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 days ago

Cannot speak for pure breed pits, but I have not had many major issues I couldn't handle with my brothers pit mixes. Most problem I have ever had is their leash aggression and how one of them really doesn't like kids petting him. Otherwise, yeah, I don't have any major problems with pit bulls personally.

[–] c64z86@piefed.world 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The treatment of those with disabilities or who are just down on their luck, by the mostly apethic "I'm alright jack" public. I've had many arguments with those who thought that just because somebody needed benefits that they were milking the system.

The most disgusting and revolting thing I can read on the subject from somebody is "if I've managed to get by fine without state help and support, so can/should they"... And yes many do actually think this way, sometimes even to those who need wheelchairs or other aids.

Sometimes I've managed to convince them to care about somebody other than themleves for a change, sometimes I've caused them to go away thinking about it, and other times I've caused them to double down on their stance.

Either way, the engagements were meaningful and eye opening and I'll defend this position until the day I die because nobody has any business being that disgusting towards other human beings.

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[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 2 points 3 days ago

responding to people the youtube sub how they are supporting youtubes algorithim and slop by watching it and logging in, and they were complaining about youtubers that are producing slop.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 1 points 3 days ago

i don't take a lot of hard stances on things so people online love to paint me as the villain their their dramatic 'you have to pick a side' way of viewing the world.

and when i do take hard stances, like say, personal choice and accountability/responsibility, that basically gets me labeled a fascist, at least, the past few years. apparently the notion folks are responsible for themselves is part of the fascist agenda, or something.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 4 points 4 days ago

I honestly don't remember. I generally end convos if they are not being productive or have the chance of being productive.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I would say it's mostly topics I'm not actually arguing about.

I tend to point out false statements or false assumptions I run across. I do it regardless of the topic or my position on an issue, but usually it's taken as general opposition to whatever the person was saying. So they call me a shill or demand that I prove a ridiculous point of view they imagine I must hold. It's like only The Enemy is expected to care about the accuracy of what The Right Side says.

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[–] Iconoclast@feddit.uk 5 points 4 days ago

AI and the meaning of the terminology around it. Usually starts when someone confidently makes the incorrect claim that LLMs are not AI.

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