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[–] I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 8 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Only advice that has ever worked for me is to set micro-goals for the start of tasks.

Like, stupidly easy goals. Got a paper to write? The goal is to open a new document and type 3 words. Need to go work out? Do 1 push up. Need to clean your room? Put one shirt in the laundry hamper, or take 1 dish to the sink.

That's it. Stupidly easy. Not feeling it after that? Cool, you already hit your goal. But momentum is a hell of a thing. The majority of the time, I'll just keep going, precisely because the micro-goals was so easy.

3 words done? Ok that took no time at all. Might as well finish the sentence, maybe even a whole paragraph.

1 push up? I'm already down on the floor, why not do another? Or 10?

I could grab just 1 shirt, or just 1 dish; but I could grab more at the same time. Might as well.

You don't need to trick your brain into doing the whole task, you just need to trick your brain into starting the task. Momentum will take care of the rest. And on the times that it doesn't? Well, again, that's fine. You met your goal already. You don't HAVE to keep going. That can be enough for now.

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 1 points 8 minutes ago* (last edited 7 minutes ago)

Same for me, but I'm screwed if I don't have the next goal ready and planned before I finish the current one, because if it's not lined up and ready to go, it's over as soon as it's complete.

[–] Daefsdeda@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 hours ago

Great advice, thanks!

[–] wpb@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

The "give yourself a treat after" type of advice is pretty shit. I know the guy who hands out the treats, and we're on pretty good terms. I'm pretty sure I can get him to give me a treat without doing the task. Heck I'll probably give myself two treats.

[–] binary45@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 hours ago

Personally, I find that music can help out. Just as long as you don’t have to listen to something with audio, keeping music on keeps that dopamine flowing

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

The previous works because you're putting yourself in a state of anxiety and creating adrenaline as a result. Your brain can run on adrenaline instead of dopamine, so it does that. If you learn to cope this way you'll be fucked in old age like me though. I'm addition to adrenaline, you're filling your body with cortisol and that will destroy you from within. Don't do it. Just go get the damn ADHD medication.

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 1 points 4 minutes ago

So true. I'm like Superman during a crisis, and a slug any other time. I sometimes fall in to the trap of subconsciously manufacturing a crisis just so I can get things done. It's not a great way to live.

[–] sunbytes@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

I'm sorry.

"The hat man"? What in the sleep paralysis demon is that?

[–] x0x7@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Obviously, the man you imagine pointing a gun at you to get work done.

They didn't teach you this motivational device in school? Clearly, you went to a public school.

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 0 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

The hat man is a common hallucination of a shadowy man with a wide brim hat experienced in psychosis. I know about it cause it's commonly reported by people who take too much dxm or people on multi-day no-sleep stimulant binges.

It's just a form of pareidolia, your brain just trying to make sense of dark shadows in your room in its forced twilight. It's pretty much a meme.

[–] reksas@sopuli.xyz 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

is knowing about the hatman required for you to see it during psychosis?

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

I think you end up seeing any vaguely humanoid figure and if you know about it you attribute it to being hat man.

[–] craftrabbit@lemmy.zip 7 points 10 hours ago

I think this is good advice and creating fake urgency is nothing but destructive for many. But then again we're all different and the clock setting techniques may be the perfect fit for many others. The most important thing is that you try things and if you try something that doesn't work, most of the time you can't just try again harder to make it work. That will eventually break you.

[–] binarytobis@lemmy.world 15 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

When I was a kid I had a hart time slanting my cursive writing. My teacher told me to just slant the paper, so I kept turning it more and more until it was fully sideways, still writing upright because I adjusted to the angle. After days of this my teacher cried “Just write angled letters!” and I went “Oh!” and was able to do it perfectly from then on.

Anyway I guess my point is different stuff works for different people.

[–] tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip 2 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Did we ever find out why cursive was recommended to be slanted? I'd mostly forgotten that was a thing and now it seems stupid. Probably one person thought it looked better that way and people did it to seem fancy. A lot of grammar "rules" started from one person's preferences so this might've been the same.

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago

Makes it easier for right handed people to write legibly. At least that was the reason we were taught back in the late '80s when I was learning cursive. Doesn't help us lefties since we just smudge the damn writing.

[–] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

I know if I try to write cursive straight up and down it looks very jagged.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

I have a jar of dope and a jar of anime girl thighs. Would one of you science wizards help me turn this into dopamine?

[–] SpikesOtherDog@ani.social 38 points 22 hours ago (8 children)

I misread this as erectile dysfunction and was super concerned about the solutions.

[–] homesweethomeMrL@lemmy.world 25 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Put your cock 15 minutes ahead.

[–] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 15 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I did but always came too early

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[–] HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago (3 children)

Ymmv but for those of you who put your clocks ahead (but automatically adjust the tine in your head), try putting them behind. Knowing it's slow may cause a bit more urgency.

[–] VinegarChunks@lemmus.org 5 points 6 hours ago

I found that putting them set exactly to the second to the atomic clock forces me to mentally create buffer time and get places on time.

Setting the clocks ahead gave me a mental assumption of “don’t worry you always have extra time !” And I imagine that setting them all behind would similarly lead me to disregard the reality of the clock.

But setting it precisely on time lets me know that this is real, there are no tricks going on, and I alone have to plan for enough time to do stuff or be places

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 7 points 12 hours ago

My cortisol gland just started revving up when I read that

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 16 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Me: "Man, I'm so fucking hungry rn..."

still doesn't make anything to eat

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 6 points 14 hours ago

"Wow, I'm really hungry, I should make some food."

Thinks about food

"Nevermind I'm not THAT hungry."

[–] ayyy@sh.itjust.works 5 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Instructions unclear, am fat now.

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 5 hours ago

Instructions unclear, am high functioning alcoholic/stoner now

[–] yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

This assumes executive dysfunction only ever comes from lack of (available) dopamine though.

It's better advice than stressing yourself out, sure, but it may just be useless.

The only thing that has ever worked for me - and I have tried giving myself treats before and during a task - are hard, immovable deadlines.

[–] 5too@lemmy.world 10 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

They're not saying it'll fix everything, they're saying try it. It'll either help, or it won't; but you're no worse off for trying a gentler-on-yourself approach

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[–] pseudo@jlai.lu 14 points 21 hours ago

This seems like a good reading recommandation. Thanks for it and for the tip.

[–] Cris_Citrus@piefed.zip 24 points 23 hours ago (5 children)

There's also research that says blood sugar is really helpful for people with ADHD so having something sweet to sip on while you work can be really helpful

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 8 hours ago

i find it doesn't really even need to have sugar in it. ill usually have some sugar free sweet drink to sip on and just the sweet taste is enough to give me some dopamine. sadly real sweets are my kryptonite. if i have them in the house i will eat them all far too quickly. like in an unhealthy and embarrassing way...

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

Huh. I just like deliciousness and use it as a motivator. Sometimes it's my sweet tooth, sometimes coffee (black), but I'm really getting into mint tea in the afternoon.

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[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 7 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

Anyone have any clarification on what "pretend the hat man is pointing a gun at you" means? I've never heard that phrase before.

[–] forbiddencherry@lemmy.today 1 points 3 hours ago

Perhaps it's a reference to "mad as a hatter".

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