the jewelry is the least important thing about being married.
this post was submitted on 04 Jun 2026
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I think my spouse and I spent... $80 total on our rings. Seemed like a waste of money to both of us.
That was us. Our wedding bands were about that all in, and I got their engagement ring for about $125.
I think everything we did for our wedding, rings included, was around $1500. The majority of that was booze.
Good on you, when I hear how much people are spending on weddings man. Over 50k is "normal" to them? We put our money to a down payment. Much better use for it.
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We didn't do rings. I worked in a chemistry lab, husband has a skin issue and wearing a ring would probably mean nonstop doctor visits.
So we just didn't have rings. It's really very simple.
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I agree with you, but I'd say it's a 50/50 toss up with women. Half of them would agree with us. The other half are too busy planning a 300k wedding on a 15/hr salary. Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.
I know a lot of women who would be thrilled to be proposed to with a cat.
In the past, I've also known women who would be sour that they didn't get a ring. I try not to know that type of person for long.
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Smart. Easier to say 'no' to a shiny rock, hard to say it to a kitten.
She could say no, but she won't. Because of the implication.
"We both know that this cat only lives if you say yes"?
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22 years of marriage here. Never bought, given, or worn a diamond in my life.
Marriage rings are a marketing campaign created to sell you a piece of carbon that is so "rare" they put them on $12 drill bit sets.
Yep. Yep. Different quality stones. Gotcha. Interested in buying a bridge by chance?
Carbon is the 4th most abundant element in the galaxy. Silicon is twice as rare, so maybe spend 6 month’s salary on a quartz ring instead? Either that, or save up for a down payment on a house. Nah, who needs a place to live when you can have a hunk of mineral, right?
If I’m spending 6 months salary on silicon, it better at least run Doom.
How much for the bridge? I would need a guarantee though that it's actually used and not just buolilt on flat land in the middle of nowhere! I am no fool after all.
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noo but they didn't pay a significant amount of money to the diamond industry!!
Won't anyone think of the slave owners?
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That he can't afford it is a stupid assumption imo, this looks like a deliberate choice. Being responsible for raising and taking care of a kitten together is a much bigger commitment than wearing a ring.
Meh, it's all fake af probably but the initial post says he was couldn't afford a ring so if we're going with it then yeah he is poor in this hypothetical.
Guarantee you that cat will cost more in the first year than a ring from a fancy jewelry store
Cost? Yes.
But WORTH! Also YES!!! 🐈
You severely underestimate the cost of jewelry. And every cost also multiplies by 400% if you put the word "wedding" in front of it.
And every cost also multiplies by 400% if you put the word “wedding” in front of it.
In some cases, you can get around that by just not mentioning the whole 'wedding' thing.
And the ring is one of those cases. Just go to the jewelry store, pick one out, and never mention what it's for. No reason for any price surcharges -- a ring is a ring.
In other cases, though, you really shouldn't take such shortcuts. That is, if you're particular about how you want your wedding to go.
Take the florist for example. For a regular (regular price) order, if you've ordered 100 yellow roses for the table settings, but they're out of yellow roses, they'll just substitute in 100 white roses instead and call it a day.
But if you're particular about 'your special day' being perfect and you must have the yellow roses, that's when the florist needs to know that it's for a wedding, specifically. And no matter what happens, they'll do their damnedest to make sure you get the yellow roses you ordered, no substitutions. And that extra mile of effort is what the 400% price surcharge is for.
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I hate these made up headlines.
"Man going to eat kitten in front of his succubus goddess wife to proof his devotion"
Could you imagine being so shallow that the only thing that's important is spending a lot of money and not having genuine love...
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That is going to be one very very rough pet passing in 1-2 decades
And likely a treasure trove of memories that both celebrate their cat and symbolize their relationship once they deal with the worst of their grief and can enjoy the positive feelings again.
It's weird to fixate on the eventual death of an elderly cat when you've fully neglected to mourn all the furniture that kitten is going to massacre
Normalize not buying useless $2000 USD pieces of junk that starved children in Congo had to dig with bare hands, just to marry your soul mate.
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Grab her with the pussy.
Why would it matter if you can't afford jewelry to get married? If this were at a time where the husband is expected to be the sole earner, that could be a problem. But this is 2026. He's working, she's working, and getting married will not change that.
If anything, his and her individual financial burden will decrease by getting married by combining their finances and sharing bills, if they aren't spending stupid money on diamond rings, big weddings, exotic honeymoons, etc. They'll share a home, utilities, online subscriptions, etc. That will save them both money. If they can afford to live individually without luxuries, they can more easily afford to live together, maybe with the occasional luxury.
Stupid take.
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If a man tried to propose to me with a kitten I think my brain would short out from joy at getting a kitten and I wouldn't hear another word out of his mouth. I'd totally miss the actual proposal and just be delighted at the kitten.
I got my first cat when he was a kitten and the moment I laid eyes on him my heart melted and my brain turned to scrambled eggs and 10 years later I still have the exact same reaction every single time I look at him.
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Apparently the idea of poor people getting married is too woke for Julie :P
A little data point on the whole marriage thing... I and my life partner have been together for 20 y, will be 21 in September. We never got married and we don't have any rings. I keep hearing that a lot of marriages these days don't last this long.
We do informally call each other "my wife", but still, no formal marriage was ever done.
The only reason marriages lasted longer back in the day was because women were essentially indirectly forced to be with men. The whole bank account thing in the US is a really good example of how screwed women were. There were a lot of very long marriages that were deeply unhappy.
Nowadays, women get at least some amount of freedom to choose their partners and hundreds/thousands of years of men not having to actually be good people has meant that many of us are lonely and blame the women for having some standards. Good communication and mutual respect go a long way and those are the marriages that last these days.
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At first glance I honestly thought she looked horrified because he was interrupting her on the toilet.
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I really hate those pictures that just show some randoms with a sob story. I always feel that they are totally fake.
(and if this is true: You can get cheap wedding rings. You do not have to pay thousands of money for them. You can get a cheap ring and that does work, too. Feel free to propose to the human you love even if you can't afford some expensive ring)
(You also do not need a ring at all.)
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Too bad they have to divorce when the cat dies.
Just put the cat in a box with a radioactive substances. Scroedinger's marriage.
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respect to whoever censored the handles and not driving eternal hate to Julie every time this meme gets reposted. Also I didnt realise proposing with a cat was an option this is getting added to my proposal consideration
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