We have so chosen to not be ready for what is to come.
OpenStars
A lot of this "configuration" type stuff you have to do with the web interface, which isn't bad since you only do it once and then you can use the app daily after that and the configuration options will follow over to it.
Also, you probably will find yourself browsing All less and less, if you enjoy using the categories of communities, Topic Feeds that are user-customizeable and shareable. Lemmy mostly forces you into those by providing little alternative (just Subscribed and Local), but PieFed opens up while new vistas.
e.g. for low-volume communities you can ask for a notification to be sent upon entry new post, and for high-volume ones you can even fully unsubscribe, which still leaves the community just a click away. e.g. I unsubscribed from most news and politics communities to lessen the amount that they flood my feed with, but I can click News and Politics and they are all right there waiting for me in that other Feed (unless I fully block them, of course).
It's a whole new set of workflows that you can play with, to customize how you would like to receive your content!! Full disclosure: whole those are present in the latest PieFed API, I do not use 3rd party apps so don't keep up with the state of which ones have which features, and it's possible that most apps haven't updated themselves yet to include all of the above features. Still, it's good to know what options you have available, so that you don't feel stuck when something doesn't work the way you hoped!:-)
The difference is: the demon wants to be summoned.
Consent should matter, you know!
The Fediverse both sucks (aka imperfect) currently and at the same time is the only hope for the future. Reddit, Xhitter, and Facebook will and even can never get any better. The Fediverse is our only hope.

And not just about A"I": about pretty much anything at all. See e.g. the last many USA elections, or those of most nations in the world actually, and also Brexit.
It's the cycle of civilizations. People live in easy times, so refuse to learn anything at all, then create hard times, which toughens people up, who work hard to create better times, rinse and repeat.
I mean... 🤷♂️
Put a feature request into the codeberg? The devs are extremely responsive, and as you say it's so close, it might be an easy add.
~~PieFed allows this to be set for your user account, which should thereafter work for any app that supports PieFed.~~
See screenshots in https://piefed.social/c/piefed_meta/p/1626487/more-search-options-nsfw-and-minimum-post-score.
Edit: okay I forgot entirely how this works (it's a search filter, not a user profile one), but that post explains it regardless.
I wouldn't say it was centralized. They repeatedly begged over and over for volunteers to help moderate and even administrate the instance. Nobody stepped up, it seems.
They reached out to the community. The community declined their requests.
8 legs and not one hand among them...
Okay, human centipede it is then.
The change was announced here, see links from there describing why and a poll where people overwhelmingly voted (hehe) to drop the anonymized voting system.