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CAM photosynthesis is a clever adaptation some plants have where they turn light into sugar during the day, and only breathe in CO2 at night. This lets the plant close up its leaves so they don't lose water during the heat of the day.

CAM plants use sunlight to turn malic acid into sugar, and every night they breathe in plenty of carbon dioxide, storing it as a fresh supply of malic acid. If you have keen senses, you may be able to taste the difference between a CAM plant harvested during the day and one harvested at night because of this variation in sugar and acid content.

Having evolved several times independantly, you see CAM in lots of different kinds of plants: air plants and bromeliads, which have poorly developed root systems; cacti and other succulents, which grow in hot dry environments; you even see it in some aquatic plants. For these, CAM serves not to conserve water, but carbon dioxide - which is of course hard to come by when you don't have any air.

The "crassulacean" part of the name "crassulacean acid metabolism" is there because this phenomenon was first discovered in crassulas. Jade plants are an example of this genus.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

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[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)

got ffs

head hurt

goodnight sleepi

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[–] nine99@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

bullshit from cishet guysWhy do some cishet guys feel so entitled to justifications of my sexuality? I present somewhat fruity, so like half of the ones I meet eventually ask me if I'm gay in an inflammatory tone. They are of course never satisfied when I say that I just like people and will always push and push either inmediately or in the next few days. Are you unable to read body language and figure out that I'm not okay with talking about that to you? I know the entire world is made for you so you can go around making people uncomfortable with no consequences but at some point your introspection has got to kick in.

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

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TBH the whole world feels entitled to queer peoples sexuality

When I was still presenting as a gay man cis women who were basically strangers would ask how I like to fuck

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 13 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

Summertime seasonal depression catgirl-flop

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago
[–] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (10 children)

Tragic: the most amazing girls in the world think theyre unlovable burdens on everyone

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I think my dad hasn't really processed my being trans because I'm a lesbian, like he'd be mad if I dated men but because I'm interested in women I'm normal in his head.

Excited to see how he responds if and when I date another trans woman.

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago

cw hornyit's been confirmed. working out definitely makes me more horny catgirl-sorry

[–] hopelessbyanxiety@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

i did a bunch of job interviews these days and everyone gendered me correctly until i introduced myself inside-im-crying btw i havent started hrt so im also bewildered i think thats the word

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Feeling both proud and lucky that I've been able to make emotionally supportive friends I can go to when I'm struggling. Never really had that before.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Our visit was really nice :) might have had it built up in my head a bit much, but we had a good time and it's good seeing someone so unapologetically herself.

Forget she's a few years older then me, and very millennial coded lol.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

A cis person is surprised I haven't been on hormones longer

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A trans person is surprised I haven't been on hormones longer

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago (9 children)

Thinking about something my mom said earlier and crying. We were doing maintenance on the fish tank and the conversation went something like this

We were talking about fruit and my mom mentioned me being really picky about it. I joked about having high standards for it (its because of the tism I'd guess but whatever). My dad says something about me not having high standards for the fish tank. Because it looks like shit, has looked like shit, I've been fucking depressed and have barely been taking care of anything. My dad does not see this. Anyway I joke that its half his fish tank too because idk what else to say.

Anyway then my mom says they got it mostly so my life would have some kind of meaning or purpose (I was extremely, extremely depressed at that point years ago). Im crying so hard rn. She's so right. My life has had no meaning or purpose and I've known it. The fish tank has been fantastic for me. I love fish so much. I've struggled a lot to take care of it, I mean obviously look at me. But I've been so excited about it over these years, getting fish, all of it.

I wish I had a better life and wasn't FUCKING CRIPPLED by my mental issues.

if I keep talking its just going to be about suicide so I'm going to go try and distract myself. Fuck I hate emotions and crying. Just please I need life to be alright

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (3 children)

CW discussions of NSFW euphemistic language for genitals and Transphobia.I really hate that cis crossdressers/sissys/porn fetish type stuff uses the term "clitty" for a penis. It's super gross and rooted in the objectification of trans women.

(I know some trans woman use it and it's fine to reclaim etc)

But also calling a penis that has been feminised by estrogen a clitoris is accurate biologically/embryologicly, while also cool and based.

I'm probably going to start using that to describe it before bottom surgery anyway. But annoying to consider that other stuff.

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

Feels like I have less words to interact with the world lately. I'll need quite a bit soon when I job hunt and prep to move, so hopefully they changes when I need the energy.

It's mostly due to people trying to get back into my life again, which always throws me off. I don't consider them to be f*mily, but they can't accept that. Funny how people spend years burning a bridge over and over until you finally escape, then they wonder why you won't talk to them.

I'll be getting a new number soon, so looking forward to that.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Slow trans news day huh.

CW parental traumaMy dad took my gentle pushback badly and went defensive civility lib.

I finally told my dad he was the primary source of all my childhood trauma and every time he reaches out I'm re-traumatised, I don't want him to contact me, unless I contact him and I'm done pretending to get along, he can do some work or never talk to me again.

I feel phenomenal.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago

cat-trans That's not easy to do, but it's the best way to start the healing process.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

I'm getting really close to just completely cutting my father out of my life (CW transphobia, racism, parental trauma, mention of SA)He asked me how I was going and I said sincerely that I was actually feeling really bad. That hearing that the premier of the state I live in say I should go to a men's prison if I commit a crime, had caused me to have nightmares about being SA-d to death in prison (true nightmare I had).

And no sympathy, no "that's awful", he just said "oh well he has to say that to win over Muslim voters in the western suburbs of Sydney". I'm done with this man.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago

spoilerI told him on the day he was being racist, now I have told him I need more than benign indifference and told him to read Trans Liberation and Trans/Rad/Fem, he's a fucking liberal intellectual with floor to ceiling bookshelves overloaded with non fiction books, but has he read a single book about trans rights since my coming out? Seems very unlikely. Argh. There is a chance he might give me some money I need for planning life stuff and surgeries so I've got the kiddy gloves on but I'm no longer taking this nonsense.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

CW reddit transphobia debate brosI dipped back into reddit recently with some of the Australian trans stuff and it was a bad idea for my mental health, I've logged myself out on all my screens.

But it's fascinating how poorly convincing the trolls were. I'd say something like "oh are you a woman?" or "this is why women are afraid of YOU", and I got like 5 or 6 replies, saying "oh I actually am a woman", and by the time I'd get to them they'd already have deleted as if they knew even with hidden comments it wouldn't bare up under mod or admin scrutiny.

And another time I said I'd spent a lot of time reflecting on my lesbian identity. And someone said "Lesbians don't have to reflect on their identity, they are just women who are attracted to women" and I was like "honey you've never met a lesbian in your life? They're all reflecting on their lesbian identities, as ex-straight or bisexual or late in life or whatever"

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (4 children)
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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

Ah shit I fucked around with huge highs of making massive life decisions and now I've found out by crashing hard right now.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

i'm still waiting to reach the level of veganism where i can subsist solely off of photosynthesis. currently im still in the rock and stone munching level trans-sadtrans-vegan

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

I hate being poor. Getting a new wardrobe is expensive... I should try thrifting

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Been feeling better the last couple of days, lunch with my lesbian friend was super nice, never had plantains before and holy shit they were good. Kinda expensive but good. Then we went and picked up a mattress lol.

I've still got a few more things I want to pack up, we aren't doing it all at once or anything but I'd like to get as much moved as possible.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

After establishing boundaries with dad, amicably resolving my relationship with my ex and transing my gender all in the last year and a half.

I feel so lighter, there doesn't seem to be any bigger monsters (except society) on the horizon.

Like head empty and queen of the highway for the first time in 30 years?

[–] Ceres@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

My name is Ceres. I'm an poster in the Hexbear Fleet. Whatever else I am, whatever else it means, that's the woman I want to be. And if I die today, that's the woman I'll be.

spoilernothing dramatic happening just had the quote stuck in my head

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I need fantasy books that go all out on magic technology.

Like why are mfs fighting with swords and staffs? Where's my drone swarms? Magic artillery/ICMBs? Assassinations by telephoning poison into your enemy's wine? Automated magic artifact production factories?

Why is a world with magic got miners using pickaxes? Where's my magic smart tablets inscribed with speed casting runes? What about huge alchemical processing facilities that pump gigatonnes of philosopher's stone fluid into the wizard economy?

I know there's probably some books like that (I've even read one but won't recomend the series cause it got wierd in that horny middle aged Japanese writer way if you know what I mean).

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I feel so lighter, there doesn't seem to be any bigger monsters (except society) on the horizon.

Oof forgot about the unmedicated ADHD

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

"I'm a trans girl trying to style my hair. What should I....."

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

Lord almighty, all I want from you oh author is to be respectful in portraying this GNC or trans character you just introduced. Please don't fuck this up please-save-me

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago

Misgengering myself even in situations where it's unnecessary (aka talking to a trans girl volunteer while signing up to donate to charity). I'm a total fucking moron, idiot and all around loser.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

tuckinOk I get tucking now. Even my faux tight panties tuck is doing the work and I can’t describe the feeling of not having my shit pressing against fucking EVERYTHING. Yes it’s a bit uncomfortable but I just keep checking to see if it’s real, it’s really goddamn nice to not feel so Male. Another point on the side of bottom surgery, I could get used to this

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Silly comic I found (might cause voice dysphoria):

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago

Been taking methyl B for a week and been very conscious of my mental state. Other then the one really bad low I have been feeling much better. Even when I've been posting about stuff that bothers or upsets me it's been much better then before. Not sure how much is the vitamin, or just doing better in general now, or hrt or whatever but thought I'd follow up. I definitely remember having an awful two weeks at some point in the recent past so I do feel an improvement over then. But obviously we'll see if this continues.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Dysphoria and regret, somberIt's so difficult to appreciate my body since I had surgery before. I have to be so careful how I look at myself and make sure I'm not seeing that thing on me. It sucks cause, I'm at a point where I like most of my body. HRT did it's job and I'm feeling good about my figure, but this thing makes me want to cover up and hide. Hard to accept that I'm probably losing a decade to this. Why couldn't I have been more bold? I said no that morning, I should have trusted myself.

I've read that people who had vaginoplasty eventually get past that phantom limb feeling. I'm glad I've been able to cling onto that feeling. It's probably the only thing that kept me going on the worst days.

It's one of those worst days :/

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (10 children)

Too horny to think properly

Too depressed to pursue a relationship

Just restless enough to go on another walk through the woods

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

relationship (kinda, but not really, not yet) drama, sex mentionOk, basically I met this girl on a dating app. We met, had great sex, she was lovely and very understanding. We've been talking everyday for 2 and a half weeks.

Yesterday I learned that she broke up with her girlfriend a little over a month ago, she answered me in DAYS.

I think I fucked up. This girl is clearly not ready for anything yet. She absolutely loved being with me two weeks ago, but now she's a little bit cold and distant. She's been saying that it's because of the break up and she wants to be alone. She's still cute snd treats me well if I start on a topic. But she doesn't want to spend time together for now (I obviously respect that).

On the other hand, I got horny and I am convinced I'm hot. I went back to the dating apps but it's so much work to talk to people, and most of them are not really that interesting to me. Well, none of my matches are anyway. Now I'm horny and back on not getting any sex. I was alright before but this girl made me feel so horny omg

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Watching death note for the first time

death note. CW for mistreatment of women

Light is such a fucking piece of shit. Breaks my heart seeing how he is manipulating Misa, and how willingly Misa is letting herself get used πŸ˜”

L is no hero either. Im at the scene where Misa is arrested for suspicion of being of the second Kira. The Hannibal lecter setup they have Misa in is fucking evil and torturous.

They are giving her PTSD flashbacks to her previous stalker kidnapping attempt

catgirl-cry

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Sucks having a crush on a guy knowing full well that:

  1. I'm either scared of guys or lesbian
  2. He isn't into trans women
  3. I'm not ready for a relationship
  4. We live far apart
  5. He's german
  6. If we somehow got together it'd be another thing to hide from my parents

So I'm going to spend the rest of my time just bottling this feeling up and storing it in a dark cool area. Don't want it to heat up and explode

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago
[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I'm so fucking tired right now. Thank god someone took my second shift so I'm only working a single today.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago

Ooh I'm not feeling great about an ALP premier (labor state governor) caving to transphobia at zero pressure....

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (5 children)

going through life as an amab

when a man takes hrt (talking about E)

Why are you saying it like this

Also cis people discouraging people from taking hrt and talking about how a trans woman is "putting people in boxes" for suggesting a dysphoric person try hrt is disgusting DOWN WITH THE CIS

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I've decided:

  1. Am just gonna start girlmodding to uni. My jacket of protection is so run down I can't defend it anymore. Shit is literally RIPPING APART AT THE SEAMS. Not to mention the sweltering heat which I just can't stand
  2. If anyone has a problem with me at uni fuck them.
  3. If anyone asks questions, "I was always a girl you just didn't notice, and I thought it was funny to let you think otherwise"

This is a big step for me cause I'm going from "never girlmodes" to basically coming out permanently. Please hold me to this descision and don't let me change my mind.

suicide mention (technically I guess)

Although the summer season is the reason I am doing this, atp, fuck it. I can't take being in the closet anymore. Shit be so bad I CAN'T FOCUS ON MY LECTURES CAUSE I'M CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT OFFING MYSELF. Fucking christ.

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Peanutbutter in name

Didn't make a peanut butter thread

confusion

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