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Hi my trans siblings!

I'm late writing this mega this week, I had hoped to do more research but maybe I can add stuff and re-write this as the week goes on.

This time I'd like to share some information I stumbled across about 20th century trans icon Charlotte von Mahlsdorf. She was born in the Weimar Republic in 1928 and survived Nazi Germany to make it as the most prominent trans woman that I'm aware of in the DDR (GDR or East Germany). There she ran the GrΓΌnderzeit museum, dedicated to the founding period of the German Empire and the period of its industrialization. The museum ended up becoming a popular hotspot for the gay and I presume trans and queer scene in the DDR.

She was politically active, having been an unofficial informant of the Stasi which ideally I'd love more information on. Was she helping them identify Nazis? Surely being a trans woman would've lured a lot of reactionaries out from behind their masks in her presence. In fact, after the DDR was taken over by the BRD (West Germany) in 1990, it only took about one year before one of the parties she threw at the museum was the target of a neo-Nazi attack, at which point she announced she was considering leaving Germany. She eventually moved to Sweden in 1997, where I believe she lived the rest of her life.

She died of natural causes at the age of 74 during a visit to Berlin in 2002.

This has been more or less a summary of the Wikipedia article on her where I did check some sources, but I really want to learn more about her. I only learned of her in the past couple days, and there is a film about her from 1992 called I Am My Own Woman, by Rosa von Praunheim.

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

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[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Today marks three years nicotine-free.

Never thought I'd get this far.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

Proud of youuuu!!! I hope I get there, I recently quit (again kitty-birthday-sad). Its hard and I'm glad you surprised yourself lea-w

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I walked past a window today after putting on my favorite outfit and doing my hair up nice and I almost cried. It's been 3 years of hrt almost, and 5 years of social transition. I made it y'all. I didn't just see a woman in the reflection this time, I saw me. I had to keep glancing back, every time I thought I'd be gone, replaced by the unfamiliar image that I usually see, but no. Every time I was there, looking as familiar as when I imagine myself.

It's done, it feels like the hard part is over. At least for me, in this one way, I won. I think it was 10 years ago that I convinced myself I couldn't transition because it was too late or I'd just never be happy with where I'd end up, I couldn't even imagine a path from where I was to anything I'd want to be. Eventually I realized that I'd have to try, but the doubt always remained. But I beat it, I won against it. Not just in battle day but the whole war. I'm here to stay for as long as I've got left, and I'm gonna enjoy the hell out of it.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Dying of natural causes at 74 despite living through nazi germany 1 (1871-1945) and nazi germany 2 (1990-now)! That's a pretty happy ending.

(Well ok dying at all isn't a happy ending but immortality does not exist unfortunately)

The wikipedia article on her has some disgusting framing:

Her life could be described as that of an outsider who survived, no matter the ruling ideology, during the Nazi period, Communist-controlled East Germany

Yeah cause surviving the fucking holocaust and surviving a government that let her run a whole ass museum and gave her a mansion rent-free are the same thing.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago

Libs really are shameless dipshits

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah NATOpedia really not beating the NATOpedia allegations. I knew it as soon as I saw this sentence in the intro with not a single citation, "The museum became a popular meeting-point for East Berlin’s gay community, to the disapproval of the East German regime (Stasi)."

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The "regime" disapproved so hard they did basically nothing about it. And even when they were interested in bringing it under government control, they decided otherwise due to resistance from her and community apparently. Who do they think they are listening to their citizens and respecting their wishes? /s

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[–] Azarova@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

Fun fact: Charlotte von Mahlsdorf had a brief cameo as a bartender at a queer club in DEFA's 1989 movie Coming Out, the GDR's film aimed at destigmitizing gay relationships following the sudden reversal of queer policy in the mid 1980s. In that sense, it is a spiritual successor to Magnus Hirschfeld's 1919 silent film Anders als die Andern (Different from the Others).

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

-be me

-guy at work who is quiet, seems a little odd but harmless

-surprisingly chill about my transition the whole time, no comments, corrects staff who misgender me

-no egg vibes at all

-much later on Facebook see you might be friends with a woman

-shes very beautiful

-shes very clocky

-picture is of her at wedding to the guy at my work

-mutual friend is a trans friend of mine (I'm not friends with him)

-huh dudes rock

[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (9 children)

The vegans here got my ass, I'm stopping eating meat today and eventually moving to veganism.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago

Came out to my brother, went very very well! Apparently his partner had noticed I've been referring to myself super gender neutrally so they've suspected something is up.

My sister had said she expected him to be super accepting to be contrarian to my mom but he was just cool about it period. Funny that my sister would suspect such a mercenary justification for him being accepting when she herself didn't handle it the best at first.

[–] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (8 children)

Never trust a cissie, not even on hexbear. They will betray you.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

People on here posting transphobia hits different and gives me a whole other level of hopelessness

Edit: oh, and it's a multi comm mod!

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

There's a couple cis people in my life who are chill. I love them very much, they will - and do - support me. Right up until its too inconvenient or visible.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

The fact that he felt this was a good place to repost that transphobic garbage is just wild. Cis "allies" fumble the most simple tests of solidarity.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (10 children)

People really look at turquoise and think its green huh

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

final vacation update, mild content warnings

spoiler depressing topic and background transphobia

Kinda crazy how much "life advice" talk my parents have thrown at me in these past 4 days. Besides just not wanting to ever come back because of this, it's all fucking useless cause it's nothing more than passive discouragement and generic platitudes.

I cannot count the amount of times I've been told "you can tell me anything".

Even though I'm a coward and a loser, no temptations of theirs will make me betray myself and the woman I have chosen to be!

Perhaps these words are dramatic, but they are true and I stand by them till my dying breath.

:::

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Her letter came in and I cried, trans mega today was rough but when I got news her letter awaited me it made today an even better day catgirl-happy

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 13 points 4 weeks ago (8 children)

Random thought leapt into my mind

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Reflexively going to open the door for a girl cause that's how I was raised but she grabs my wrist, gives me a chiding look, and holds it open for me instead

hyperflush

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

spoilerbottom-speak o-oh let me just get that door for y-

top-use-words grabs wrist No, no, no. That's not how this goes. Now be a good girl and let me open this door for you.

bottom-speak whimper

something like this?

[–] RION@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes yes yes

spoilerI don't think I would say anything at first, just automatically reach for the handle with a resigned, almost animatronic instinct. Then I would briefly panic when she grabs me before melting into a nervous puddle of confused shame and desire, staring at her with my big sad puppy dog eyes. She looks back with a firm, steely gaze (ringed with compassion, sorrow for the ways I've been made to act) before i rush through the door and proceed to stare at my shoes the rest of the time I'm with her

Ahhahahahaa πŸ˜…

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

least bottom-y transgirlie catgirl-smug very nice, very nice

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 13 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

T4T must be the greatest form of love, there is no doubt in my mind

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[–] MeetMeAtTheMovies@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Today my youngest gave me a sticker and said, β€œthere, now you’re pretty like a princess” and I almost cried. No one’s ever said anything like that to me before.

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[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

went out w my girlfriend in the weird early stage of transness I'm currently rocking. Mostly boymode (jeans hoodie sneakers) w girl accents (bracelets, necklace, tight shirt, nails). I guess those accents helped because 1) men kept complimenting her in ways that never happened when we appeared "straight" visible-disgust and 2) a cashier called us ladies!!!! i'm going to be riding that high for months

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (7 children)

botton surgery stuffThe number of transbians Ive been with casually before bottom surgery who have now told me they dont actually like vagina is kind bumming me out 😭, wtf I cant believe the only thing they wanted from me was my dick

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Do they not know about strap-ons? You have to tell them about strap-ons

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 11 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Ayatollah Khamenei called to say he's really impressed with your latest win in Super Auto Pets. Congrats!

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I want a gf soooo bad. I was hanging out with my friends and its not that I have a crush on her specifically, but the way she acts, looks at her partner, just having someone close like that. I want a gf. Why no gf :/

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

Ome thing you learn from HRT opening up your emotional spectrum is that nobody taught me how to regulate my emotions and I feel like a chaotic mess all the time with an inability to have stable views of myself.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Realizing I'm hot makes everything in my life make sense now, people weren't being nice to me out of pity but the halo effect. My gf made me realize I was beautiful and I love her so much. She's fucking adorable looks wise and because I adore her.

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

Less than a week till I fly out and see my gf again transshork-happy

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 4 weeks ago

Soooo cute to have a couple pining over each other in the mega again

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (12 children)

So apparently dating apps have lots of trans women and all of them like other trans women

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago

It's interesting how four months can seem like an eternity when you're away from your partner, but those feelings disappear completely during that firet airport hug. It's almost like no time has passed at all.

That said, I'm glad we're closing the distance later this year.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago

I'm learning Cis Women love having a Trans Woman call them "Diva"

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I spent like an hour addressing 20 letters to my gf this morning, hard boring part done and with some cute forest animal stamps ready the fun part of actually writing them comes up catgirl-heart where I write them. Gonna head to a botanical garden tomorrow for inspiration write it like she's besides me to give a feel how it'll be when we go there together

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Update: got tacos. Fuckin stuffed.

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