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This might be a hot take. I have a hard time with people who constantly drives above the speed limit. To me it says a lot about who they are.
E.g.
they believe that rules don't apply to them
that they are egoistic
that they are reckless and can't foresee the potential consequences.
that they lack empathy
I think this one depends on which country you're in. Speed limits here in the US are artificially low. There is an unspoken agreement that everyone goes 5-10 over. I go to Ireland once every couple years and the speed limits on the rural back roads are more like the actual physical limit. Like 80 kph on a winding one lane road that's barely paved. I've tried to reach the speed limit before and it didn't feel safe at all.
Funny enough I have a hard time with people who drive at the speed limit, for the exact same reasons.
Empathy
One of my tests as I've grown older is whether or not that person is capable of treating someone else's children as their own.
Both my father and step father did, so I didn't realize how rare of an attribute this is, nor did I realize how evil not having this attribute can make some seemingly good people behave.
By watching show they behave when they can get away with doing the bad things.
Everyone will name some virtue they consider themselves to possess, and then use that to judge someone else.
I do the same thing almost everyone else in here actually does. I ask, 'how much are they like me?' Because, we all think of ourselves as being a good person. If I'm shocked and repulsed by something they do, because I wouldn't do that, then they are a "bad" person.
A few will say the opposite, "If they don't do what I do, then they're better than me, so they're probably a 'good' person." Because to those few, self-depreciation makes them a "good" person.
It's all about empathy. If they lack empathy or kindness then fuck them. I don't want them in my life and I prefer not to interact with them.
Thats fair
For me it is more about what does the person contribute for the betterment of society.
I determine it by analyzing their attitude, behaviour, body language, their personal beliefs.
Reasonable
Heh. I assume everyone is a bad person unless they immensely prove that they aren't. they can't do lots of drugs, lead chaotic lives, be anti-intellectual, be a gossip, be greedy, a control freak, have an immoral job, use religion as a cudgel, have no integrity, be overly optimistic, have lots of kids, etc. etc.
Optimists can be cringe but do you really think it makes them bad people?
Thats a pretty cynical view but I get it.
How do they treat those that are "beneath" them? Customer service workers, pets, kids, etc. Anyone that they should have some sort of authority over.
That's definitely a big one for me.
In addition, how quick they are to declare others to be beneath them.
THIS is the answer. You can tell a lot about a person on how they treat people that they cannot use to make themselves richer or look better.
When you die, you will bring no money with you. You will bring no material items. Your words will be forgotten. Your name will eventually crawl its way back into the abyss of non-existence from where it came along with all the others. The ONLY thing that will have mattered in the slightest in your measly and momentary existence is how you made others feel. To live a life with any sort of self-importance is to rob yourself of the only thing that matters in the entirety of the known universe.
By how they talk about people who aren't part of the conversation. Someone focuses a lot on heaping contempt on former coworkers and romantic partners, it's a bad sign.
Their ability to return their shopping cart to the corral
Cart NARCS will forever live in my mind rent free
Small addition: while nobody is watching. Or at least they think nobody is watching.
The true litmus test.
If they harm other people, intentionally or not, physically, emotionally, etc. And they could stop but choose not to, then often they are a bad person.
Fair
Easy. By what they say and do.
I assume everyone is good by default, and I'll usually let a tasteless joke slide once, because we all occasionally put our foot in mouth.
If their actions and words don't mesh with my own moral compass, they aren't a person I associate with any more than necessary.
Id agree
How people behave towards animals is a really big one for me. If someone doesn't like cats or dogs or any sort of critters for any reason other than a traumatic childhood attack memory I assume something is deeply wrong with them. I realize plenty of bad people don't hate animals, but I assume if you do then you can't be good.
Although philosophers who embrace moral realism will have different views, my takeaway is that it is much harder to be a virtuous moral agent than the layperson assumes.
That said, if I find that a person often puts their own interests above those of everyone else, this is a good indication of questionable character.
Ocular patdown
Always hit em with an ocular pat down
If they lie all the time, they are probably willing to do other awful things as well.
If they are willing to steal outside of a desperate situation, if they treat someone who's been good to them awful, if they treat those beneath them awfuly, if they judge based on location, race, etnicity, etc. If they put whatever fantasy world they live in, over reality (antivaxxers and such, and yes religious people).
If they co-operated with Jeffrey Epstein, they only belong in the woodchipper.
I'd mostly agree but would need to hear more about your view on religious people I guess.
Antivaxx mom let's baby die of mumps, because God wanted us to live (and die) natural lives, India citizen drinks infected, dirty lake water, because "holy water can't be dirty".
Ok, so you found some way to cope with life, and you believe in some deity or whatever, that's a you thing. But then, you start getting people killed over what is a belief, when you can clearly see with your own eyes that it is not working.
Was it really worth it?
