Social skills. Everyone, especially the young, seem more inward focused than ever.
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Reading card files in libraries.
Servicing and repairing many things in the house, but devices were far more easily diagnosed and repairable due to not being computerized. Really the “it’s broke and I gotta fix it” ability across age groups has really dried up. Doesn’t matter if it’s changing a tire on a car, or a kid having to fix a punctured tube on a bike tire to get to their friend’s house. They don’t ride anywhere for that matter. Changing brake pads. Changing the air filter in the home HVAC. People don’t do this stuff anymore.
Being bored.
Reading newspapers, books, magazines, etc. I don’t think people read as much anymore.
Hobbies. I think they’ve kinda died off, at least the physical ones. Model planes, trains, building stuff in your garage, cars, etc. Some of it’s been priced out of range or has gotten too technological for some, like cars, but manually creating something as a pastime has really disappeared.
Remembering a lot of phone numbers in your head.
I’m sure I’ll think of more, but it’s been a while since I was a kid and thought about pre-modern tech society.
Meeting up with people, no phone. You arrange a place and a time, and you show up, if the other person isn't there... You wait.
It was super important not to leave people hanging
Recently I have started having to ask hours before a plan is meant to execute, whether the other parties are still attending. Three times out of four I've been cancelled on - forgot, too busy, whatever the reasons were.
When was I meant to find out? When I called you asking how far away you are, only to find you're not coming at all?
Basically, those people were not going with you. I wouldn't consider them your friends. Friends would at least tell you they are bailing so you don't go
There were a lot of older ladies sewing when I was growing up. I think nowadays we just throw clothing away and buy new stuff. At least until lately when there was a large middle-class. Typewriter repair was a thing in my town as well.
Chopping wood, managing a fire.
In the 80s we had to light a wood-fire hot water system. Chopping wood and managing the fire was one of our chores as kids. We had a wood stove in the kitchen too but never cooked with that because we had a gas oven as well.
Critical thinking.
Deferral to expertise perhaps.
Doubt it. We like to think this becaus we only recall the smart ones. The stupid were left behind. We as society have way more exposure to each other now. Doesn't make people from 50 years ago any more clever. Especially with less education.
Definitely more than 50 years ago, but this little piece of Americana is interesting
Families often had small nail-manufacturing setups in their homes; during bad weather and at night, the entire family might work at making nails for their own use and for barter. Thomas Jefferson wrote in a letter: "In our private pursuits it is a great advantage that every honest employment is deemed honorable. I am myself a nail maker."
Thomas Jefferson made nails for commercial profit in purpose-built workhouses on his estate. Or to be specific, his child slaves made the nails
Idling away the time, being bored.
Doing nothing. That might be the biggest loss in the last decades.
There is just this overtone of restlessness and tension that didn't seem to be present prior.
Also connection with your local community. 50 years ago, it was basically a given. It was part of life.
Now, not so much.
Photo retouching as a physical trade. Colour photography and instant development killed the art of retouching black and white photos almost from one day to the next, because nobody could retouch colour photos and nobody wanted to pay for retouching black and white photos anymore, when Polaroids were easy to reshoot. My grandparents did it, but had to close the shop in the 1980s. I still have a few of their pens, but most of it ended up in a museum.
50 years ago was in the 1970s. I actually think more skills were lost just in the 20 years prior to that than after. This is due to mass production and plastic, which created the consumer products since the 1960s. Prior to that, you'd actually consider all products (except food) to be a purchase for life.
Writing thank you cards and letters.
I still write thank you cards. People really like getting them. In my mind, it's worth the [small] investment of my time and effort to show my appreciation for something.
People should definitely do this more often. Makes it so much nicer to receive an actual physical card from someone.
Postcrossing also still exists, nice to send some postcards to random people around the world.
Cursive writing
Still taught everywhere in Europe.
Fun fact: taking notes by hand helps you learn better than typing them.
They stopped teaching it here in the US, which makes me wonder what people will use for a signature.
My son is learning it in 1st grade at his school.
Not entirely, my son still had to have lessons on it in elementary school for some reason.
I use a graphical tablet (wacom) to write my notes. If i write my notes, i remember them much better.
Navigating a paper map.
You want to drive to a suburb of a big city. You have an address. The internet doesn't exist.
How do you get there? Well. You use a map. Almost every glove box would have a local and state map, if not a full map book like a Thomas brothers.
I had a few big atlases in my car. One for my city, one for my state, and if I went somewhere else on vacation or for business, I'd get an atlas for that area as well. After a while you have a library of them in a box in the trunk.
Driving and flipping through an atlas was the pre-GPS version of texting and driving.