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Its the selfishness of people playing loud ass tiktoks, looping AGAIN and AGAIN, on public transport. Like use some fucking headphones. You can even get shitty wired earphones for like 3 quid on amazon or at a corner shop.

At my last doc's appointment, some 900 year old Lady was blairing AI Facebook reels at max volume in a crowded waiting room.

I genuinely believe in most cases its a clear indication of genuine cognitive dysfunction.

I'm extremely annoyed when people do anything.

I can imagine how someone who is still a good person overall might commit certain serious crimes. But the petty stuff like this or littering immediately places whoever does it in the "person I detest" category in a way that, say, robbing a bank would not. The thought of having all that money is a genuine temptation, and maybe the robber needs it for something important. Meanwhile playing audio in a subway car is just completely unjustifiable.

Japan has ruined me for going anywhere in public elsewhere. If someone is playing anything that others can hear, they will get told off. I love the silence. (This unfortunately does not apply inside store like don kihote that have 37 different things blaring music at once and I can't enter without noise-canceling headphones).

From time to time I see people taking video calls on speaker in public (in enclosed spaces where everyone else can hear); in situations like this I'm always tempted to pop into the frame and say "HELLO!" since apparently the call is public, not private, and that maybe they'll get a hint. I've never actually done it since I have the common decency, but others, sadly, just don't seem to take social cues.

I can't fuckin stand it, but I get its an irrational anger, and so suppress my urge to do irrational things

It's infuriating and I don't understand how anyone is ok with doing it.

If I'm walking back from the pub I'll play something out loud and audio book etc.

If I start approaching people i turn it off until I'm out of their earshot again.

In an enclosed space public transport etc i think we should be allowed to smash their devices

Yes. Inconsiderate & selfish people.

I was just getting annoyed at my husband for exactly this and your post was literally the next one in my feed. Felt like kismet.

Anyway YES it drives me crazy. He seems to love watching videos on his phone. I don’t get it at all.

For me it’s the generally underpowered, terrible speaker paired with the worst quality audio you could imagine (128 kbps MP3 in 2025?).

Very much, yes. It’s so disrespectful to other people.

Me speaking into my phone: "No way! There's an asshole playing videos with the volume all the way up sitting next to you too? What are the odds?"

Yes. The absolute worst is in the lobby at a doctor’s office. It’s quiet and then filled with whatever video stream they decide to play.

I’ve started carrying my headphones with me to drown out those situations, especially if I know it’s going to be a long wait.

It's best to retaliate by getting one of those live echo/looper apps to play their obnoxious noise right back at them. Extra fun when others join in.

Oh yes, I hate disrespectful people so much.

I firmly believe we should test those people who don't put their carts back, and who play tik tok on loudspeaker and banish them to a remote island. We would have a utopia overnight.

/s (or is it...)

Me and my friends used to play frisbee golf. I started hating being associated with them about the time they started blasting their music on the course. I don't like to attract attention, ever. Id rather blend in the background. So I just make up an excuse when envited. I'd rather play alone anyway.

Personally I like hearing the birds or catching some wildlife doing their thing.

Yes, It's a sign of people that do not think of others and that bothers me a lot.

Would never happen in Japan or Korea.

Every day I curse Tim Cook for getting rid of the simple headphone jack. Now I can't just hand cheap dollar store earbuds to people on the bus. Not that I ever did that, but I've sure thought about it.

Same with loud exhausts on cars and motorbikes, I hate those people

my wife does this and it triggers the fuck out of me. I get so stressed out by it I just go somewhere I can't hear it anymore and just disappear for hours.

choose your battles.

Yes. In the rest room is the worse.

In the past Apple included earpods with their phones, and this was a relatively small problem, but ever since they and other manufacturers stopped doing that, this behavior has exploded.

It is stupid, the people are getting a worse experience of the video while disturbing others.

The worst offenders are not the video people, but the speakerphone callers.

This annoys me even more than the speaker video people, simply because there is zero excuse. The phone has everything needed to hold it to your ear and talk without the speaker.

Yes, but I honestly don't entirely understand why it bothers me so much. I think it's the compressed and high-frequency noise aspect of it. Like if someone just had white noise blasting out of a tiny phone speaker, there would be no discussion that it's intended to annoy.

They do it on purpose just to irritate other people. People have no respect nowadays.

It is attention seeking behavior. Don’t feed it.