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Because this guy has the funniest name ever 💀

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[–] zaphodb2002@sh.itjust.works 13 points 6 days ago

Why should I change? He's the one who sucks.

[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I have an extraordinarily rare last name combined with an extraordinarily rare first name, I’m literally the only person who has ever had my full name in the entire history of humanity, I’m keeping it.

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[–] Cheems@lemmy.world 9 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Changing your name is an insane amount of work and it is not worth it

[–] imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I would argue about insane amount, but would agree that it is not worth it.

[–] Cheems@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (4 children)

If you're just changing your name without getting married there's a lot of paperwork, you have to stand in front of a judge, then you have to change all your banking information and everything else that had your previous name on it. And so help you god if you lose that paperwork that says you changed your name if you happen to need it years later it's a huge issue. It's a lot of work to change your name.

[–] imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 6 days ago

I did change my surname late in high school. Maybe it is cause of my country, bur yhat was not so easy. I just wrote a letter to the birth certificate register with a good reason to do so. Once they replied with "you're good to go" I just wen to the passport issuer with that mail and changed my name. What happens next is the problem - change name in all instances - school, work, license, bank and so on.

When I was younger and less involved in this world, it was quick. Today, with all the subscriptions, payments and registrations - screw that. Too much effort.

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[–] Twoafros@sh.itjust.works 9 points 6 days ago

Harvey Epstein is crazy bad luck for a name.

For me, it depends on the crime and how common or uncommon the name is but still probably not.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 9 points 6 days ago

No, because my name is already very common and there are several prominent murderers, war criminals and even traitors who share my name, and I barely rate among them.

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 6 points 6 days ago

An ex of mine had the same name as the wife of a killer. I find it hilarious that when you Google her name, that person comes up. I hope it forever is an impediment to her finding employment. What? No, I'm not bitter.

[–] Coyote_sly@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago

Hell no, people can finally spell it.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

No, I hope I’d have the self-confidence to own it.

  • I went to school with a kid named “dick”. Not Richard or rich, but he insisted on “dick”. He was the first to joke about his name and he laughed about it. I don’t know how he truly felt but everyone loves the comedian, and even bullies couldn’t make fun of him
  • I just got a new coworker with the same name as a famous comedian, and same deal. His intro speech started with “not that one”, and he can quote movie lines with the best of us. Actually I haven’t worked with him so know nothing else about him. I remember his name and that he has a good sense of humor
  • my name Isn’t at all common but there’s a professor in Chicago with the same name, who has authored a bunch of text books. Does it count that I sometimes joke about my “alternate life”?
[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago

my name Isn’t at all common but there’s a professor in Chicago with the same name, who has authored a bunch of text books. Does it count that I sometimes joke about my “alternate life”?

I googled my name and found some old dude with a PhD lmao.

[–] n7gifmdn@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 days ago

No, changing one's name is a pain in the ass.

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)
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[–] Confused_Emus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

My whole name - first, middle, and last - is one of those that’s so generic I’m damn near impossible to Google without already knowing other key identifying details. Details that, if you already knew, you probably wouldn’t need to Google me anyway.

[–] Bahnd@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago

Welcome to Port Royal, Mr. Smith.

[–] Xaphanos@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

My last name is limited to my 5 closest relatives. This is due to a bizarre misspelling 3 generations back followed by mostly female descendants.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Have you searched for the name outside your family line? I know you said misspelling but my last name is rare because it was made up by immigration on Ellis Island: they couldn’t understand my ancestor so decided “close enough”. Same thing as a rare misspelling.

Before the internet, we knew of one unrelated person with the same last name but only because he was he was geographically close enough to be in a neighboring phone book. When someone took my Gmail (identical first initial, last name) it was a relative. Now with the internet and person search we’ve found a handful, but only a handful

[–] Xaphanos@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

Yes.

It was changed when my 7-year-old great grandfather was sent to school with the dozens of other immigrants from the tenement building. He spoke his name, the German school administrator wrote what he heard, and that was it.

There are 2 other super-similar names that I assume are related, but without DNA, I can't prove it. I am the family genealogist, so I'm never done researching.

[–] crystalmerchant@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Whoa super cool! I would ask you to say what it is but do not expect you to answer :)

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[–] roofuskit@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

No, this has happened and I did not feel the need to change my name. Nobody even associates my name with his because his heinous crime happens so often in my country.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

The were 4 other guys in my high school with my name. So no, can't see bothering to change it.

[–] switcheroo@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I guess I'd just get married

My last name is lame anyways

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[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 4 points 6 days ago

Honestly, pretty good litmus test for filtering out people obsessed with true crime. I'd keep it

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 3 points 6 days ago

The spelling of my last name is rare enough where I live that I sincerely doubt anybody here, who isn't already part of my family, would be heinous enough to do that.

So, probably not. I already don't really associate much with extended family to begin with, so I'd probably be out of the loop for a long time anyways.

[–] Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 3 points 6 days ago

Probably, because my last name is pretty rare. I actually have my mother's surname so I think I'd just change it to my father's.

[–] zlatiah@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

Jokes on me there are close to a hundred million people with the same last name as me, I'm not changing

[–] billwashere@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I already share a name with a fairly famous (although now deceased) comedian so I doubt it.

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 3 points 6 days ago

In ex Spanish or Portuguese colonies, where having 2-4 family names is common, that happening would mean someone in your (extended) family did it

[–] leftzero@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 6 days ago

Probably not. I'm too lazy.

Guess it would depend, but I'm leaning toward no, because it's one thing my father gave me that I will always have, and he passed away over 20 years ago. I'm a Stephen King Constant Reader like my father before me, and Sai King says "do not forget the face of your father."

I live in an area where I'm the only one related to me for hundreds of miles, with the exception of my wife, who took my name when I married her. But there are other people using my last name. No relation. Way I see it, if the wrong people come looking for me, they'll find them first, and they don't know me. Maybe one of them has my first name as well. Maybe that person will be my designated decoy. I'm not on social media, so my face isn't widely known. Some bad dudes come looking for me, these other people will probably catch their attention before I will. I say let 'em have it.

[–] tover153@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 6 days ago

There are exactly two people in the United States with the same Last, Middle, and First Name as me (It's actually still true if you leave out the middle name). The other one is a few years younger than me, and when we were both somewhere in our 20's (quite long ago), the other one had a bit of trouble paying his bills. Given the unusual name, I had a few interesting calls trying to convince some really unhappy creditors that they weren't me.

A few years later they sold spices, and the multi level marketing spice company really had a problem distinguishing between us. They married someone whose first name is one letter different than my spouse.

Now the biggest problem is they are an elected politician. The good news is they moved to a coast, and I still live in the midwest. If they became more infamous, I would change my name.

[–] LettyWhiterock@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

Sure. I have no attachment to my last name.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I was named after a family member before everyone discovered what a criminal he was. To be clear, my family will not use my birthname. I thought that was a winning story until I met a guy named Chuck. Chuck Manson.

Neither of us have changed our names.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 2 points 6 days ago (3 children)

I share an almost identical name with some right winged POS. But I think the people I run into aren't going to confuse us.

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[–] callyral@pawb.social 2 points 6 days ago

One of my last names was severely misspelled a long time ago so I doubt anyone else not from my family has it, and I wouldn't change it. As for the other last name, it's kinda common so no I wouldn't change it either.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 2 points 6 days ago

I have an ancestor who invented a famous sport and a second cousin who set someone on fire and buried them alive.

[–] Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 2 points 6 days ago

Hell, there's a famous singer with my whole name, and I won't even give up music. Why the hell would I change my name over something someone else did?

[–] Kazumara@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 6 days ago

Except for the exact spelling I already share a last name with a war criminal president. But since I'm in a different country and the name has a positive association with an author here, it hasn't really seemed like an issue.

[–] RodgeGrabTheCat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

The only issue with sharing a name with a famous criminal is on a job application. And if HR can't tell the difference between someone serving a very long sentence in prison and me, I wouldn't want to work for them anyway.

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