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[–] Bbbbbbbbbbb@lemmy.world 72 points 3 days ago
[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 53 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I'm the person responsible for my surname becoming extinct worldwide. It was a very rare one and I was the only one left being able to pass it on. Too bad I changed my surname when I got married, plus I'm queer. Double kill for that legacy. The last few people on this planet with my previous surname will be the last ones.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 37 points 3 days ago (1 children)

sometimes ending things is beautiful.

[–] houndeyes@toast.ooo 18 points 3 days ago

sometimes ending things is beautiful

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)

your parente about to adopt another child

I don't think so since they are divorced and retired.

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 33 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Anyone remember that great Frankish family that lived in the north of modern day France, 3,000 years ago? They had many children and they were farmers that lasted for a hundred generations. Great people, they grew excellent wheat that made good bread and the men were known as good wood workers.

Their family died out about 200 years ago.

Anyone remember them?

No, no one cares after a few years.

Do you remember the people from 500 years ago? 1,000? 10,000?

Sure we might remember a name or title like Alexander, Genghis Khan, Charlemagne, Ramses, Ceasar or Mughal .... but aside from their name we don't know anything about them.

Our names and families no matter how big will be treated the same in a thousand years ..... we'll all just become a nameless mass of humans that existed.

And if we all understood that, maybe we'd treat each other a little better

[–] OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Someone tell my mom that. Apparently it's the most important thing in the universe to start a family.

[–] bear@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Can I tell her that most experts expect the world population to nosedive and the vast majority of bloodlines to die out over the next 200 years? The human experiment took a wrong turn.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

right? i taught some friends (who have kids) how to make one of my favorite bacon tomato pastas. now it's not just my secret family's recipe, it's our secret families' recipe. and honestly, i am really bad at keeping secret recipes.

that's the kind of thing i'd pass down to whatever kids i might have had. now i go in and volunteer at my wife's class. i'm really hoping they do some kind of simple cooking unit because food is my #2 passion.

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I've never understood the idea of secret recipes, except maybe for a business. You found a really great way to make something, and it's more important to you that it's associated with you than that more people get to enjoy it? Bizarre.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

In general I agree! There are specific people I wouldn't share with just because they're either 1. Bad at following recipes and would blame me and the recipe for it being bad instead of their shitty cooking or 2. They'd immediately use it to one up me and be really mean about it. That last group currently does not exist for me but use to.

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago

Yeah, those are valid points. I've seen some people go out of their way to let someone else know if they figured out the secret recipe, and I can see not wanting to share with people like that.

[–] lath@piefed.social 23 points 3 days ago (2 children)

"Without having kids, you'll never understand what it feels like hearing you say that."

[–] grte@lemmy.ca 34 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Damn, mom, I'm never going to know what it feels like when someone refuses to change their life around entirely for my benefit? How sad. Somehow I'll find a way to go on.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 10 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I suppose I won't. where's the quote from?

[–] lath@piefed.social 12 points 3 days ago (2 children)

A Hallmark type movie. Don't remember the name as I just use them sometimes as background noise, but it was the usual kind: woman unwillingly goes back to hometown, clashes with parent about career vs having a family, meets childhood sweetheart, plot, decides to stay at the end.

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago

What has 5 background settings, 36 actors, and 1 plot?

A Hallmark movie.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That is a very Hallmark plot

[–] lath@piefed.social 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yup. They usually change the details like having a farm or a local family business, but it's generally the same framework.

I started watching them back when it was a new thing, they were welcomed wholesomeness. Then it was for the actors they managed to trick into playing the roles - usually people from Sy-Fy series like Eureka and Stargate Atlantis. For a while it was said Hallmark became the place where the careers of actors came to die. Eventually, i reached a stage where I barely watch and just listen, if even that. Still, it's somewhat soothing i suppose. I've never come to actively dislike them, despite the churn mill style.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 5 points 3 days ago

that's valid. all my knowledge of them in this decade comes from watching Jenny Nicholson videos about the genre so I can definitely see the appeal.

[–] dumbass@aussie.zone 13 points 3 days ago

It's kinda funny that centuries of people getting together and surviving to pass their genes on for the next generation, all ends with this dumbass.

[–] Dragonborn3810@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why has Ryan gosling been pasted over the original image?

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

so the meme came from r/okaybuddyliterallyme where disenfranchised and depressed young mascs used to indulge their loneliness by shitposting retrowave and referring to themselves and eachother as "Literally Ryan Gosling". Think like Mr Meseeks but instead of murdering eachother they just crash out and get really obsessed with Drive [2011]

Was a really funny place. Don't bother going there now, since last spring they basically all got grifted by right wing podcasts and now it's just another misogyny board

[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

I have cousins, im sure they'll carry it on just fine without me

[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 days ago

That's a problem on their part for only making one child.

[–] moonbunny@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago

Can relate. I’m the end of my bloodline as well- at least for my branch of the family.