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Hi! I've been extremely tired this week and nearly forgot that I was hosting one so I'm writing this last minute! I couldn't think of anything so I'm going to write about one of my hamsters who is not Biggs; Meredith

Meredith was another hamster of mine from a few years ago during the early days of COVID, and she was the absolute sweetest little creature I had ever met. Very friendly, very gentle. She loved exploring anywhere I put her into and never bit me ~~okay she did once ever~~. She was an absolute sweetheart and bundle of love and was with me during some of the rougher parts of my life

She unfortunately died very suddenly out of the blue one day at a terribly young age showing no symptoms of anything wrong with her prior, which breaks my heart to this very day

I never had her as long as any other hamster of mine but I don't think I had any other hamster touch my heart in quite the same way. I miss you, girl


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[–] SockOlm@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I've successfully finished my finals :)

Stalin would be proud catgirl-salute

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

sexFollow up on https://hexbear.net/comment/6124212 She came over for a few days, and we basically spent them high and fucking. It was amazing!

I need to freak out less and be more confident.

Also I'm fully in my slut era, I hooked up with three other people in the last week too :D God I love being a cute girl

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[–] Bruja@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Bruja@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Almost as lovely as her former caretaker!

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago
[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Trying to figure out what I potentially want to do with my hair going forward, but it’s hard because you see people with all kinds of hairstyles but you have no idea if your hair is suitable for it or what they have done to it necessarily. kel-screm

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I'm like 4 years too late to the party with this game but there's this one little detail about Hades that I noticed and absolutely adore and need to talk about for a second?

almost every character has a unique thing they refer to Zagreus as. "Prince Zed/Your Highness. Lad. Boy. Little Hades. Nephew. Grandson. My Kin. My Little Godling. Cousin. My Son. My Child. Zag/Man. Stranger. Hon. Boyo. All of those are from different characters and it gives the game so much life that half the cast has a unique thing they refer to Zagreus, the player character as and it's just... MMMM. peak writing

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Okay

I've obviously not been in the best spot lately

Is coming out to my friend/manager a good idea or no? She's gay and has gay friends tbf. But I don't know about trans people. Also my shave still fucking sucks. It'd be in like 9 hours, maybe a bit more. Or uh I could chicken out again. Just has been on my mind a lot.

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

It's always a gamble with the cis, but being queer increases their chance of being supportive.

You also don't have to worry about things like your shave. You can say that you're not safe at home to transition, so you may not look it, but you're a trans girl.

It would be nice to be around someone who knows who you are at work.

After that, if you feel safe, you can talk name and pronouns with her.

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (24 children)

I know a lot about shaving. So if you need some help, I can definitely give you some tips, which will drastically improve your shave.

Just let me know. lea-finger-guns

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[–] shallot@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Meredith was a cute little nugget, thank you for sharing her with us :)

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Saw Sinners last night, amazing movie. absolute-cinema

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

sicko-fem finally got around to doing my eyebrows and damn i did a good job i think

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

you're telling me a chihuahua fridayed this rice?? circle-quad-2

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[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Hestia left-unity-2 Estra

Putting off the mega till last minute

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

All my friends pretend to be woke but they all doggirl-sleep, curious probably having gay ass dreams just like the girl reading this comment phoenix-evidence

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

unfortunately, I'm not breedable, I'm readable. I have a terrible poker face and it says so much more than I ever conciously realize

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Had a powerful dream where all my previous lovers outed themselves as gay for me in a ritualistic way and begged me to date them. I stepped on them and walked away, they don’t deserve me.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

Oh yeah, i’m on that bi-cycle sicko-biker ! hexbear-bi

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Keep thinking of my height, got measured yesterday and like still the same. Just thought well duh I'm not getting taller but the horror dawned on me of what if the reverse scared might not be able to reach up on the top shelf where we keep the good shit away from the shorties

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Made the mistake of looking at pictures of myself today. It's so over

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Got a haircut recently and this time it actually turned out really well. Last time I got my hair butchered and was really upset about it.

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[–] Luna@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Had a lighthearted message here and was going to write about my hair, but I ended up ripping off the bandage so to speak

the main stuff (CW: anxiety, depression, dysphoria)Realizing just how much these three can make havoc, along with autism, has made me realized just how much I overthink things. I thought I had some seriously messed up stuff going on in my head, and talking to a couple of people made me realize that I do! It's just, rather than what I feared it could be, it was mostly this cocktail of anxiety, depression, dysphoria, and autism. Literally overthinking myself into such mental distress, and yeah it's all still there and tangible, but also anxiety is making me think that I'm being logical when I'm simply not. It did not take long for the people I was talking with to contradict my own thoughts, things I could not see at the moment, things I had convinced myself were intrinsic to me and natural. It's trauma, of course it is, but I was failing to account for how it was impacting me, and I saw trauma and ran with what made the most sense, although it was under extremely heavy anxiety, so there was literally no reason to be had there. I'm... working on myself, and I'll get to where I want to be. For now though, I need to focus on centering myself, and that just means dropping trying to be someone else and trying to be in places that might trigger me. Hence, a break I am taking. I've found I'm very easily triggered as of late, and it made me feel incompetent, and I have been beating myself up over it. Things bubbled over talking to people, though, and now it's all just sitting on the surface, issues and traumas I thought I had overcome, emotions I am feeling when I told myself I was already feeling emotions again. I wasn't. The past year proves this, compared to now.

I am in a better place now. I'm getting better every day. It might hurt, or be uncomfortable, I might burst into tears on the regular, I might have to rely on people, but that's not a bad thing as I work through this. And until that point where I do work through most of this, I'm not making grand statements about myself, not putting myself in labels like I've tried to do for so long, tried to fit in. I'm simply me, and that's perfectly alright, it's in fact great. No more hiding, no more bottling things up, no more trying to be more than one person at once. I am just me, the me that I want to be, my favorite me, and the me that I will take with myself into the future.

I don't know when I'll be back from my break TBH, this foxwolf is tired, very tired. I'm kind of set with people too, but that doesn't mean the people on here or on tracha aren't nice people. I just think I need time to myself, I need to set new patterns, put in an effort to become the person I want to be. And I think that means letting go, shutting myself out from all the aspects of social life that stress me out, and just let myself incubate. I'll still chat with people 1:1, but I've found that group spaces lead to more stress, a need to fit in, and I really really do not need that. I'm me, quirks, inconsistencies, and all, and I've spent way too long comparing myself to other people, trying to be people I'm not. It's time to take my first steps into a life of my own making, my own design, my own liking.

More thoughts came out here than I originally intended, this was just going to be a post on my hair while making a joke about posting on Luna while listening to Cult of Luna, but I've realized what I need. A farewell, either for now or indefinitely. I'm due for a megathread post at the start of June, so I think I'll make that my last week with you all, both here and on tracha. From there, I'll probably delete my accounts. Keep my posts, keep my history, but finally say my farewells. It feels weird, pulling myself away when I put so much effort into putting myself out, but I need to figure out who I am on my own, without group influence, without perceived standards and insecurities and jealousies and everything else.

Thank you all for this past year and a bit. I mean it, I would have taken much longer to figure out I am trans had you all not been here. I have met some absolutely wonderful people on here and on tracha, and one who has absolutely changed my life. I feel bad leaving this place behind, but I have to keep in mind it doesn't have to be forever. I can return under a different name, one I likely won't link to myself. I'll also probably stay on matrix, for those who want to reach me there. Still taking a break, and might go through an account reset of sorts, but I'll be there, even if I'm lurking in groups. Feel free to DM me, really, my matrix links are on both of my profiles here, and for those who have talked to me before and want to reach me again, I don't want to cut it all off.

Part of making this announcement is to manipulate my anxiety, in a sense. I can't go back on this, and I've known I've needed this for a bit now. I'm not isolating either, I'm due for a grass touching (in that I should do things IRL, trust me I touch grass). Thank you all, I'll say for a second time. It's been wonderful, and know that this isn't goodbye. Maybe I'll be back one day. Maybe I'll still be active on tracha. I'm still in DMs for sure. It's just hard to tell where things will go from here.

I'll not be posting again until it comes time to do my megathread on June 2nd, 2025. It's a biggie, the acknowledgement of my own existence happened a year ago in a couple days, and the date of the mega itself being the day I came out all at once. Until then, stay safe everyone, and be the versions of yourselves you want to be catgirl-salute

Signed, @AshenWolf@hexbear.net & @Luna@hexbear.net

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

I love my d&d group!

Thats all

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

I dont like a lot of my body but I love my hair. I feel so lucky to have such curly voluminous hair

I'm supposed to sit at my desk and work even when I'm overwhelmed with sapphic yearning? wtf, this is homophobic.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

I made the mistake of re-visiting the Hank Green HRT stuff from last year (where he basically gave a bunch of harmful misinformation which he never corrected). I'm reading reddit comments and getting so angry at redditors from a year ago.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago
[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Go from being sad I'm alone sicko-wistful to hell yeah vocel gang big-cool in my vocel gang arc party-blob

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[–] iridaniotter@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

Yeah my voice is nice and all but one of these days I should probably figure out how to use it for more than thirty minutes straight without having to recover for a day. catgirl-flop

[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Applying to a couple jobs and like, they didn't even give the option of "is this your legal name?" Or "are you trans?" In the affirmative action portion. Just "male or female?"

What they did put was "by signing this you give us permission to verify this information."

And none of the places except for my current employer have known me by my current name, but I haven't legally changed it yet so...

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I love how I look in makeup, but I actuality love how I look more when I wake up all disheveled, having slept in my makeup. Idk why, it's peak though, I look cute!

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