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Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

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[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 33 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

Gender research findings go here

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 7 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

lost my phone so i asked my dad to call it

look over his shoulder and he still has my contact info under my dead name

this is the man who, when i was trying to explain to him why getting deadnamed hurts and why he shouldn't do it, compared to it "the n word"

they were so confused when they learned how far my transition had gotten before i told them

My ex had me in their phone for about a year as Gordon Ramsey after I transitioned (one of those bizarre couples in jokes, I used to sign charity cards as Gordon Ramsey because I did that when I was 18 and thought it was funny). I was surprised I had to explain that I might not want to be saved as a man's name even if it was their phone to do what the wanted, I still had to see it when I was calling their misplaced phone.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 6 hours ago

I got three hours of sleep last night and emotions are hitting harder, if I don't get sleep I'm going to end up breaking down and I really don't want that.

Also I had a dream where my bangs finally got cut, I need to fix my hair so badly it looks awful.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 12 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

Used the ladies room for the third time, it’s always so anxiety inducing.

I almost would rather take my chances with whatever could happen in the men’s room than potentially being labeled a creep or a predator.

[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 8 points 8 hours ago

It gets easier.

I've never been accosted for being trans in the women's washroom, even in very rural places - actually I found it easier to pass in the more rural places cause they don't seem to know what trans is so if you marginally pass they're good. No one has ever given me a second look, even before I started HRT and did NOT pass even a little and was 6 feet tall

[–] Des@hexbear.net 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

latest update: my medical insurance gets finally somewhat decent after jan thanks to finally having enough in my medical saving account to cover my deductible entirely.

obviously this is absolutely cursed the more you think about it but death to america, etc. so i'll be able to do some checkups, take care of some skin stuff, and make sure my body can handle what's about to go down. found out my employer fully covers HRT and other stuff but i really don't want to get them involved. still gonna DIY but need a clean bill of health beforehand.

meanwhile the E vial is safe in a vacuum sealed container, in the dark and refrigerated. still going to just start with weekly IM microdoses and ramp up slowly while ordering my own tests.

would really suck if E gets scheduled during trump admin

also will continue to use all my willpower to tell my hairline to hold out a bit longer

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 7 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

My struggle to completely conceal my beard shadow continues (just need to keep experimenting with color corrector), but I have found a nice lip gloss that adds just the right amount of shine to not necessarily draw the eye to the mouth, but to draw the eye from the beard shadow to the lips.

[–] Des@hexbear.net 2 points 5 hours ago

death to beard shadows.

can't wait until our various trans DIY scientists get ahold of a CRSPR lab and then we can just inject a modified retrovirus that just turns off all of those follicles

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)
[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 6 points 11 hours ago

This one's going into my active vocabulary

[–] morte@hexbear.net 16 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Not to suck my own gock but i think my boobs are really really great and im so happy with them. Theyre very pretty, well proportioned and never fail to make me feel better ab my body even when i have severe dysphoria. Sadly a lot of the women in my family have had breast cancer, idk what id do if i lost mine to that. Cry a lot and throw up and shit myself at the bare minimum most likely

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

That's sad, I'm sorry to hear about that.

Scan your boobs (feel them, know your breasts etc) in the shower or bath every once in a while. There have been a lot of advancements in breast cancer treatment, especially with early enough detection. Your breast tissue goes up into your arm pits and you can get cancer in that area. A mastectomy or double mastectomy is not the end of the world and doesn't affect your femininity, you can get implants and reconstruction and it might be covered if they were lost due to breast cancer if you live in the US

[–] Edie@hexbear.net 8 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns PSA: touch yourself

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 10 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

MasturbationOne mildly annoying thing is that after masturbaiting now that I'm on E, my clit will still be some level of sensitive for like 30-45 minutes, where if I walk or move around, I can feel my clit rub against my panties and its kinds itchy.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 8 points 15 hours ago

idk if this is E related, butI can’t masturbate anymore without my dick hurting after awhile.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 16 hours ago

spoilerI always had the tip/head be pretty sensitive post or near nut since I was much younger. Like my legs would buckle if it got rubbed the wrong way lol

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 21 hours ago

after going through the record of "times I've got ferally horny", I'm starting to think that it isn't PMS related, I'm just a terminally horny bitch

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 14 points 21 hours ago

Think I had the worst instance of cat steps on chest this morning. I can still somewhat feel it, and it's been over 12 hours. Thanks Lenore catgirl-huh

[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 18 hours ago (2 children)
[–] pyx@hexbear.net 2 points 7 hours ago

him and elliott smith should have made out sloppy style

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 4 points 18 hours ago

i think grace is an incredible album

[–] buh@hexbear.net 14 points 22 hours ago

looking at family photos from when I was like 3-4 and I'm just angery in all of them agony

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 5 points 18 hours ago

avoid the communoid

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I had a dream that I started using fae/faer pronouns because they made sense and that RGG was remaking Yakuza Dead Souls kiwami style. I still need to do some searching on the neopronouns to understand them fully but I know the latter is gonna happen kiryu-approaching

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

You should change your pronouns. NOW!

speech-top

kiryu-approaching

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 3 points 9 hours ago

Done and done gonna see how I feel with this rat-salute-2

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 7 points 21 hours ago

The original megathread post I was planning is back on track. I finally sat down and played through a lot of the game I wanted to write on, and it was so much better than I thought it was going to be. Hopefully, as it's a game with an original story, characters, maps, etc., it might be more relevant than the Sacred Echoes posting.

Officially collecting my energy and biding my time spirit-bomb

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Truth or Myth?: Estrogen HRT results in a lowered sex drive

Answer:

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[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 5 points 10 hours ago

My ambient horniness has gone away for the most part and is replaced with a more intense arousal when I am "in the mood"

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 21 hours ago

spoilerIt changes it, and it's absolutely not the same as T horniness (which is probably a relief to most trans femmes taking E) which people interpret as "lowered." Need more foreplay, but twas ever thus - all women need more foreplay than their partners may have expected

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

technically a good problem to have but I'm kinda at an annoying stage with laser. i can't quite justify shaving once a day, the growth just isn't there and I know it's bad for my skin. so like a day and a half is optimal but i still want to shave as soon as i can feel those teeny hairs even if they're literally not visible. and the day and a half schedule is inconvenient if I have to do stuff so I just end up over-shaving because i know it's gonna be an issue by the second evening, you know? once I get a few more sessions and I can comfortably wait 2 days between shaves it'll be fine, just an annoying in-between that's no good for my skin.

instead of working i have successfully absorbed 3 days of missed megathread posting into my cranium centrist

sappyi parasocially love you all trans-heart

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I keep getting almost frustrated at how much transitioning has improved my life because I can't really explain how or why it has in a concrete way. For a while before my egg finally cracked I remember thinking that "okay I might maybe be trans but how on earth would that solve any of my problems?" and honestly I was kind of onto something there. How would becoming a girl solve any of my problems? That doesn't make any fucking sense! And then I transitioned anyway and oh wow I a lot of my problems have gone away! How does that work? I don't know and it feels like it shouldn't but it did!

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 9 points 23 hours ago

I think it has a lot to do with social situations for me. Being able to be myself around people and not put on a persona all the time has both made life so much less stressful and also made me able to form meaningful connections to people. My friends are actually friends now instead of just people I don't mind hanging out with.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Dysphoria is a weight that when you take it off, the world feels so much lighter and easier.

You could be dealing with all the same problems AND suffering dysphoria

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 8 points 1 day ago

You could be dealing with all the same problems AND suffering dysphoria

i mean yeah pretty much. though i also got a bunch of trans girl problems now

still miles better than what i had before though

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Had a nightmare that girltwinks stopped existing. During it someone told me I was a girltwink and I got scared, only to look in the mirror and start to see myself dissolve away into dust.

[–] Yukiko@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

What in the world is a girltwink?

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