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Xenia, the fox girl mascot of Linux, was first designed in 1996 by Alan Mackey. She was meant to be an alternative to Tux, the official mascot.

She had fallen into obscurity, but was noticed by a Twitter user in 2019 and was redrawn as a fox girl. But as it turned out, Xenia was originally meant to be male! The original creator, Alan, was cool with this, saying "It matches the transition of a lot of the smartest, nerdiest Linux users I know" and "And sure, you made her trans!".

So now we have a trans Linux mascot. And I think that's neat.


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[–] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 27 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I managed to stumble across a person who happened to be an auDHDer like myself in a game just now out of blind luck. They had very similar academic interest to mine so we had a fabulous yap session/taking turns infodumping session.

It was pertinent to the discussion at the time so I mentioned the anarchist Ivan Illich's work to them and they were immediately very interested in his stuff. It was definitely in keeping with my "Chuck 'em leftwards and hope they land somewhere good" strategy.

Apparently I still got it in me.

Also Linux stay winning

[–] Edie@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (2 children)

ReadFanon is trans? How much more based can you get?

[–] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 22 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Yeah, I'm an enbie who hasn't figured it all out yet but maybe agender spec? Still learning, always learning.

[–] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

β“˜ You have unlocked the achievement: New ReadFanon gender lore!

[–] morte@hexbear.net 24 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Ughhhhhhhhh the waitress at the cafe im at is a super fucking cute trans girl. I look like dogshit right now and i dont know how to talk to people irl aghhhhh

[–] Luna@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago

i dont know how to talk to people irl aghhhhh

denji-just-like-me

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[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 23 points 2 months ago (3 children)

fucking white queer libs i am so fucking done i was on this nice ace kink server, with my partner partner notices a sus profile, and i autotranslate the hebrew on it, and it's a clear zionist. i even asked my friend who speaks hebrew and he told me it was an israeli nationalist slogal. i alert the mods about this, and the mod i speak to says they'll talk to the other mods.

they tell me to suck it up and they won't do anything. it's not a political space after all (LIKE FUCKING HELL IT ISN'T). this was already too far but i didn't do anything, except privately explain to the mod that this was the wrong decision and why, and ask they convey that to the rest of the mod team.

next day a mod shuts down a conversation that drifted into politics.

so i just fucking posted a song in solidarity with palestine, announced i was leaving because the server is tolerating zionists, and left. wish i'd posted screenshots of the mod convo before i left but hindsight is 20/20 i guess. i was told afterwards by a member that this guy had been much more vocal about his zionism on another server and caused a whole drama.

just. how hard is it to not include reactionaries in queer spaces? this place would boot out anyone who came in with fascist profile shit. zionism is a form of fascism but somehow that doesn't count? like no fash but sure, you support an ethnostate actively committing genocide, why don't you come into our safe space? well great, now there is no safe space. i loved that place. it was the only social space i felt safe in a sexual sense.

does anyone have a recommendation of a queer kink discord server than does not include zionists?

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[–] naom3@hexbear.net 23 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

My tits really hurt. I guess this is just something that happens when I get a cold now

Edit: god this really feels like a monkey’s paw curse. Jokes on them though cause I can take it madeline-stare

Edit 2: KITTY NO!! DONT STEP THERE!!! kitty-cri-screm

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago

KITTY NO!! DONT STEP THERE!!!

oof i can feel the pain sorry catgirl-sorry

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

HRT MomentsJust gave a woman her first injection! She has been on pills for a while, and wanted to give injections a try. I love doing this for my trans comrades. It is really intimate and fun.
screm-pretty trans-heart

[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (6 children)

spoilerI'm a little scared for the future as I'm on pills but the possibility of losing access to them is looking more and more real. I really don't like needles and I feel like I'd be in trouble if that's my only option for HRT. I hope I can find a based trans comrade to help me if that comes to pass niko-concern

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Hello new trans mega kirby-wave

I went for two different walks today and my legs are feeling p o w e r f u l

Night walk had a pretty moon view hex-moon ✨

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[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@lemmy.today 20 points 2 months ago (5 children)

We need more trans fox girls!

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Let me show you in to the trans furries.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Feeling so much queer joy today πŸ’–

I'm SO glad I made it passed the initial excitement phase. I was so worried that I was only doing this because it's exciting, and, once the excitement wore off, I wouldn't be interested anymore.

But the absolute normalcy of my gender is SO much better. When I can present fem in front of my friends and hear my pronouns just as a normal fact of life rather than something I have to build up courage for, it just HITS.

The more I come out of the closet, the more real it all feels, and doubts start melting away. I honestly can't wait to try E!

kel-bliss

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 19 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Might just eat cookies for dinner doggirl-smug

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (4 children)

DONT EAT THE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES!!!! THEY ARE POISON TO DOGGIRLS

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 18 points 2 months ago (1 children)

misgendering, dysphoriaUgh I just misgendered myself and it sucks and now I'm conceptualizing myself as a dude which is frustrating. I want to go back :(

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (3 children)

transness will continue until morale improves bridget-vibe

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[–] morte@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

politics, politics


AOC removed her pronouns from her twitter bio lol even the most left wing dems are snivelling liberal cowards

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[–] allthetimesivedied@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Continuing to struggle with the feeling like I don’t belong, neither as a trans person or even more broadly as a queer person. It feels like a jokeβ€”I’m just a straight cis dude in all but name.

[–] Luna@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago

If you think you are a straight cis dude in all but name, you are probably not a straight cis dude. No matter what others think, the only thing that matters is how you identify, or how you want to be. How you identify, or wish you were, or even may struggle to see yourself as, is how you are, and if that means you're queer and trans, then you are and that's valid. meow-hug

[–] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (5 children)

a second uninstall has hit tiktok gender-reveal

reason beingi really thought that if i carefully curated my algo then i could avoid the shit that burnt me out in the first place.

while there's so many trans users on there i'll miss seeing, the feed equally rewards engaging in content that I like and dislike. end result being a fuck-tonne of radfems talking mad shit about anyone that's not a cis-white woman. the general uptick in 4b bullshit (australian state media even had a fucking article about it) isn't helping that either...

so i think the healthiest thing for me to do rn is to just disengage


imma try to work past my lifelong posting anxiety and lurk less, i have gay takes that must be heard

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago

For some reason my tax refund got super delayed this year, but I finally got it! First time in forever I don't feel broke. Time to get some cute winter outfits catgirl-happy

[–] SpookyGenderCommunist@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (7 children)

!CW Venting, social dysphoria:!<

!Feeling kind of shitty and just generally lost in my transition. There's a lot of stuff about it that feels daunting and that I don't know how to move forward with. Lately I've been wishing I had a cis girl friend who could help me out, and be a kind of 'big sister' I could go to for advice. But most of the women I'm friends with are very butch, and haven't felt super equipped to help me. And the one friend I have who has been able to help, moved multiple States away, and while she's been able to help me with some stuff, the distance has impacted our friendship, and I'm just feeling sad about the whole thing!<

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Gonna logout and touch-grass for a while, comrades. Got some things I need to do. Be back soon! Make sure to keep the cis down in my absence. trans-heart leslie-shining

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I play it cool here, but every week, in my head I'm like, "this is the week I'm going to tell them I'm actually a cis guy and that I can't post with them anymore 😭"

Lmao so deranged peltier-laugh

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 17 points 2 months ago (9 children)

If you ever say that we will forcibly make you trans again

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[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Hear me out; what if we just gave everyone with treatment resistant depression and dissociation a taste of HRT and saw what happened?

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago (1 children)

noooooooooooooooooooo we have to waste threee years of everyone's time doing diagnosis, just give everyone a spike of the dumb bitch juice and it'll weed out the trans people by like 95% accuracy

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 16 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

The radical left has converted me from a puppygirl to a catgirl :3

Edit: my PFP was briefly slightly nsfw hope nobody saw that

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

I remember jumping into the trans coffin in dark souls 2 and never noticing the effect since I was always beef jerky in armor yes-honey-left was in for a surpise when I used an effigy and changed armor lea-blush

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (8 children)

Hi everyone! I (Luna) made this account just in time for a bit of an announcement in terms of my gender thoughts:I've decided to go with the flow as of late, and the flow took me in a very interesting direction. I've given it some thought, and I realized something: What is gender to me? What do I want out of it exactly, and what do I consider gender to be? Sure, I wanted to present more feminine, and I felt the best way to do that was to be a woman. Is that the case, though? It was a pretty lousy assumption, to be honest. I knew I wanted to start feminizing HRT, but does that inherently make anyone a woman? No, they're a woman if they want to be, simple as. Do I want to be a woman? Maybe, but at the same time, what do I really want out of it specifically? Do I worry about playing the role perfectly at every turn, am I bothering to play a role? Isn't that what I'm trying to avoid? Shouldn't I just be trying to be myself? Why do certain things, like coming up with a name, seem so difficult for me, why do I struggle to identify with anything, why do I feel like she/her pronouns work some times and not others, why do I feel like other pronouns work some times and not others (still hate he/him though)? Why does gender seem to encroach on my sense of self at times? Am I trying to conform to a binary I wasn't meant to conform to? Why does this give me such doubt, why do I feel doubt about this stuff? It's not even about my transness, I know I am, I've known that I am, and I don't even see myself as cis at the worst of times anymore, but where does that leave me?

Recently, I've been exploring new pronouns. I asked you all to vote on pronouns for election day, and I honestly vibed with all of them. Okay, maybe not pup/pup's, but would it really piss me off if someone used that? No. I realized all of the pronouns out there (minus he/him) sound great, and feel like they could fit, and I don't mind being called by those pronouns. At the same time though, there are times where it feels like nothing fits. This sums up my thoughts, it feels like no matter what gender I try to realize for myself, no matter what I try to identify as, something goes wrong. I feel trapped, I feel like there's always a limit, even if there isn't necessarily.

A bit ago, I said that the label of demigirl fits me best, and it was the label I first identified with after my egg cracked. What I forgot, both in memory and mention, was that my egg didn't originally crack that day a few months ago. It cracked much earlier, and I had already internalized that identity. I may have presented cis (and not really been a fan), but the identity itself felt like it fit me. I'm fucking weird, I don't fit into anywhere, anything, and that probably applies to gender. I may feel dysphoria at times, may feel the need to cling onto gender in a desperation to have a sense of self, but I am not my gender. I am a human being, with the same level of identity as any other, regardless of what my gender identity may be.

So, it's time for the gender reveal gender-reveal. You may have been getting an idea based on what I have been saying, but I think that being agender is simply where I want to be hexbear-agender. By forsaking gender entirely, I eliminate the endless struggle. I can present however I want to, do whatever I want to (although I could as any gender, this is how it feels for me) without feeling like my sense of self is constantly shifting. I am who I am, beyond gender. What I want for my physical appearance, or how I want to act in the moment, doesn't change that.

I feel like it's going to be tough to let go. I could just be in the middle of a very long 10% agender arc. I could wake up tommorow and decide I want to be a woman again, gender is a fuck and I'm not going to pretend I understand it. For now, though, I'm going to identify as I want to, as I feel most comfortable. I know I do this at least every other week, to the point where it could be a site meme, but I really do feel that every time I start to grasp something, it's like a breakthrough. If this one sticks, cool! I've found it out. If it doesn't, cool! I've still found something out. So, that's me. I'll leave a bit of extra content/context below, but I'm excited to see where my journey brings me, and I always have been, even if it's really confusing ralsei-pout

I'm making this account in an attempt to shift my account from a gendered name to a username. It should also hold up if things are to change (I have no confidence that it won't). Anyway, I felt like I needed the fresh start. A lot has changed in the past few months. Also, I've noticed that how I act greatly reflects how I present, and that includes online. So, changing my account might change that as well.

If I backtrack on this in a week, I'm blaming the carousel hexbear-genderfluid explosion

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (2 children)

If I were to ever look at myself in the mirror and see a pretty person, I'm not sure if I'd have the emotional bandwidth to be able to control what happened next.

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (2 children)
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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (7 children)

vent/suffering/bad eatingSo much pain. I'm so hungry right now. I haven't eaten in a day and a half. I'm starting to cry. If/when I eat something the pain is going to get worse.

Why am I such a failure. Broken. A waste.

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[–] hellomao@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

TW: Discussion of health

spoilerA year ago I had a pilonidal abscess and had to get it drained. Now I have a cyst on the same area.
agony-deep

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[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (3 children)
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did not know about the trans Linux fox girl, ty for making my day better

[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago

Good morning TO YOU

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (6 children)
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[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (8 children)

intrusive thoughtsSometimes I think about using urinals in the men's room and fighting anyone who gives me shit for it. It's so much faster, I don't have to touch anything besides myself, and I think standing empties me out better.

But gawd it would cause so many fucking problems lol

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[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (8 children)

Goodnight comrades, here's part of the code of conduct that i think about alot

Be aware of your own enjoyment of the site.

  • If you find yourself no longer having fun, do something else. There are many different comms on Hexbear, and many different ways to shitpost and have fun.
  • If the site as a whole is just not cutting it for you, take a break. We'll still be here when you get back. Nothing should compel you to stay.

https://hexbear.net/code_of_conduct

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 14 points 2 months ago (11 children)

My friend just sent me a decade old photo of myself when I had a huge beard. Just wearing swim shorts. I'm having complicated feelings.

Like, idk... I'm handsome, but it's okay to think you're handsome and still want to transition. Sometimes feels like I'm fucking something up.

I mean, I look at recent photos of me in makeup/dresses, and I'm still handsome/pretty, but... Idk, it would've just been easier I guess.

Also I had super hairy legs. REALLY glad those are gone. I had actually forgotten what they looked like lol

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