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every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I'm not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)

its not new food, I've been to these places many times before

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[-] EleventhHour@lemmy.world 5 points 34 minutes ago* (last edited 34 minutes ago)

It’s called an anxiety attack. Talk to a therapist about it.

[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 10 points 1 hour ago

Maybe there's something you need to get off your chest. Maybe you feel like you're not being true to yourself.

If you feel like something needs to change in your relationship, better to put it out there and work through it than keep it hidden.

[-] ikidd@lemmy.world 13 points 2 hours ago

Maybe she's poisoning you to get even for not asking her out earlier.

[-] abbadon420@lemm.ee 3 points 1 hour ago

Is this one of those "red flags" people keep talking about?

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 1 points 1 hour ago
[-] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 21 points 3 hours ago

Anxiety?

If that tiny idiot of an amygdala in your brain thinks you're in danger then nausea can be a symptom.

[-] astrsk@fedia.io 8 points 2 hours ago

Anxiety is a possibility, even if you aren’t actively feeling it. This is a good opportunity to seek help from a professional, even if it’s nothing related to that.

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 5 points 1 hour ago

haha I'm too poor for therapy

[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Maybe try a cannabis edible about an hour before you're planning to eat? Offer her one too

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 4 points 1 hour ago

not a fan of weed, gives me panick attacks lol

[-] Rolando@lemmy.world 30 points 4 hours ago

Go to the same restaurants at the same time under the same conditions (i.e. how recently you ate another meal, day of the week, the weather, etc.) but with a different person and see if you still feel ill. Vary the conditions until you find one that correlates with your illness. Then try altering that condition.

If you feel ill under all conditions then see a doctor. In fact it might be good to make a doctor appointment anyway.

[-] degen@midwest.social 4 points 1 hour ago

But babe, we have to go out tonight. It's for science!

[-] Rolando@lemmy.world 3 points 52 minutes ago

"You're not my sidechick, you're my control condition!"

[-] degen@midwest.social 2 points 24 minutes ago

"I know you're sick of it, but I'm gonna need you to get the chicken Parm again. Trust the process!"

[-] radix@lemm.ee 10 points 3 hours ago

Isolating variables like this is so cool!

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 11 points 3 hours ago

yeah good idea honestly

[-] lung@lemmy.world 16 points 3 hours ago
[-] root@lemmy.world 18 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

This happened to me as well. I'd take a few bites of a meal and feel full/ nauseous; Sometimes even throw up. It went away after maybe 6 months of dating and we joke about it now 12 years later.

We chalked it up to nerves, but no one can tell for sure. Best of luck OP! Guessing you really like this person.

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 5 points 4 hours ago

I hope that's it and it goes away on. its own

yeah we've liked eachother for two years now, but I was too dense to realized she liked me back and she was too shy to say anything lol

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 42 points 5 hours ago

Are you just really nervous about being on a date?

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 18 points 5 hours ago

I don't think so? but that could be a factor I suppose

[-] ganksy@lemmy.world 1 points 22 minutes ago

Are there awkward pauses during your dinners? Do you think about things to talk about beforehand?

I guess maybe try to observe what happens just before you get sick each time.

[-] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 10 points 3 hours ago

Your brain has a mind of its own!

[-] OopsAllTwix@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago

Does she stink?

[-] m4m4m4m4@lemmy.world 23 points 4 hours ago

It's because you're pregnant.

But on all seriousness, some say that there are cases when the would-be-father also feels nauseous with food when the girl gets pregnant.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 9 points 4 hours ago

Studio audience: OOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 4 points 4 hours ago

don't think that's a possibility currently

very interesting tho

[-] Chainweasel@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago

Placebo effect?
Maybe you got a touch of food poisoning one of the first times and now you subconsciously associate it with date nights?

[-] frickineh@lemmy.world 23 points 5 hours ago

Maybe she's poisoning you just a tiny bit at a time. Kidding, but have you guys eaten a meal at home together without you feeling sick?

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[-] Today@lemmy.world 14 points 4 hours ago

Try cooking dinner at home together and see if it happens.

[-] L3s@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

I don't have an answer, but congrats on being one of the few to break that friendship zone barrier

[-] strawberry@kbin.earth 2 points 59 minutes ago

thanks mate

[-] Protoknuckles@lemmy.world 14 points 5 hours ago

Are you reacting to her perfume? Maybe she didn't put it on when you were just friends.

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Does she chew with her mouth open?

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