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Can my husband find out who I am voting for in the Presidential Election?"

Olivia Dreizen Howell, the founder of a website to help women get back on their feet after a breakup or divorce, tweeted last week, "We've been getting this question a lot," so she followed up with some facts. As the Washington Post confirmed with experts, the answer is simple: "No; it will be public record that you voted, but not how you filled out your ballot."

The GOP ticket is led by a sexual predator who a jury found "'raped' [journalist E. Jean Carroll] as many people commonly understand the word 'rape,'" the judge in the case wrote. His running mate, Sen. JD Vance of Ohio, has called for a national abortion ban, wrote the forward to a book that denounced contraception for making pregnancy "seem like an optional and not natural result of having sex," and repeatedly called women who haven't given birth "sociopathic" and "childless cat ladies."

Meanwhile, the Democratic ticket is led by a woman who chose "Freedom" by Beyoncé as her campaign song, and has dispensed with the mealy-mouthed language about abortion rights to declare she stands for "the freedom of a woman to make decisions about her own body." Her running mate, Gov. Tim Walz of Minnesota, her running mate, has decried "weird" MAGA Republicans of the "he-man woman haters’ club."

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[-] ptz@dubvee.org 222 points 2 months ago

The big question touching a nerve this election: "Can my husband find out who I am voting for?"

That's one of those questions I feel like, if you find yourself asking it, you should probably get out of that marriage. (I know easier said than done)

[-] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 86 points 2 months ago

Honestly. As a guy who is lefty (and bi, but mostly dates women). The dating scene has been way easier these past 5 or so years.

The political male-female divide means that right wing women, and left wing men, are far more “in demand” among heterosexual people. (queer people are majoritarily leftwing so it matters less there.)

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 46 points 2 months ago

Peter Thiel is really suffering though... and we can celebrate that.

[-] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 2 months ago

I hate that guy so fucking much. It really disenchanted me from NZ that they literally sold him citizenship.

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[-] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 25 points 2 months ago

That's one of those questions I feel like, if you find yourself asking it, you should probably get out of that marriage. (I know easier said than done)

Why do you think Republicans want to get rid of no fault divorce?

[-] Dkarma@lemmy.world 16 points 2 months ago

So the kids they marry can't leave, duh.

[-] nondescripthandle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 91 points 2 months ago

The fact that people put up with partners that make them wonder this is not great.

[-] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 55 points 2 months ago

Many marriages are still fundamentally financial arrangements. Living together is cheaper, especially with kids. And when you own half of each other's stuff (particularly when that stuff is real estate or retirement or cars) decoupling isn't simple.

[-] Hellinabucket@lemmy.world 27 points 2 months ago

My parents have been married for 35 years cause it's cheaper than getting divorced.

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[-] ganksy@lemmy.world 43 points 2 months ago

I don't know...if my wife voted for trump we might have impassible dispositions. I'd have to rethink some shit.

[-] blackluster117@possumpat.io 36 points 2 months ago

I'll never understand women and minorities that are for Trump.

[-] revelrous@sopuli.xyz 31 points 2 months ago

Older women in my family—with the best of intentions, have pleaded with me to overlook abusive, violent men at home because men just can't help the way they are and it's a woman's job to forget and make peace.

These are people that fundamentally don't think they have a right to baseline respect in their own homes by the people who supposedly loved them most. They'd need a decade's worth of therapy just to find their best interests, and then another to act on them.

[-] Mbourgon@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

And if you ask them about Bill Clinton and Lewinsky, it’s an entirely different answer!

[-] Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 2 months ago

I've said it a couple times now, conservative women are some of the most brainwashed on the planet. They're literally voting their rights away. It's sad cause I wish they had all the resources they need and want but they vote against themselves constantly.

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[-] glimse@lemmy.world 15 points 2 months ago

Emotional/psychological/sometimes physical abuse can do that to someone. Especially after the slow, deliberate dismantling of your social circle that sociopaths like to do. Add to that the stigma of being a single mom....

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[-] TheDemonBuer@lemmy.world 84 points 2 months ago

My wife is going to vote for Harris/Walz. She's told me several times. I think I'm gonna vote for them too.

[-] mipadaitu@lemmy.world 52 points 2 months ago

I used to vote for the Democratic candidate.

I still vote for the Democrats, but I used to too.

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[-] rand_alpha19@moist.catsweat.com 68 points 2 months ago

Honestly, I love that my wife is a childless cat lady. It makes everything cheaper and easier. My life is better because I don't have kids, and I'm happy that we made that choice together as rational adults and that we were able to agree that this is the best path for us.

Anyone who chooses to have kids based on their values and circumstances is totally cool, whatever, as long as the kids aren't being abused or neglected, of course. That's your option and I respect it - someone has to have 'em.

But if you don't think people are capable of making the choice not to have kids and that it makes them sociopaths to not have kids, I'm pretty sure you're just an authoritarian who either hates women or has a breeding fetish. Maybe both.

[-] Icalasari@fedia.io 19 points 2 months ago

Considering the sheer strain on the body pregnancy and birth have, I feel like being a mysoginist would automatically qualify one for a breeding fetish

[-] WoahWoah@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

To be fair, not having children is hard on a woman's body as well. Increased risks for uterine, ovarian, and breast cancers to name only a few.

Patriarchal medical providers often don't inform childless women of this and don't encourage additional and more regular cancer screenings.

They just ignore women's concerns, sometimes until it's too late--an all too familiar story for women and the history of medicine.

[-] Wrench@lemmy.world 18 points 2 months ago

Cheaper? My childless catlady wife spends a fortune on our elder cats with health problems.

I have no problem with it, that's what I knew I was marrying. But they certainly aren't cheap. The vets know us like we're regulars.

[-] Sc00ter@lemm.ee 12 points 2 months ago

Still cheaper than if you had to pay for human health problems (in the USA at least)

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[-] Phen@lemmy.eco.br 52 points 2 months ago

Last presidential election here in Brazil some churches were asking their people to swap children with other couples so that those children could keep watch to ensure everybody is voting for the right candidate (children are the only ones allowed to join you in the voting booth).

[-] todd_bonzalez@lemm.ee 53 points 2 months ago

Christians are such cucks. Imagine being a part of a church that uses children to snitch on you to other congregants.

[-] primrosepathspeedrun@lemmy.world 26 points 2 months ago

literally a threat to democracy.

[-] girlfreddy@lemmy.ca 10 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Literally grooming children to obey no matter what.

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[-] recklessengagement@lemmy.world 42 points 2 months ago

As someone who's worked multiple elections, your ballot is never tied to your name/ID. Even if someone broke into the box and stole the ballots, there's no way to know whos is who.

When ballots are audited/recounted, its based on things like the number of ballots vs the number of recorded voters, the signature of the precinct officer, and the qualities of the ballot itself. No identifying informationm.

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[-] rayyy@lemmy.world 38 points 2 months ago

"Mind your own business". Of course some men, mostly Republican men, think they own their wives.

[-] AA5B@lemmy.world 28 points 2 months ago

How is this a big question? Isn’t this common knowledge, one of the first things you learn about voting?

[-] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 45 points 2 months ago

learn about voting

these are fox news households were talkin about.. they want less voting, not more

[-] Today@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago

Voting is not something we do everyday or for most people even every year. Sometimes Democrat and Republican primaries are held in different rooms or at different locations, So if this is your first time or that's all you know, it's a real question.

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[-] HorseRabbit@lemmy.sdf.org 28 points 2 months ago

Man that last paragraph is kind of a train wreck isn't it?

[-] Jordan117@lemmy.world 27 points 2 months ago

Important to note that the same is not true for political donations. Idk what the cutoff is but even relatively small amounts get reported to the FEC and make their way into various searchable public databases. Just something to keep in mind if you're in a vulnerable situation.

[-] nkat2112@sh.itjust.works 27 points 2 months ago

Imagine how it has come down to this.

I salute the women, minorities, and all folks who have decency and do the right thing during this and all other elections. Let's all please be sure to vote.

[-] Cephalotrocity@biglemmowski.win 24 points 2 months ago

Nobody can know who you voted for in the booth unless you tell them. Just that you voted. Ballots are unsigned and you place it in the box (supervised, but folded and unexamined) yourself.

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[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 19 points 2 months ago

Her running mate, Gov. Tim Walz of Minnesota, her running mate,

But is he her running mate though?

[-] OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

I caught that too, and was going to make a comment saying I caught that too.

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[-] InternetUser2012@lemmy.today 12 points 2 months ago

The answer is no, BUT, if you're that worried about it, perhaps your choice of husband is a problem.

[-] Fullyloadedsnowflake@lazysoci.al 11 points 2 months ago

OMG freedom by Beyonce is my jamz 🤣

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