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The fact that people put up with partners that make them wonder this is not great.
Many marriages are still fundamentally financial arrangements. Living together is cheaper, especially with kids. And when you own half of each other's stuff (particularly when that stuff is real estate or retirement or cars) decoupling isn't simple.
My parents have been married for 35 years cause it's cheaper than getting divorced.
Getting a divorce is really cheap if you just do it yourself. If they're capable of living together for 35 years, they should be able to manage signing a few documents together.
The literal and figurative cost of divorce has little to do with handling the paperwork.
Adjusting living arrangements and insurance and other assets isn't as easy or straight forward though. And if everything has to be intermingled why go to the time of doing the paper work.
I did estate planning with my GF because I want to make sure she's okay if something happens to me. It cost $1000. We could have gotten the same legal protections by getting married for $150. And we're both still paying single person tax rates.
I don't know...if my wife voted for trump we might have impassible dispositions. I'd have to rethink some shit.
I'll never understand women and minorities that are for Trump.
Older women in my family—with the best of intentions, have pleaded with me to overlook abusive, violent men at home because men just can't help the way they are and it's a woman's job to forget and make peace.
These are people that fundamentally don't think they have a right to baseline respect in their own homes by the people who supposedly loved them most. They'd need a decade's worth of therapy just to find their best interests, and then another to act on them.
And if you ask them about Bill Clinton and Lewinsky, it’s an entirely different answer!
I've said it a couple times now, conservative women are some of the most brainwashed on the planet. They're literally voting their rights away. It's sad cause I wish they had all the resources they need and want but they vote against themselves constantly.
Or veterans/soldiers for that matter.
Emotional/psychological/sometimes physical abuse can do that to someone. Especially after the slow, deliberate dismantling of your social circle that sociopaths like to do. Add to that the stigma of being a single mom....
It's not ideal. Alas, people change, and sometimes you realize you're stuck in situations where bailing would cause undue hardship to your kids, so you try to make it work.