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Things that are so obvious and ingrained that no one even thinks about them.

Here’s a few:

All US americans can go to Mexico EASILY. You’re supposed to have a passport but you don’t even need one (for car/foot crossing). Versus, it’s really hard for Mexicans, who aren’t wealthy, to secure a VISA to enter the US. I’m sure there are corollaries in other geo-regions.

Another one is wealthy countries having access to vaccines far ahead of “poor” countries.

In US, we might pay lip service to equal child-hood education but most of the funding pulls from local taxes so some kids might receive ~$10000 in spending while another receives $2000. I’m not looking it up at the moment, but I’m SURE there are strong racial stratas.

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[–] poppy_apocalypse@hexbear.net 53 points 1 year ago (17 children)

This is pretty insignificant, but it fucking drives me nuts. Whenever a couple goes somewhere and takes the woman's car, the man drives. It's like some silly power dynamic that is built into all M/F relationships in the US.

[–] ZapataCadabra@hexbear.net 35 points 1 year ago

Me in my hetero cis relationship where my strong beautiful girlfriend drives everytime.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 30 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Holy shit how defensive my mother's husband was over his NEED to ALWAYS be the driver, ESPECIALLY in his big truck, even as a child it confused me.

[–] 7bicycles@hexbear.net 33 points 1 year ago

being driven around is gay unless you pay for it then it's alpha because control fetish

[–] Orannis62@hexbear.net 29 points 1 year ago

Coming out has made me realize there are so many little weird rituals and dynamics in straight relationships that just go totally unnoticed. Queer relationships are such a breath of fresh air

[–] Philosoraptor@hexbear.net 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I usually drive around town because my wife is often high as shit, but she usually drives on road trips because we get there several hours earlier.

[–] ScrewdriverFactoryFactoryProvider@hexbear.net 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Philosoraptor@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago

Yeah she's a keeper.

[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 25 points 1 year ago

I prefer to be a passenger prince. I love looking out the window and making an airfoil with my hand.

[–] Abracadaniel@hexbear.net 23 points 1 year ago

Lol this happens often with me but my partner & I both hate driving so it's an act of service more than anything.

[–] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 20 points 1 year ago

100% opposite in my relationship. Wife hates other people driving. I love having a chauffer.

[–] Adkml@hexbear.net 20 points 1 year ago

Would really appreciate it if somebody would convince my girlfriend to help defeat gender norms by letting me be passenger sometime.

[–] TheLepidopterists@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago

My wife hates being a passenger and I basically only drive if she has a migraine or isn't present. I don't know why someone would have a hangup about it, it's nice.

[–] FALGSConaut@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's the little things like this that make me so thankful I got the parents I have. They've always split driving 50/50, or at least close enough that it never crossed my mind growing up that driving was the man's duty or whatever weird power trip some guys make it.

Edit: also along the same lines, whenever you see a (outwardly hetero) couple on a tandem bike it's almost always the man out in front with the woman staring at his back

[–] charlie@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago

My parents were divorced and both never dated or re-married, they sorta accomplished the same thing!

[–] bubbalu@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago

Flexing and driving my boyfriends car because he gets tired.

[–] WIIHAPPYFEW@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago

Out of my parents my dad is EASILY the worse driver, he doesn’t even put his seatbelt on half the time

[–] bubbalu@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My mom's (italian-american) husband is so on this tip. And he has to be the last person to order at a restaurant.

[–] Scarry@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] zed_proclaimer@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

In my experience this is more on a case-by-case basis based on the couple in question. Some people just don't like to drive, and some other people really hate being a passenger while someone else is driving. Often it lines up that it can be win-win.

[–] SerLava@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

very true and usually, but not always, the man's fault

I’m so happy my girlfriend prefers to drive, being high in the passenger seat is so much better. If I could never be behind the wheel of a car again I’d die happy.

[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I ask my wife to drive, no matter the car, but she only does it on long road trips. However, on long trips she'll drive more than half just so I drive the bad parts like Chicago or Munising.