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Underwear shopping + dysphoria
Buying panties feels pretty dysphoric to me. I wanted to get one of those tucking ones, but that feels so weird to me, it feels like they will look kind of ridiculous, and they're all so boring too, there are almost no choices. Plus there's the fact that it feels super fetishizing in a way? Like a lot of them are thongs, or otherwise absurdly revealing, not in a sexy lingerie kind of way, but in a "LOOK AT MY ASS I'M ONLY WEARING A LITTLE PIECE OF STRING" kinda way .I got some regular boxer style panties, they're comfy and look fine, there is a lot of extra fabric, so everything fits in and nothing escapes, I love it for day to day, does not make me feel dysphoric when using them as opposed to men's underwear, those bother me a lot and I've stopped wearing them.
The main thing is, I like cute lingerie and I want some, but also it feels super weird shopping for something that doesn't take into account what parts I have, I just see all those cute panties and want to wear them, but then I get a little depressed because it feels like it just will not work for me...
I tried tucking with tape before, but it feels really weird and I don't like it, maybe I got the wrong kind of tape for it, idk, I'll have to try another way.
How can a girl find some sexy underwear, with lace and stuff, that does not feel like she's the object of a fetish and is made for her body?
I'm content with the briefs style tucking underwear I got from enfemme, but I don't want lots of lace or anything like that. But my top priority was comfy tucking without tape and second was not being a thong or similar.
Maybe https://www.immogeneolivia.com/ would have something for you if you want non-tucking options. Made by and for trans women.
Just regular panties with tucking would be fine for me.
Wow I like the options there, they're beautiful. Unfortunately, I suffer from living in the global south and buying one of these would be really difficult
I have seen thing I wish didn't exist by searching for tucking panties in my language.
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My tucking panties were fantastically boring, to be honest Im surprised theres like any thong versions. They just look like boy shorts style panties, maybe not as high waisted? They're not really sexy but then again by the time I was in an intimate situation where my panties were showing they didnt really matter lolI used tucking tape but it was made for the specific purpose of tucking, the company is owned by trans women and the tuck tape works well. It needs a little getting used to, but I did and Id wear it in a hot tub or all night dancing and it stayed and felt comfortable. I could wear lacy or cute panties and tuck without tape but it did always feel a little treacherous... wrong move and Id spring untucked. I more or less needed a wider gusset area to keep everything comfy.
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It's the only thing I can find on the internet, must be a cultural thing I guess. If I search in english I more regular ones, but then I have to pay a lot more an import fees and stuff. I'll try looking for tucking tape, but maybe I won't have access to it easily.I'll Look for a wider gusset area if there's any difference.
If you try enough stuff on you can find stuff that will hold a tuck that doesn't look like some kind of medieval torture gear. Swimwear is good for that stuff. Vulvas also have a tendency to pop out catastrophically if your underwear isn't cut right and your vulva isn't the right size and shape for the underwear you're wearing.
Women's clothing is a trial by ordeal. Part of the reason I dress the way I do is because I hate trying on clothes looking for something that works. Let me find something that's cute and fits and let me buy 5 of it in different colors or patterns and we'll call it good.
Oh that makes sense ok
The problem with this stuff is that I can't just go trying on a bunch, I guess I'll figure it out eventually. I got a swimsuit as a gift from a friend and I loved it, it makes me feel really hot. It mostly keeps things safe inside, but I gotta keep adjusting it once in a while. Funny thing, though, I had more trouble with my boobs than anything else.
Well, I'll just keep with the boxers for now, get some other stuff I need first, bras, shorts and casual clothes, I've been dying to throw some of my old clothes away, specially the shorts
Get some full size breifs aka granny panties they're very forgiving
The boxer style ones were fine for me, little bit of a bulge, but if you're seeing it, you're in for it