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I used to be strictly materialist and atheist. Now I’m pretty spiritual. Don’t necessarily follow a religion and don’t support bigotry but yeah, I’m fairly spiritual now. This is a recent development and I never thought I’d be here like 5 years ago.

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[–] TheWeirdestCunt@lemmy.today 49 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Idk why we've reached the point where anyone saying they're anything but an atheist has to specify that they aren't a bigot. Being religious doesn't make you a bigot and being atheist doesn't mean you aren't one either.

I had a similar 180 though, I used to be an atheist but in the last year or so I pivoted into druidism. Turns out following a religion that focuses on spending time in nature helps to get you out of the house when you're going though a depressive episode.

[–] SenK@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, I had a world-shaking 180 for spirituality after I read about Zen Buddhism.

I was a really proud atheist and thought all religions were just believing in something supernatural. Until I actually gave an intellectually honest try at understanding them. Most theistic religions I couldn't get on board with but after I read Three Pillars of Zen, something just clicked and I joined my local sangha. Also begun to understand a bit more about religiosity in general after, though I'm still not a fan of Abrahamic religions in particular.

[–] Paen@piefed.europe.pub 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You say you were "intellectually honest" so I'm curious what it was about Zen that appealed to that kind of approach?

[–] SenK@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The way I was introduce to it framed it specifically as not believing in anything you can't verify in your own direct experience. The book I read ( https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/89766/the-three-pillars-of-zen-by-roshi-philip-kapleau/ ) was actually pretty mercilessly pointing out how much of what I thought to be obviously true was actually just a belief. Meaning what I think is the average westerner experience of the world as explained by science. It didn't offer me a set of ideas to believe in, it offered me a way of disbelieving anything I couldn't know for myself to be true.

Like I said it was pretty world shattering. I realized there is a world BEFORE any thought and that is definitely more real than anything I can think about. I joined the local sangha because things got a little weird for me for a time and my friends kinda thought I was going crazy haha but in my perspective they were the ones alarmingly missing something incredibly important. And I still kinda think they are but it's not my place to try to "convert" them. Since there's no point. You need to have the active desire to actually understand.

[–] Paen@piefed.europe.pub 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But aren't there things that you can objectively know to be true? Wouldn't this just lead to believing whatever you want to believe?

[–] SenK@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I feel a little timid about trying to answer this because at this point, I know that people can talk about these things intellectually forever and it just won't... click. It's so hard to write about too because if I tried to write in a way that very perfectly reflects my experience, the text becomes weird and cumbersome ( and then when I don't, people try some gotchas like "ahaa but you refer yourself as "I", doesn't that mean you still believe in an individual self", no but writing more precisely gets in the way of the message ).

First, believing whatever I want to believe is definitely a danger and actually you see this a lot in spiritual discourse that leans towards Buddhism, especially via New Age stuff and "McMindfulness". Many people happily discard the mainstream beliefs but then they get hooked on their idea of what is true. But the merciless approach that Zen Buddhism has is that nothing you think about is totally true. It's more like a reflection in a mirror ( Interestingly Plato was also alluding to this in his Allegory of The Cave, so this realization isn't unique to Zen ).

That includes the concept of "objectivity". Objectivity relies on the idea that there is some external third party to human experience. But once I looked, or more like was forced to face it, I realized that there is no such thing. I can exchange ideas with what appear to be other people and have an agreement. Like we can probably both agree that we're looking at a screen now. I anticipate an objection here on the "other people". I don't know if "other people" exist outside of me but I know that I don't have control over anything that appears in my mind. Something that I can call "other people" appears, and they have their likes and dislikes and it can be painful if I'm not respectful of that. This is where compassion teachings come in.

Oh and I'm not anti-science at all. Science is great at revealing patterns in the way things appear. Happy to go get my vaccinations and all that.

[–] Asofon@discuss.online 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Tell me you had a certain experience without telling me you had a certain experience.

Were you taught to not talk in certain terms about how your world "shattered"? Because I was.

[–] SenK@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

I was, yes. I think even if I wasn't I probably wouldn't use those terms anyway since in online discourse it never looks good.

[–] Paen@piefed.europe.pub 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Okay, thank you for explaining.

I admit I don't get it, but maybe I'll consider reading that book. It seems I had a mistaken idea about Buddhism. Or at least Zen Buddhism.

[–] SlurpingPus@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

What they describe is similar to the discourse in western philosophy about the mind and the objective reality. There is no way to prove or disprove that the reality exists outside of the mind of the observer, i.e. that solipsism is true or false. But it also follows that solipsism is practically useless. So we must agree that we probably have a shared experience with other people, which we'll call ‘reality’. Then the question is, how close the experience of one observer is to that of other people. This is where stuff like qualia comes in, which posits that it's impossible to qualify immediate perceptual experiences, because each person only refers to what they themselves have experienced. It's entirely possible that one person's sensory experience and perception of the world is wholly different from that of another person. It seems, though, that in practice we have a shared vocabulary for our perceptions and use that to build our knowledge of the world.

@SenK@lemmy.ca does this sound as a correct interpretation of your concept?

[–] Carnelian@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago

Idk why we've reached the point where anyone saying they're anything but an atheist has to specify that they aren't a bigot

The main issue is that the cohort of people with megaphones broadcasting their spirituality is virtually entirely comprised of profiteers.

Like all such parasites they follow the pattern of establishing out groups for you to despise, simply because it drives engagement better. Same reason all major social media now attempts to shape you into a being of hatred and impulse. It keeps you stressed and activated so you jump at the opportunity when they offer to let you spend money to blow off some of the steam.

Bigotry as a phenomenon has many origins, but wherever it springs from it ultimately doubles as an inherently appealing strategy for those who wish wring dry their community.

At any rate, as we all sit here dying around the same poisoned watering hole, we see these profiteers dressing just like us while actively dumping the poison in. Ashamed, we feel compelled to proclaim, “I am not them! They only wear my clothes!”

Spirituality is an incredibly comfortable and practical “clothing” for many people. You’re absolutely correct in drawing attention to how bad it sucks that the people who embrace that comfort now feel pained to differentiate themselves from the abusers who pervert their fashion

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

I had something similar. I grew up catholic and was very devout until I learned some stuff about myself that made me step away for a while. I expected to come back like a year later and join the episcopalians or something, but I wound up an atheist for several years. During that time I was kinda insufferable about it for a while. Then I started exploring pantheism, earth worship, and ancestor devotion because I'd felt I was missing something without religion and lighting candles to talk to my mom helped me cope with how much of my life she doesn't get to be there for. Later an acid trip and some exploration would help me delve deeper and find the goddess I primarily pray to these days. Somewhere later I started using the Wiccan holidays because they're really convenient for solar and seasonal observance and meditation. They also help make it so I don't wonder where the hell the year went.

So yeah, catholic to atheist to pagan. There are many paths up the mountain, find the path that is best for you and makes you better.

[–] FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 day ago

There are LGBT friendly churches run by LGBT Christians. Are they conveniently ignoring certain parts of the Bible? Sure but all Christians do that

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Idk why we’ve reached the point where anyone saying they’re anything but an atheist has to specify that they aren’t a bigot

Most "spiritual" people adhere to one of the big organized religions, and those kinda suck in general and are rarely content to leave nonbelievers in peace.