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Today I have selected a little thing I did a while back to share with everyone, Cats of Ulthar a horror story by H. P. Lovecraft. It might look a little weird because I adapted it from an accordion book format, but I think I did a decent job of adapting it.
And also, remember my last mega? Well, I did manage to finish the book, so I'm putting it here for you to download. I made a version for reading digitally, but the main purpose would be for printing, that's why I stuck with A4 size. I can try to make instructions on how to make the printed pages into a neat book in the future if anyone wants it.
Well, if anyone has any suggestions on other short stories, specially horror stories, I'd love to make them into illustrated books, I love doing this and it's super fun for me, so I'd like to keep going.
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::: spoiler vent about misogyny/transphobia I hate when people tell me my existence is "valid". Like, wtf do you even mean by that? My existence isnt "valid", or rather all existence is inherrently "valid" because it is. Saying im "valid" just reeks of "youre performing femininity in a manner that i dont find immediately disgusting or wrong" and just, fuck that so much. Just be honest and use the word "acceptable" or say "comforms enough that i dont have to challenge my deeply held misogyny", embrace your self-appointment as arbiter of femininity and womanhood and own that youre a gatekeeping asshole.
within above context CW transphobia/ableism
Some cis people I find are supportive of trans people but view us being kind of disabled.Somewhere between harmlessly mentally ill versus cursed with the wrong body. And it makes them uncomfortable so they say things like "valid" in the way someone who walks despite being partially paralysed is "brave".
And they struggle when we show joy, humour or just normalcy because we're aberrant to their world view.
I find my best cis friends and allies are the ones who forget I'm trans even though I'm not passing who will bring stuff up like their period or pregnancy scares or whatever, then realise oh shit and apologize.
But it makes me feel great because they see me as a woman first.
Holy shit real though.
Re: the cursed part I think some cis people are like god/destiny/biology has given trans people the body they don't want and that's sad and we shouldn't be mean to them.
But the solution to them is trans people stay sad freaks they pity. They are uncomfortable with cross gender hormones or surgeries. Why do you need that YOU ARE VALID!
This doesn't just apply to trans people. I have a cis friend who is a bald woman. People constantly say things like "you don't need a wig, bald is beautiful" and she is like "shut the fuck up I want my hair back!"
100000% the validity stuff isnt just trans, thats just where i personally run into it the most cause, well, *gestures vaguely at body*
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I want cis friends who forget im trans. I only really have one cis friend. The rest are all nonbinary or trans. And even there, theres always something that makes things difficult (generally around my experience of autism running counter to either their experience of autism or their perception of autism if theyre not autistic). Idk, just feels hard to find people. But ive got people around me, thats what matters.
I'm very lucky that I have some close friends who are cis women who have really just accepted me as another one of the girls. It has helped me to be less intimidated or mystified by other women.
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I genuinely have no idea what it means when someone tells me I'm valid. I don't feel like I've seen that too much here, but yea literally no idea what that means. It seems like a big deal to some people thoughspoiler
For me, I had so much internalized transphobia from my childhood that my own experience with gender felt illusory or that I had to overcome it somehow. I really dislike the phrase because it is not clear what it means, but I think it's to address experiences like mine. My feelings are real and they belong to me.::: spoiler spoiler Idk, like the way the word is used definitely changes it from being ok to not ok, specifically the statement that my existence is valid is upsetting. If theyre talking about my reaction to something then thats fine, cause my reactions can be valid or invalid. But my existence isnt any more or less valid than other peoples. Idk, my guiding thing to validity statements is like "my thoughts and feelings are inherrently valid cause im having them, my actions taken and words spoken may or may not be tho".