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Today is 1 year on HRT. Should probably have some bigger meditations on it but right now I just feel lonely. I really only have two friends, both have actual lives compared to me. I know I ought to just touch grass, meet more people, fill my life up... I just wish I was more important in the lives of people I already know?
I want to be close with people my friend is close with. So when they asked if I wanted to hang out with their loved one, I told them just that. They felt touched by me saying that, and they started introducing me to their friends a little more. I'm feeling like a bigger part of my friend's life now.
Hmmm... There is the little wrinkle that I'm only out to one of my loved ones and I'm uncertain about mixing those. I think it's a good idea in the abstract though
If you're confident your two friends won't out you, you could figure out along the way who else will also be safe to tell later. I understand though, learning who you can also trust to never, ever out you without your permission can be tricky.
Oh these two never would. It's just the feeling of mixing those two halves of my life I guess
You don't have to choose between being in your current friends lives and making new ones, you can do both! And you deserve to do both.
I know I ought to do both, but right now I want more from my existing relationships, more than I want new friends. I guess I should probably just communicate that to them huh
As I've learned, if you like/really like/love them as friends, expressing in some way that you do, and that you want to become a bigger part of each other's lives because you value your time together, is very important. Sometimes people are already looking for people who value time with them enough to want more closeness, and need a sign who of their friends is that.
I realized I couldn't know for sure if my friend didn't want the same. Just like you they could desire the same and have any number of their own reasons to not have transparently told you.
Remember capitalism creates atomization that makes people act anxiously distant in their own bubbles. It increases the number of times people think "If they really cared enough to bond more with me, they would've insert sign of interest by now." I wouldn't be surprised if this has applied to most members of the human race. In retrospect, many people really liked me but I wouldn't vulnrably show how deeply I wanted more platonic intimacy, and it cost me(and still costs me) close friendships and lots of socializing experiences.