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It went fucking horribly! Dude wanted to have basically a full session long conversation analyzing why I wanted to leave, and used my life/relationship situation to insinuate I was a bad patient, and that he went out of his way to respond to that with patience. "You're only here so you can keep your partner happy and have a roof over your head." I'm obviously angry, but mostly just shocked that a professional would take a dig at me that way, especislly after 18ish months.
Also yall are getting a copy/paste response cause I wanna make sure everyone who wished me well saw my side of things, and im not thinking straight enough to give individual replies at the moment
Fuck that guy, obviously you made the correct choice dropping him if this was how he was going to react, total clown.
100% vindicated in my decision. Calming down now and playing some Mario about it.
I bet Mario would be a good therapist. He at least seems to have it really together himself.
Comrade Mario, please teach me how to triple jump over my problems
Just a matter of forward momentum, timing, and taking the leap enough times in a row.
Dr. Mario is not a real doctor
Good and rest well knowing you made the right choice.
Will do!
Hey, you did it and you got through it. That's what matters. Fuck that guy, acting like it's a bad thing to want to keep your partner happy and to have a secure place to live (??)
A half-decent therapist understands that people have all sorts of motivations for attending therapy and they'll work with it regardless, it unless it risks direct harm to themselves or others (e.g. an abusive spouse wanting to get the therapist in on the gaslighting.)
Thanks for the update. Take your time to decompress. Sounds like today you discovered that your misgivings about this therapist were well-placed and that your judgement is more trustworthy and your ability to keep yourself safe is more reliable than you might have thought. Here's to surviving a tough day!
Thanks comrade, appreciate it. It sucks having someone you spent over a year opening up to use your insecurities and fears against you. I did my best in the moment, didnt escalate my voice, and tried to be respectful. Overall its a net win cause 1) im officially done with this person, and 2) cause I went and had this whole talk in person, which is something I would normally shy away from.
Sounds like you did a fantastic job. It sucks that it went through that shit but you controlled the part that you could control, and you did exceptionally well. That's all that matters.
I don't want to diminish how much it must suck for you right now but you faced a nightmare scenario head-on and came out the other side intact. Yep, it was a big waste of time and money and, yep, a therapist should never act that way but you handled that shit and if there's a silver lining it might be that if you feel anxious about opening up to a therapist in the future you can look at it from this perspective - what's the worst that could happen? Because you've already been through it. It definitely sucks but you know now that it's not gonna break you and, with a little luck and some distance from this shitty day, the fear of opening up to a therapist is gonna have much less of a hold on you.
Appreciate it, thanks. I'll be going back to my old therapist, who I felt much more comfortable talking to. There's more I can say comparatively between the two, but in summary, I feel like I'm going to a better spot. Additionally, I'll be going back to someone who specializes in bipolar, where this guy did not.
Sending love
Much love to you too, comrade!
I would like add another "fuck that guy" to the mix. You deserve so much better.
Thank you