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Yooo wadda hell happened to my site pronouns? How long have you all let me be none/use name??? I think the secondary pronouns feature is bugged. I can't seem to get she/her, ze/zir to stick making me think it's some kind of off by one error since that's the last set in the list. I'm going with ze/hir on the site for now because I think that's second place for me.
annoying pronoun shit
I told several people that I wanted to try a little bit of ze/zir but still no one's used that once. Like yes I fucking love she/her with every ounce of my soul and I would never give it up but it'd be nice to hear the neos every now and then.I mean it's been a little bit since I decided I was this weird bigender demigirl whatever the hell. I'll take this treatment over being treated as a guy ever again any day of the week. It's not the end of the world for me that my friends gender me as a woman all the time. I just kind of would rather it happen some of the time. Maybe it's on me for not being very clear with what the hell my gender even is. Which brings me to...
what the hell is my gender even
I know the two main components of my gender are woman and agender but I still can't figure out how they fit together. I feel it's some sort of weird bigender but the specifics confuse me. Presenting fem makes me feel so good. Being called a woman makes me feel so good. All the binary transfer shit makes me feel really good. But it's like. I simultaneously feel like a woman and like gender shouldn't apply to me, and I'm not sure what to do with these seemingly conflicting ideas. I'm not really willing to let go of either of them completely for the other, and it's not a sort of gender fluid situation where I'm one for a period and then the other. I'm both somehow, but I don't know how.Maybe the genders exist as quantum switches where possibilities exist simultaneously, and both can be activated (or not) at any time
Yeah it's something like that. I definitely have days where I'm feeling more womany and other days where I'm feeling more agendery, but they're both kind of always there to some capacity I think.