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Round #2 of coming out to my sister
Still the same reaction of "I thought I knew pretty much everything about you but I didn't really see this coming" and "I don't mean to invalidate you but are you sure this is what you want? There are so many other things that go into identity than just gender", now with the added bonus of "if you're pursuing this medically you should tell dad and [our brother] before you 'get too far along'"
I would soooo much rather she do the "okay, whatever" approach. Would be infinitely better than the handwringing "โ๏ธ๐ค of course it's your decision and you're valid but you should think about this!!!"
I find this type of comment kind of bizarre. Like okay, yes there are lots of things that make up a person. But I'm not confusing my love of old games for being a woman? Like- what things could even conceivably be mistaken for wanting to be another gender/change your body like this?
The way I rationalized it with my own brainworms was that I was looking for something to pin all my issues onto and being trans was just a convenient, en vogue excuse. Which doesn't make much sense when you realize how not easy it is...
Given how positively trans people talk about certain parts of their experiences, it makes sense imo that someone could hypothetically see that and be jealous. For some people, a lot of their stress is caused by dysphoria and alleviating that makes a world of difference. Can't imagine someone making that mistake anyways though. Just yesterday, I heard someone in a stream saying that they'd be crashing out if they started growing boobs suddenly. I don't think being depressed would suddenly make someone like that somehow think they'd want to transition.
For me, I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted when I talked to my brother about maybe being trans. Given how much doubt I still had, I appreciated a bit of pushback (but only because it was from the perspective of him being excited, hoping to be proven wrong, not transphobia and trying to convince me I wasn't trans). Its infuriating when you aren't just questioning and someone close to you asks if you've considered the most obvious things as if that might chance your mind...
My brother didnt care, he used my pronouns right away and treated me the same as he always did (with slight sibling hatred). We drifted WAY apart, he started using again and now hes Christian (hes been an atheist since he was 6 years old, I know, I was there when he said it) - so now of course he talks transphobic shit about me behind my back ๐. Hes still never misgendered me to my face though.
It was actually quite sweet looking back how good he was about it all, yeah its soured a bit now but at the time it was a real boost. It was just me, my ex, and him after moving in during covid and they were all so good..