Yeah i know a trans man or two who've had to find out the hard way the woman they were dating was a transphobic lesbian who was posting stuff about "wlw" while they were actively dating a guy. And it's kinda weird how there's this almost complete seperation between transfems and cisfems as soon as we are in a shared lesbian space. I'm saying "almost complete" for a reason because there are exceptions, usually but not always with bi or pan women, but weirdly enough i've found the most reliable inclusivity from cis people with straight women who i very obviously do not have a romantic or sexual dynamic with in the first place and where it's just sisterhood from the get-go.

I'm not saying i will stick with exclusively dating t4t for the rest of my life, but my experiences with that have been so incredibly positive so far that going back to dating cissies would honestly feel like a downgrade 99% of the time. They're not worth the hassle of putting up with all these crypto-transphobes out there whose performative support ends as soon as gEnItAl pReFeRenCe or some nonsense like that comes into play. They have nothing to offer i can't get equally or better from dating other transfems. So why bother? If there's a cis woman worth my time and we run into each other in spite of me not looking, that's cool. My love can, in theory, go out to all queer women cis or trans. But when so many of them are so deeply poisoned by transphobic brainworms, i'm not going out of my way to seperate the wheat from the chaff just to date cis women. I can date women just fine without that when i stick to t4t. I'm not on the apps anyway, i'm happy in my little bubble that's almost exclusively fellow transbians. Do i want to be that kind of seperatist? No, but it's just a lot less of a struggle this way.