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WEBRINGS:
You don't have to be binary trans, you can be gender fluid, an enby (non-binary), etc.
The primary narrative we hear about trans women is that "they've known since they were 6" and they barely made it to 20 without some kind of self harm (some doing much harsher things I wont elaborate on) because of the intensity of dysphoria. This wasn't my story. I transitioned in my late 20s, before that fateful year I cracked my egg, I would've said I didnt have dysphoria and vaguely enjoyed being a man. From this side of my egg crack, its much more obvious that I was suffering but had learned to push all that down - and I had been so unhappy for so long that I didn't know what it meant to actually like your gender and yourself. For me, that was just being a man was like. I have very easily identifiable dysphoria NOW - I've always hated looking in the mirror since puberty or watching or hearing myself on film, before it was just a quirk, now it's because I was experiencing dysphoria. I've always preferred how girls write and tried my best to avoid reading my own writing - same thing. I fantasized about being born a girl - which, cmon how'd I not know... but at the time it was about how my brother would've been better off if he was the oldest son...
Transitioning is not a forever thing if you don't want it to. Luckily for you, you seem to be leaning in the trans femme direction. If you choose to take feminizing HRT, it takes months before there's noticeable changes - infamously there's a sadly somewhat common story of trans women in the closet taking hrt for years and their wives and friends not noticing... if you're scared you'll cross this invisible barrier and never be able to go back, well good news is that it's just in your head. You're allowed to detransition if youd like, you have permission from a trans woman (me) if that's what you needed. Also, in terms of aging... Ill just say E is magic and you'll hold on to a youthful appearance longer if you're on it~
I think it's totally normal to feel apprehensive about transitioning to the femme side. Because it does mean taking on misogyny in a way you didn't necessarily have to before. You also have to deal with the double whammy of mysogynoir which even your fellow (white) sisters may not comprehend on top of being trans. It can be frightening, but you don't have to face it alone. You have your partner and accepting friends, you can do this - if you want. You don't need to leap into it completely, you're allowed to experiment and go slowly and reverse if you want. I'm suspecting you'll do the same thing as a lot of trans people - take it one step at a time, find it's really nice but be apprehensive about the next step so stay for a while, then move on and repeat! That's probably the most common narrative for transition, just baby steps until it's 4 years later and you're signing up for bottom surgery wondering why you didn't do this sooner lol