Well, especially if it’s someone you know well… say… your wife… you definitely can know quite often. It won’t be 100% but it can be a high enough percent that you’d rather the sentence be over w a ~10% chance of misunderstanding than to have to keep listening to a sentence that you’ve already assumed the end of and are thinking of a reply to.

It doesn't matter. I'm going to ask a question to see if I understand. I'm paying way more attention than you think and trying to assemble a puzzle. If we do it interactively it'll stick. If you just wanna talk, tho, tell me to stfu and I'll let you go off.

Holy cow, you are also married to my wife!?! She's got some splainin to do.

Usually in this community we only allow "me too" and "neurotypicals are so annoying".

It's refreshing for someone to come and call this out like that. I'm surprised you're not downvoted to hell.

Yeah i have this problem with my partner. I say something innocuous, he creates a whole cinematic universe about what I meant with the sentence and refuses to adjust once I explain that he misunderstood. It's absolutely tiring.

Is he also ADHD/ASD? Sometimes having to tell the whole story is like an OCD trait, you can't just get to the point. The whole story has to be relayed because that's how it exists in your brain.

The flip side is just giving someone the punch line or answer to a situation and getting frustrated that people haven't reached the same conclusions as quickly as you have.

My dad and my wife begin telling their anecdote and it finally involves me in having a mental and emotional breakdown trying to figure put their point.

I used to fight them initially into telling the point in the few seconds to no avail. These days, I just tune in enough to listen every 10th word.

It's the second one, definitely the second one. I do it to though, so don't feel bad. We just have to try to catch ourselves when we do it, and apologies and let them finish.

everyone hates it, and no, you don't know what people are about to say all the time.

it's literal torture working in retail and having this happen. I just have to sit there with a fake smile plastered on my face, mind running a mile a minute and watching the line behind this person grow as they explain to me what I already figured out. On the plus side, outwardly I appear really patient to others!

I LOVE spoiling speeches like this with one-word spoilers, or as close to it as possible. At least when it's a negative speech or otherwise childish/blatantly obvious one.

Like if they're going on and on describing the definition of a technical term and haven't said the term, I'll just blurt it out in hopes they stfu about the definition. Or similar things with philosophical topics.

It is conversationally abnormal and can be rude, but if you do it in an excited, engaged way like you want to talk to them and just want to get past those little moments faster, then I find only the true assholes who demand a conversation operate a certain way will get upset... and FUCK people who are rude to atypical people simply for being atypical.

Though that's the way I've settled on "finishing other's sentences.": I just say something very short that should prompt them they can skip some details if I'm on the right track, not assume the details for them.

I would always recommend people get a second opinion from an ADHD&Autism specialist, because unfortunately many medical professionals go through all of their education/training without ever actually being taught any thing about ADHD. Many doctors' knowledge of mental disorders are also decades out of date.

A decent chunk of doctors just know ADHD (and many other disabilities) off of stereotypes and/or misinformation, it's a common thing in the medical field sadly.

Many times people are either misdiagnosed (sometimes a person with ADHD might also have another disorder which causes the doctor to not think it's ADHD causing specific problems) with an anxiety disorder, BPD, a depressive disorder, or even Bipolar, unsurprisingly ASD too. Symptoms often present similarly to those.

Many ADHD symptoms present similarly to a depression and/or BPD, and ASD & ADHD symptoms can overlap a good bit (but they're not the same despite some people thinking ADHD is part of the ASD spectrum).

Presence of symptoms also causes anxiety (as in when you were in school and you had an assignment due in a few hours, but you can't force yourself to do it, but you don't want to do anything else because then you'd feel bad about doing that instead of the assignment, so you sit for hours in a pool of anxiousness and ADHD paralysis while not doing the assignment even though there's theoretically enough time to)

ADHD also has extremely high comorbidity and link with other disabilities, like the ones named above as well as things like Schizophrenia, Dyspraxia, Dyscalcula/Dyslexia/Dysgraphia.

The biggest problem though is that there's this massive stigma against ADHD, it's seen as a bad thing for someone to have ADHD (especially to parents of kids with ADHD, who often deny it vehemently and take it as a personal attack) and there's this perception of it not being real or serious, plus there's a whole myth of it being universally overdiagnosed (ADHD is actually extremely undiagnosed, despite some people getting the opposite impression that doctors just say every kid has ADHD these days). It's just something conflated with this concept of "laziness" or "just normal things everyone experiences", like a lot of other disorders are (victims of chronic depression and panic attacks can often relate)

Basically always get another opinion if you're still not sure. Someone with ADHD that only finds out later in life may have to change their entire view & approach on the world/life and learn to come to terms with how current society works against them, and how they can try to minimize the massive disadvantage they're given in most situations. So knowing is pretty important.

Not when youve taken off your skin!

My mom: "So you know Maryland, right? Maryland? It's Finley's mom. So her mom, Mary Lou, you know her, right? She had the Cat House. Madeline remembers the Cat House, the across from the stairs down to the beach. Well, she sold that, so she's actually living at another place, on the same property as Maryland. And Alex, you know Alex, right? She's Mary Lou's partner. So anyway, she wasn't answering calls, and so they went out to check on her and she was unconscious, so they rushed her to the hospital. It was really fortunate that she was on the same property, otherwise it could have been really bad.

So I have to go get Finley and watch him for the next few hours."

Me, after she's gone: "I have no idea who any of these people are, and I have no idea who is in the hospital."

Note: Alex was in the hospital, Alex is a woman, and Finley is a dog. Everything except Alex being the one in the hospital was included in the monologue, so as you can imagine it was even longer than what I wrote.