Ask Lemmy

Not discussing pay rate with coworkers/colleagues. I

My day job is Union. Everyone's rates are well-published. We have less boring things to talk about.

Might be true for non-union gigs, but from my experience in union shops nobody cares because everyone can see what the pay rates are. Same with retirement plans.

I feel like anyone who isn't heavily involved in left wing internet spaces understands why you don't want to discuss pay with coworkers.

Someone fears their coworkers will find out they are making less, and will think they are less skilled, or maybe a pushover.

Or someone fears their coworkers will find out they are making more, and will fear their coworkers think they were manipulative in order to get it, think they are egotistical for sharing, or may become envious.

And then pay discrepencies invite unwanted feelings about "do I actually deserve to make more than him - I don't think I'm worth it" or "I make so much less rhan her, I must suck at my job."

Not discussing pay is a convenient way to sweep all this under the rug

Chomsky would disagree with manufacturing consent.

I mean if you follow under threat you haven't consented to any meaningful degree.

It has been introduced in my country during the early 80s, so I have to disagree on that one.
That's just about 40 years ago, so pretty sure there are still people left who agreed to it.

Honestly I do this because I like to fidget and I'm afraid I'll reach out to grab something I'm not supposed to.

It helps you balance when you're leaning forward to look at something.

I do it because it relieves pressure on my back

This was always just old man walk to me but I never thought about why old guys all seemed to do it

Interesting point! I guess 'ope' is my regional bias showing lol. The escalator thing is a great example of a rule that makes life so much more efficient, yet people still ignore it. I wonder why some rules like 'facing the door' stick so well, while others like 'stand on the right' are a constant struggle. Do you think it’s because one is about comfort and the other is about efficiency?

That's a language rule, tho

UK version (male)- any deviation, even with your best friend/dad is a capital offence.

-Alright?

-Not bad, you?

-Yeah not bad.

Aw hell no. I trauma dump on everyone who asks me "How are you?"

I was at the urinal the other day and sneezed; someone said bless you from a stall.

It was awkward. Breaking one social norm to uphold another.

In the team I work with, we've established saying "Shut up!" if someone sneezes instead.
The proper response for coughing is "Die quietly".

I say gesundheit as I'm not religious and don't like to propagate religious sentiment, but I like the idea, too. I'm not German.

I hate this tradition fiercely and I’m glad to have moved to a place where sneezes are generally ignored. As they should be.

Thats most of lemmy lol

Those aren't social rules and 2 of the 3 are about as regional as OP's "ope".