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Relevant xkcd:

(Caption above the panels:)    How Standards Proliferate    (See: A/C chargers, character encodings, instant messaging, etc.)    (A text-only panel.)    Situation:     There are 14 competing standards.(Cueball and Ponytail stand facing each other.)    Cueball: 14?! Ridiculous! We need to develop one universal standard that covers everyone's use cases.    Ponytail: Yeah!    (Another text-only panel. The word "Soon:" appears in its own box at the upper left of the panel.)    Soon:    Situation:    There are 15 competing standards.

https://xkcd.com/927/

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[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 19 points 5 days ago (2 children)

For anyone that wants more information, visit the Friends Fighting for the Marginalized People of Romantic, Erotic and Gender website, it has a lot of really good info!

https://ffmpreg.org/

[–] MinFapper@startrek.website 8 points 5 days ago

That is some effort put in. Kudos for your hard work!

[–] BoosBeau@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

At least some people are still doing the good work

[–] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 17 points 5 days ago (3 children)

wtf is mogai. god help me, i didnt think i would lose touch in my early 30s

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 5 days ago (4 children)

MOGAI: marginalized orientations, gender alignments and intersex

it's an alternative label to lgbtq+, that afaik aims to be more abstract and include all queer people from the get go. unlike lgbtq, which only lists specific identities and therefor has to be extended all the time to include everyone, to the point where you for example can get LGBTTQQFAGPBDSM.

mogai is also a (mainly online?) queer movement, from which the term originates and i think it lost a lot of popularity, if it ever had that much, which is probably why u didnt hear of it.

there are arguments for and against the use of mogai over lgbtq+. i dont really care and just say queer :3

[–] Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 17 points 5 days ago (3 children)

It seems to me the kaleidoscoping of the unity that rainbow flag aimed for doesn't make the community stronger. I feel the drive to have some constantly evolving all inclusive name and define each and every subset of queer hurts the brand. Instead of a united community there's tiny little fifedoms that are cliquey and far from universally welcoming. By so rigorously defining the individual the community gets lost and the message gets drowned in a see of voices yelling their specific flavour of gay.

It brings this joke to mind:

Once I saw this guy on a bridge about to jump. I said, “Don’t do it!” He said, “Nobody loves me.” I said, “God loves you. Do you believe in God?” He said, “Yes.” I said, “Are you a Christian or a Jew?” He said, “A Christian.” I said, “Me, too! Protestant or Catholic?” He said, “Protestant.” I said, “Me, too! What franchise?” He said, “Baptist.” I said, “Me, too! Northern Baptist or Southern Baptist?” He said, “Northern Baptist.” I said, “Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist or Northern Liberal Baptist?” He said, “Northern Conservative Baptist.” I said, “Me, too! Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region, or Northern Conservative Baptist Eastern Region?” He said, “Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region.” I said, “Me, too!” Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1879, or Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912?” He said, “Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912.” I said, “Die, heretic!” And I pushed him over.

This is just my observation as an old out of touch cis guy with a queer daughter.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 6 points 5 days ago

Hear, hear!

I'm old enough to remember when terms like mullato and quadroon were common expressions.

People started using 'Black' to get away from that mind set.

[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 5 points 5 days ago

Believe it or not, there's a lot of queer people who are pretty bigoted against other groups under the queer label. The classic example being LGBdroptheT. The affirmations of specific groups are a reaction to that in-community bigotry, which sociologists call lateral violence. These all-encompasing terms like gsrm don't always fulfil the function of explicitly including groups that suffer lateral violence.

There's even trans people on Lemmy who claim that nounself pronouns are a transphobic trolling tactic.

[–] FosterMolasses@leminal.space 3 points 5 days ago

Completely agree, the community feels more fragmented than ever. I likely correspond to at least three different pride flags from my orientation at this point and I still mix up the colors. Can we just go back to being "gay" as a broad term? I'll save the semantics for my pronouns and sexual partners lol

[–] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 6 points 5 days ago

thanks for the explanation! this is all very tumblr coded and i appreciate that, but personally will continue to call myself queer lol

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

Yeah it's very dated to the mid 10s and never gained widespread use even on tumblr

[–] Black616Angel@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Mainly online gay artificial intelligence?

[–] evidences@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

I think this went away with the switch to GPT5.

[–] grue@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I think it's some kind of small furry creature from an '80s movie?

Yep I think I have it as mpreg4. Just don't get him wet.

[–] moonshadow@slrpnk.net 1 points 4 days ago

It's the kid from the jungle book

[–] 666dollarfootlong@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

Sibling, i'm 22 and don't know what it is either don't worry

[–] plateee@piefed.social 8 points 5 days ago

If there's encoding issues in the future, we can come up with mpreg2.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 7 points 5 days ago

Serious.

'Rainbow.'

The original flag, and it covers everyone.

Best of all, it will annoy the people who think that Noah's ark is authentic history.

[–] cybervseas@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Wanna make sure people get the joke about mpreg. 🫃

[–] StraponStratos@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 4 days ago

It’s a video format?

[–] chortle_tortle@mander.xyz 1 points 5 days ago

c/GatesOpenComeOnIn 😌

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

GSM - Gender and Sexual Minorities?

I was about to say grievous bodily harm but those don't match. Probably easy to guess what I been reading lately.

[–] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago

Genuinely thought of this XKCD earlier today after getting annoyed by different types of bicycle chain covers.