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I have not seen past season 1 of this show yet, but I'm loving it so far! This guy has been one of my favorites but he's been absent for like 6 or something episodes lately doggirl-tears

miscellaneous plot commentary for where I'm at in the showwhat the FUCK is Mollari up to this dude is bordering on ordering literal genocide??

what is Delenn transing into?? a guy maybe???? bridget-pride

where the HELL is Sinclair I want him back. His replacement kinds sucks lmao

Garibaldi might be the straightest man alive and I mean that in the most derogatory way imaginable

I wish this show was gayer

I fucking love the technomages so goddamn much oh my god. They're soooooo goofy and I need more of them. I was close to dedicating this mega to my love for that one episode where they're introduced

Anyway this show is fun and cool and good but could be gayer and transer lea-sad


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[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST

if you have a preferred week please tell me

Shaleesh* (3/30 - 4/5)
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โ€‹ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[โ€“] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (3 children)

disappointed and suspect of any he/hims whenever anything trans comes up outside the trans mega.

[โ€“] Muinteoir_Saoirse@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You can see how viscerally uncomfortable it makes some guys feel to consider that their own masculinity may be questioned, especially in death. They project this onto others, and never introspect enough to think how it is a constant reality for transfems that our femininity is not only guaranteed to be questioned, but overwhelmingly denied, in life and especially in death.

They're more than happen to argue that it's imperative to assume cis unless proven trans, without considering the implications of such a cis-centric view, and how it contributes to a society in which trans people aren't safe to leave behind the kind of evidence that would satisfy their morbid refusal to explore the possibility that cis isn't default, it's a cultural imposition.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

post thread

edit: https://hexbear.net/post/8035141

oh god it is gross. Daily reminder I hate people.

[โ€“] Busgirl@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I read the first ten comments and I was like hmmm I already saw this struggle session happen on Tumblr and it was not pretty

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[โ€“] Alisu@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

Huh??? Like, maybe listen to the trans people on this? Wtf does a cis man know about a trans woman's experience?

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As if the worst thing that could happen to someone is a cis man gets called a trans woman in death... wonder what that could be like ๐Ÿ™„

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

They were just a guy who liked to be called Lilly and used she/her pronouns, you can't prove they weren't ~~normal~~ cis!!!1! Why are you transvestivigating them??

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[โ€“] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago (12 children)

I finally had my consult today! It's been a long time since the previous surgeon bailed and tbh I haven't always been sure I'd make it long enough to try again.

Discussion of planning surgery, regret, body trauma

The consult went just over two hours and there were some difficult topics I had to walk her through. I'm good at telling a summary of my story without issue, but inevitably there's some piece that catches me off guard when I really have to get into it. It's embarrassing crying in front of strangers. Anyway, I made it through that and the exam of the [surgical area] without major issues.

The good news is she seems much more open to working with unknowns. Given that I'm the first person to pursue phalloplasty after vaginoplasty at that hospital's practice (many such cases), a surgeon needs to be willing to take a bit of a leap with me. Of course, that involves ompromises on both parts.

I was happy that my left forearm (donor site) seemed okay to use, though I still need to get a CT scan to confirm. Radial Forearm Flap (RFF) is the best surgical method at getting tactile sensation and the least bulky. Other methods are at the expense of one or the other, so thank you to my ulner artery for the good blood flow. Yay.

Unfortunately, I'm probably giving up the dream of urethra lengthening. I knew it was a possibility, but I had to face that it could complicate things with an erectile device and be a higher chance of complication given my medical history. I was really hoping I could pee like I used to, but I can be pragmatic too. She didn't give me grief for scrotoplasty, so I accepted that she stressed the risks of UL in my situation for good reason.

I have to meet with a urologist about the logistics of vaginectomy. I really fucking hope there are no issues there. It sounds like it should be alright, but need to discuss first. Fingers crossed. I fucking hate that thing so much, goddamn.

I have a follow up appointment in a few months after all those logistical boxes are checked and she's had time to work with her team on a proper game plan. If everything goes well, we could schedule after that appointment.

I'm so glad I didn't kill myself. Today was exhausting, but I'm okay.

[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm glad you feel okay cat-trans

I hate crying in front of strangers too, but no one's ever had a negative reaction to it

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[โ€“] catter@hexbear.net 17 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Came out as enby, depression started lifting, had the energy to find some cool queer meetups in my area, and now I've started doing some organizing too. My life didn't end when I came out, even though I really felt like it would. Actually, things are better than they ever have been.

Thanks for all your support, comrades ๐Ÿ’œ

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I just realised. My mom would have legit taken me being a murderer better than trans kumagawa-jokerfied. Being a murderer was on her list of "things you can tell me about"

[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

yeah. I came to the same conclusion about my mom

[โ€“] Hestia@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

A coworker just came out to me and started asking a bunch of questions about transitioning. Never interacted with her before as we are in different departments, but I always got a gender queer vibe from them. Now I have someone to mentor catgirl-heart

[โ€“] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 1 month ago

Little update again: I got my first thesis fully done! One last thesis and then I can graduate and move on to grad school. I got a super good funding offer too.

Also finally got my name and gender changed! Took 2 fucking delays but it happened! They did mispell my middle name somehow (twice! They mispelled it on the first delay too) but at this point I don't fucking care enough to bother fixing it.

Also still being very gay with my knight ๐Ÿ˜Œ

[โ€“] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

hornyI had the thought "I just want to be a domestic housecat owned by lesbians" but realized that my prior hornyposting probably communicated that pretty clearly already,,,

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[โ€“] Arahnya@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity

you know, I might struggle with being accepted in the "community" as someone who is transmasc, non-binary, both lesbian and gay, and also a futch / twink (controversial identities in an of themselves) but for some reason ๐Ÿ™„ this identity is somehow less controversial than just being a trans woman who is also a lesbian, compounded by multiple marginalized identities.

I am reminded of the article which said that anti-transmasculinity it is actually a trojan horse for transmisogyny. While it is concerning that radfems occasionally target transmasc lesbians or he/him lesbians, I feel that it's really just a hidden attack for trans women. And making transmascs or other tme non-binary people out to be the main victims in all of this (and therefore worthy of being named while trans women are left out) doesn't sit right with me.

[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

regarding the Bushnell postI'm pretty sure that if I didn't grow into being trans spending a lot of time reading through this mega every day I would have ended up with exactly the kind of internalized trans-misogyny that would have had me agreeing with the he/hims in that thread. I guess I'm just feeling thankful for you all again. I feel like I am who I am today in part because of the posting I get to read from you all. I just love ya'll is all I suppose

spoilerCan relate to that heavily. Hexbear/this mega specifically wasnt that formative for me, but in general im grateful to all transfeminists whove helped me climb out from the pit of transmisogyny and self hatred. I doubt im even all the way out yet but i can at least see the light at the top. I love everyone who rly values trans girls. Hugs kisses idk (platonic)

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I woke up thinking "oh damn 37 messages" before realizing the majority of them are dms or cute posts from my gf here that I replied to then went back unchecked the read mark and just have them in my inbox to look at again soviet-bottom she's as pretty as she is smart folx

[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (5 children)

she's as pretty as she is smart folx

i'm doing indirect looksmaxxing by getting smarter galaxy-brain

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago

God made trans girls to frolick in the fields and laugh with joy, not for worrying about her phobic parents.

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

horntHad a really fun weekend with my friend~ tied her up lots, we went around to a different kinky friends place with a pillory and she had a good time in it. Fucked a lot, that was great. I do really really want to use a toy or fuck someone with a cock but I still have to wait ๐Ÿ˜ญ I dunno if Im going myself any favors by still having a fun time sexually as much as I can or if I would have felt less pent up trying to be more of a virgin nun lifestyle.

Otherwise, everything is going really great after my bottom surgery a couple months ago! Really happy with it all. It has been such a huge relief to never tuck again even if nothing else, seriously. And I just kinda dig what I look like naked now... which is great!

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[โ€“] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Opens up gay porn book

There's a lot of gay porn in this book

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

How could liberals do this to me

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[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

damn i just pulled the best fit I've ever done in my life

i can't show any of you, because of woke, but just imagine be dressed super well. it was like that but better

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[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Aborting quintuplets, call that Babygon 5

[โ€“] meler@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

meler hornyposting??, mention of high school boys ๐Ÿ˜ญ, bottom dysphoriaI read some smut last night and I think I got horny for the first time ever. It was different than I expected. I've never been boyhorny but I suspect I've been on E long enough for that to have been girlhorny???

I'd hated the concept of being horny for a long time because my only real experience with it was overhearing the type of shit straight boys say to each other at a high school lunch table catgirl-disgust

But like last night gave me a surprizing amount of gender euphoria too. Like there I was reading that shit feeling like such a girlllll y'all

I did get bottom dysphoria for the first time too though so that's kinda fucked up but other than that I'd call last night a big success

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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Every now and again the libraries in my county closed down for "training" ๐Ÿ™„ yeah sure, the real purpose to to keep me from learning too much. The government fears me and knows my thirst for knowledge is never ending, become someone the government fears comrades go read some queer/feminist/anti imperial/vegan theory trans-vegan we all on some list by now might as well make it to the top

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[โ€“] NuanceUnderstander@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I need the weather to stay warm so I can keep wearing crop tops because the world needs more t girl belly

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Finally got to the part of hrt where my sex drive is basically nothing, wonder if it will come back or if I'll be ace now. I know its very typical for it to come back but this is so chill. And its been drastically reduced like this for a bit so pretty sure this is what's going on and not a normal fluctuation. god I love not being a horny mess.

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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Feels weird remembering someone's pronouns and special interest but not their name

[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Had a weird transition milestone tonight. (mild NSFW)I was in the bar of one of the most expensive hotels in my city, waiting for a work event. I had a phenomenal fit on, cute dress, knee high boots, etc. I thought I was coding corporate alt lesbian, but I think I might have been giving off dominatrix/sex worker.

A very well dressed but somewhat slovenly older man in his 50s or 60s approached me, complimented my boots, started hitting on me and he asked me if I was alone and wanted to join his party. I politely declined because I have my work thing (and work in the morning, it's Thursday).

I think he was a sugar daddy chaser and I missed a chance to get free cocaine, my dick sucked and/or murdered. Wow???

This sleepy ass girl really invited me down to visit for the weekend and then immediately proceeded to sleep from 1 pm to past midnight lol

[โ€“] OffSeasonPrincess@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

(After 11 straight hits of wokeness) making fun of anime pfps is transmisogynistic

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[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

queer polycule living in a van, call that a folxwagen

Who would win:

-1000s of critically acclaimed, influential, important, probably really good shows, books, movies, manga and other works of art i havent checked out but should

-genderswap slop crush

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I was sorting through all my digital shit and found a backup of my phone's gallery from January 2020. There's uh, depressingly few actual photos its mostly memes and shit like that. And uh, surprisingly lot of memes about Iran and Trump and ww3 so that's some evergreen memes. Also my mental health was clearly not better in the past. Also uh, a few trans memes here, that's embarrassing.

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (4 children)

why was this saved on my phone i wonder

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (13 children)

Ngl I'm afraid I'll spend my years being the potential woman.

They'll call me 007

0 days presenting femme in public

0 effort made in transitioning

7 sessions of crying per day

Always "if I'll start thinking of myself as a woman" and "when I'll lose weight".

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[โ€“] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Gang, being a girlfailure isn't cute anymore. Tynna outgrow that phase but I keep whacked upside the head by random bs circumstances and entropy goblins.

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[โ€“] jimmyjohnsandwich9@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I had to do a phone interview thing for a job and wow... I suck at having to do interviews holy shit. I choked immediately on the first thing they asked me lmao agony-limitless

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[โ€“] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

cooked in my nightgown earlier today. Now it smells like food and I'm not sure if this is a good or a bad thing kbity

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[โ€“] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Kind of crazy I'm already at the point with electrolysis where I need to pause a while to check for regrowth. Will miss seeing my electrologist for a bit trans-sad

I guess arm hair clears better than face.

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[โ€“] Florn@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm also just one season in

[โ€“] RION@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

3 month old babies be like

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