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Until recently, I really didn’t know how to cook properly.

One of the things I used to make often was spaghetti bolognese. It was high in protein, fit my diet well, it was reasonably healthy, and so I made it about twice a week. The recipe was very simple: mince, onions, spaghetti, and a bottle of pasta sauce from the store.

Over time I started experimenting. I tried different recipes, added more ingredients, cooked parts separately, and let the sauce simmer longer. Bit by bit it evolved.

Now I make the sauce from scratch, cook the mince in a separate pan, add finely diced carrots and a do a bunch of extra steps I never used to, as well as letting everything simmer for a two hours.

The result is honestly fucking delicious and better than any spaghetti bolognese I've had in restaurants.

The problem is that it went from being my easy go-to meal to something that actually takes effort. I used to make it multiple times a week, but now I barely do.

And the worst part is I can’t go back to the old version anymore, because it just tastes disappointing.

I just wanted to rant, I'm frustrated because I want the dish more, but don't want all of the added effort.

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[–] Godnroc@lemmy.world 44 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Make a bunch and freeze it, now you have premade meals of the good shit whenever you want.

[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

If it doesn't freeze well as a final product, do the prep and freeze the individual components separately. Later all you have to do is thaw and fry/boil. End result tastes not quite made fresh - you can still tell - but often much better than just freezing and reheating the cooked product.

[–] PumaStoleMyBluff@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Huh, I've been making marinara for the last 3 summers and it freezes great.

[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Yeah the marinara is probably not going to change much from being frozen; it's the meats and veggies I was thinking mostly about.

In OP's shoes, I'd make a big batch of the the most basic version of the marinara sauce, portion it out and freeze it; then prep the meat and veggies up to being ready to be sauteed and freeze them separately.

When it's time to cook a meal, thaw out a block of each and get some noodles going, sautee the meat and veggies, mix with the sauce, add the noodle when they're ready, and nom.

When I do meal prep, that's usually my approach: don't cook it up to completion and then freeze (works, but the taste/texture is often a bit off); but prep it up to the last couple of steps so that when my lazy ass gets off of work later in the week, I'm 10 minutes and a single frying pan away from an actually decent meal.

[–] Cris_Citrus@piefed.zip 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Marinara seems like it would, but some things don't. I assume they meant freezing stuff separately only when freezing it finished doesnt turn out well

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 4 days ago

Freezing sauce is fine. I never learned canning when we made sauce from the garden, we sealed and froze.

The noodles cooked in sauce as its final dish, shouldn't be frozen, no. The texture of the noodles will be wonky.

My advice to Op would be to batch the sauce and freeze it. Make fresh noodles when you use it.

This is the way. I’ve got little frozen containers of spag bol and Mexican beans and mince sitting in the freezer ready for dinner when ever. The trick is to get a giant ass fry pan and just make up a fuck ton of what ever you happen to be cooking and have a bunch of freezer safe containers.

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 40 points 5 days ago (2 children)

PS. I'm heading to the shop now to buy all the ingredients I need to make this, gota start soon else I'll eat way too late.
Can't not make it at least once a week.

[–] normanwall@lemmy.world 27 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Can you make a big batch and save some leftovers in the fridge or freezer? I think it's great that you have perfected it, I'm happy for you.

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 12 points 5 days ago (5 children)

I'll try that once, but I doubt it will be the same. My oven & microwave have been broken for like 3 months so I've been learning to cook a lot!!

It's also pretty good for my mental health to have to run to the shop every day and make food, else I just end up on the computer all day.

So I kinda force myself to cook and go to the shops most days

[–] null@piefed.nullspace.lol 7 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Being in the same situation, I ended up getting some big, silicon "ice cube" trays (if you used them for ice cubes the cubes would be huge). Each slot holds ~a serving of pasta sauce.

We'll make up batches of sauce and freeze them in these trays. Then you can pop a cube into a saucepan, add some cream (or other liquid base that makes sense for the sauce) and heat it up while you make the pasta.

In my experience it works and tastes great, and makes it super easy for when you don't have time or energy to cook.

That sounds great, I'll give that a try

[–] AnotherMadHatter@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

We do that with home made sloppy joe sauce. A muffin cup is perfect for one sloppy joe serving.

[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

We did this with tomato paste, since every recipe that uses it only ever needs 1 tbsp, and it's sold in... idk, 6 oz? cans... put 1 tbsp dollops into an icecrube tray, froze em, then popped em out and threw them into a plastic bag and right back into the freezer. Now we just grab a tomato cube whenever we need one.

[–] frosty99c@midwest.social 3 points 5 days ago

My mother in law makes huge portions of her pasta sauce and freezes it in smaller portions to give to us. Heats up just fine in a pan on the stovetop. It may be a little more watery, but I’m sure you could just simmer a bit longer once it’s up to temp to thicken it out.

[–] rants_unnecessarily@piefed.social 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

You can reheat the sauce in a pan and just boil up some fresh pasta.

Of course it won't be 100%, but it'll be 100 times better than your old go-to and just as easy.

[–] Tarquinn2049@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

When you do the leftovers, pan-fried spaghetti feels very different and is also super delicious. Let it dry out a bit as it cooks, seems like bad instructions, but it's so good.

Edit: I should note, this starts with the sauce and noodles already mixed. Ideally when put away, so the noodles absorb the sauce over a few days. If your diet allows for it, adding your cooking fat of choice is of course very much recommended for frying in a pan.

[–] MagnificentSteiner@lemmy.zip 1 points 5 days ago

You can just heat the bolognese up in a pan after defrosting. It'll come out the same.

I've done exactly this with ragu before, worked perfectly. I don't own a microwave (don't see the point in them) so all my stuff is reheated in a pan or the oven.

I hear ya about going to the shop though, I'm in the same boat.

[–] tomiant@piefed.social 2 points 5 days ago

I usually make a massive batch and by morning it is always all gone. You can't not eat it all. Impossible.

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[–] BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Make a big batch once per week on the weekend and portion it out into easy, freezable individual servings. It can still be your easy go-to meal if you make a week or two worth of sauce all at once. Cook the pasta fresh, reheat your frozen sauce in a microwave, combine and enjoy.

[–] Redfox8@mander.xyz 1 points 4 days ago

This! Batch cook & enjoy!

[–] GammaGames@beehaw.org 17 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Why not make it in bulk once a week, enough for a few servings? And I probably don’t need to tell you this… but keep it in the fridge/freezer

Also please share the recipe, I’m interested!

[–] new_world_odor@lemmy.world 10 points 5 days ago

Excellent work, that just means you need a new dish to iterate on! And the cycle can continue.

Maybe in future experimentation try to prioritize timeliness? That's easier said than done though. Your journey with bolognese is similar to mine with shakshuka, so I feel I understand. It's impossible to turn off my desire to improve things and resulting brainstorms on the topic.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Does it freeze well? When I used to be extra as hell with Bolognese, I would do batch cooking and it went pretty well, especially if I wasn't super lazy with how I defrosted it.

Or can it be canned easily?

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Probably, but I think it just won't be the same again

[–] Killer57@lemmy.ca 4 points 4 days ago

You are correct, putting something in the fridge/ freezer will deepen the flavor, freezing it for later may in fact, work better and you might just end up with something tastier in the long run.

Making my own tortillas has done this to tacos for me. It doesn't add a ton of complexity, but the extra time takes what was a super fast zero effort process, and now makes it about as involved as any other simple dish to cook. But it's SO much better that I can never go back.

[–] JakenVeina@midwest.social 3 points 4 days ago

Bolognese is obe of my favorites as well, but it's like a 4-5 hour process, yeah. Feeds me for a solid week, though, more than anything else I cook.

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (4 children)

You can go further. I also make my sauce from scratch, but then pressure cook some beef chuck or shanks in it with red wine. Then I make my own pasta to go with.

And it’s good it takes so long because I would be too fat to make it otherwise.

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[–] TLGA@lemmy.zip 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Sounds nice, I personally like taking time to cook good food. Can we have the recipe?

It's essentially this: https://youtu.be/HZctds20DfA

I add some chilli because I like it spicy

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 5 days ago

I hear you, but you might be able to decouple the lazy version and the fancy one. I love pasta al pesto. I have the lazy version (sauce from the store, chuck it in) and the fancy version (start with basil…). One is a comfort food in rough times, the other a delicacy I can only savor a handful of times a year. Both are great in their respective roles.

[–] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 3 points 5 days ago

There's no prize to perfection, only an end to pursuit

[–] RamRabbit@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Make a big-ass batch once every month or three. Freeze 90% of it to eat later. Cooking 10x as much is not much more effort than cooking 1x.

[–] 0ops@piefed.zip 3 points 5 days ago
[–] davidgro@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm blursed with a weak sense of smell/taste. This can't happen to me, I would barely be able to tell the two recipes apart. But on the other hand, I'm pretty sure I'm missing a lot of the enjoyment people have with really good food.

[–] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Tasting is also a skill. It takes practice and focus to notice these things.

[–] davidgro@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago

I'm pretty sure in my case it's either genetic or the result of actual damage to my olfactory nerves.

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 points 5 days ago

Simple solution.

Get a big, big pot and make a f%%k ton of sauce once a month.

Get containers and freeze them.

I make chili and lentil soup this way; I've got plenty of each sitting in the freezer. I mostly keep it for days I am sick or just don't feel like cooking.

If you don't have a good sized freezer check online. You can find one that's about as much floor space as a chair that holds plenty.

[–] amio@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I know what you mean, but there's hope yet. If you specifically don't want advice... ignore quite a lot of this, I guess, I'm just grabbing the excuse to nerd out

If you have a freezer, you're good, bolognese is decent freezer food, you can prep a silly amount and "flatpack", and be set for ages.

Browning the meat doesn't sound like a huge part of the overall effort, but if it's a pain, halfass or skip it. You don't need a separate pot, just do it in your main one. Depends on how set you are on the browned flavors, one upside to browning less of it is that it'll be more tender since the meat structure seizes up on aggressive heating.

Mincing veg, maybe especially the carrot, is a fucking pain, but you can grate or process them instead, or conceivably just skip the carrots at least. Especially with the processor it's stupid quick and you can freeze that too, since it goes in a wet cook and the texture isn't important.

Anything you do skip, there's probably a way to "cheat" and at least partially make up for it. Beef fond, soy, Maggi and/or fish sauce, sugar, onion/garlic granules, maybe a careful pinch of some warming spices or cocoa. Adds "complexity" and whatnot from shelf stable stuff that doesn't need prepping

(Since you mentioned fiber, I can endorse lentils with/besides/instead of the meat too. Red split lentils stew down really easily and add body)

I bought one of these, and it's amazing!! It saves a TON of time and has now halved the effort. image

It still has to simmer for a long time, but that's fairly chilled

[–] tomiant@piefed.social 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

By far my favorite dish in the world, and it's fucking expensive and takes TIME.

Use only fresh tomatoes, the best you can find, at least 1,5-2 kg, the more the better. Halve them, put in a whachu call, glass oven pan, pour over some olive oil and salt and maybe a clove of garlic stuck inside one of the tomatoes (so it don't burn), and into the oven at around 175-180 degrees C. Point is you want to lightly roast the skin, so it caramelizes. Once it does you can lower the temperature to 125 or lower, even 100 or 80, and it can simmer and stew forever, the longer the better. Just keep reducing until it's thick. If it gets too thick just add water or wine.

Tomatoes need LONG TIME to really release flavor. Thats why the sauce always tastes better the next day. This is for the tomatoes only, not even talking the rest of the sauce but that's the foundation for sure. White or red wine helps a lot. Onions are non negotiable, but there's a point of dininishing returns of adding ingredients and spices.

One secret trick also is to mix- hear me out, filet of sardine, I don't know what they're called, it's like these very salty very thin fish filets that come in a jar and usually sunflower oil.

They release a ton of umami and melt into the sauce without a trace, and it doesn't taste like fish at all.

There's a bunch of other things obv but those are the spechal tacticks for the connoisseurs already in here.

[–] valek879@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 days ago

I make noodles with red sauce fairly frequently. I just get a big, 28oz, can of whole peeled tomatoes, no Calcium Bicarbonate because that makes the tomatoes taste like crap. I dunno the whole can of tomatoes in a pot on the stove with some basil and let it reduce for 30 minutes to an hour.

If I'm feeling fancy I put a minced onion or shallot with some butter in before the tomatoes.

Anyway, salt to taste, add a little of this or that for umami... Boil some noods and bam it's done. Top noods with sauce and it's a fine dish. Add some cheese if you feel kinky.

Tomato, Basil, salt. What a dream.

[–] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 1 points 5 days ago

Cautionary story, that one. Better be careful with the way I refine my easy stew. Currently, everything about it is pretty random, but at least it’s low-effort cooking. Better keep it that way.

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