Eq0

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[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 17 hours ago

Yeah, gym class seems like a lot at one time. Hope does she handle school? You say she has friend in the neighborhood, so she has social connections. Can you set up activities with known and unknown people at the same time? Going to the playground is good short term interaction, so there is little “pressure to perform”.

I would also remember that being a bit shy is not a problem and most kids naturally grow out of it. Keep providing opportunities for growth and eventually it will happen.

Good luck!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 11 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

A small thing, but my parents were very authoritarian. Rules were honestly fair, but any discussion was immediately closed by “because I said so”. In particular as a teenager, I was aware enough to both realize that the rules were overall fair, so I didn’t want to go on an all out war, but also wanted to discuss about finer points. But there was no space for a civil discussion because my parents “said so”.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 22 hours ago

That’s rage inducing!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 12 points 1 day ago (6 children)

How can you design a system and think that not allowing any maintenance of this section is a good idea?!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 5 points 1 day ago

Alimony: support for a spouse that sacrificed their career to further yours during the course of the relationship

Child support: support for the child, given to the parent that incurs in the costs for the child

What the novel talks about is child support.

I still don’t get the black humor and I will pretend to believe it’s because of the translation.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

“And the rest of her body?” She skinny!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 1 day ago

Very pretty! Loving the fading of focus

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 1 day ago

I can cheer you from afar! Either way, your friend will think of you when using it :)

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 6 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Are you considering if your love is sufficient or realizing mid way that it’s likely not? Lol

I’m knitting a hat for my sibling. I’m regretting some life choices… like: why is their birthday so close? Why did I choose such a small yarn? I’m almost half way, I could make it in time.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I’m glad different books appeal to different people! I’m actually really enjoying this thread of readers having different experiences than me :)

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I will take the opposing stance.

Of the list, I only read the Children of Time book and it honestly put me off. I found the writing too dry, the characters too unexplored and the narrative too rushed. Stuff was happening at such a fast pace that it was unclear how characters were (emotionally) reacting to it. I found the generational stories particularly off putting, each chapter felt more like a list of facts than a novel. On the other hand, the book was definitely physically long enough, so I wouldn’t want more padding.

After than, I gave up in the whole author.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 4 days ago

It feels really great to be done with stuff and pick off an extra one from “the future”.

I hope it helps you out!

 

I just got my hands on a small garden! But I have no idea where to start…

There are quite some plants already planted: an olive tree, some small palm trees (that I don’t like), a Japanese maple (?), a raspberry bush and some others I don’t recognize (mostly decorative). Most of the floor is lawn (that I am letting grow wilder). Unfortunately I am not able to include a photo, it’s not loading.

I am in a 9a/9b zone (I think: mild winters rarely if ever freezing, mild summers, quite wet the whole year, continental Europe).

My questions:

  • what can I do to maintain the lawn walkable but let it get more diverse?

  • what tools do I need for every-day maintenance of a small garden?

  • do you have any advice on plants both perennial and annual for newbies? I’m in particular interested in small plants that produce something edible. Ideally would like to start with a small apple tree? And a pumpkin/zucchini plant next year?

 

I have been thinking more and more about how our personal lives impact our access to literature and information in general.

For example, I am reading a book I am rather enjoying, but it's in French with no translation in any other languages. It's also from a local small publishing company. At the moment, I am not aware if it has been published as an e-book, that would make it more available, but for what I know this one book is accessible only to people in a rough 100km radius from where I am, and has a language requirement.

In a similar way, news is highly language based, and new outlets will differ significantly in what news they are distributing depend ing on language and geographical location (have you heard about the Serbian protests in the last weeks? I wouldn't if it hadn't been for a Serbian friend - and I have very limited first hand access to news about it).

How conscious are you that you live - necessarily - in a bubble? When do you notice it most?

Related, check out this website: novelty-insights.com where you can analyse your goodreads book data to see what sort of categories you read most from - a sort of "filter" we apply to ourselves, sometimes willingly, sometimes unconsciously.

 

Overview: 3.5/5 stars

This book talks about difficult themes in the history of Africa and then US, centered around discrimination and exploitation. The book follows a variety if people along the last three centuries that dealt with various elements of discrimination, with slavery being a central theme.

While the topic in interesting, the writing style felt mostly flat to me. The characters were human, but it felt most of them were objects of their own lives instead of subjects. It seems they suffered not only from the outside world but also a lack of inner development. That was true not only of the characters that had limited to no agency, but also of the ones that had freedom and took revolutionary actions: they all felt limited and fairly unengaging.

From the more academic perspective, it gives glimpses of philosophical debates in the history of African Americans. This was the but I personally enjoyed the most.

All in all, an okay book about an interesting and well-researched topic.

 

I’m looking for a book that would explain the ideologies that played into the creation and development of the European Union. I’m less interested in the practicalities. Do you have a suggestion?

 

My kid is crawling all over the place and learning to stand. He is little less than a year. What are some games I can start playing with him? What games did you play with your little one?

 

No spoilers here, but there will be spoilers in the comments

As the third book of the Locked Tomb quadrilogy, Nona the Ninth is wild. What do you think of it? And what do you think the ending means?

 

Politically, Napoleon divides the history of Europe in “before” and “after”. He grabbed the power in France after the Revolution with such skills that he had virtually no opposition. From there he conquered everything, from Egypt, to Russia and Spain. His fall was equally momentous. And then he did it again, leaving everyone confused and the political board of Europe forever reshuffled.

Victor Hugo is a man of that time, trying to make sense of all of this turmoil while mainly talking about people and their inner worlds. In Les Misérables he concentrated on the lowest of the low, poor people making bad choices.

At the time, it was believed that crimes had to be punished, but there was no hope for the criminal to be reinstated into society as a fully functioning member. Hugo makes the opposite claim: criminals are just good people in bad situations. And he talks about them.

While the length can scare readers off, I would encourage anyone to start it. Every page is a little masterpiece of human perception and empathy, with an author taking his time to fully build up not only stages but also souls.

 

By this I mean, a book you had to brace yourself to read, and you feel proud for having read. Did you enjoy the process of reading it?

 

Is it interesting characters? Or believable motivations? Maybe writing style? Is the world building?

And how likely are you to enjoy a book that doesn’t fit your own criteria?

 

A bit criticism to the Silmarillion is that the style is very dry and the plot is disconnected.

This is by design. The Silmarillion wanted to be the creating work of the UK mythology. As such, it mimicked the style of other mythological sagas: the Mabinogion most notably, the minor Homer, the Eddas. Part of the idea is to create a shared well-know scene from which other authors can draw to set their own works.

In some ways, it was incredibly successful: nowadays it’s impossible to talk about Elfs without referencing Tolkien’s in some ways.

 

I read Plainsong by Haruf some two years ago, and I was immediately enamored with it. All characters are so easily relatable and the whole story unfolds along a sweet melody. While bad and sad things happen, you still feel lulled by the background song and you know things are going to get solved. For any fan of “slice of life” and small stories.

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