Eq0

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[–] Eq0@literature.cafe -1 points 3 days ago (3 children)

These results should highlight how strong our own bubble is. Personally, it seems the US is metaphorically on fire, but that’s just one point of view. Recognizing the existence of the other point and accepting that our world view is also influenced by propaganda would be the first step towards a less poisoned discussion.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 7 points 3 days ago

On one hand, I mostly agree. On the other, if the sample is correctly created (aka: both “really random” and “really representative”) then it should be enough. The additional problem is that polls are known to be poorly representative, because a lot of people just troll their way through them, giving bullshit answers that are undetectable and pollute the end results. Finally, truly random and truly representative and really hard to achieve, so that’s an additional source of errors.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 4 days ago

I also watched it! I… don’t really remember anything about it other than it being okay.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 4 days ago

It is not unusual to get a partnership recognized just for this reason. (I honestly have a very down to earth view on marriage, so I’m all for getting married for the papers)

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 38 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I mildly like cop shows. It’s a nice fantasy where everything gets solved and the line between good guys and bad guys is so clear. But: even in nice fantasy land… there are such glaring problems! Mostly cops believing that, since they are the good guys, they are always justified, laws be dammed. Or nepotism/interferences left and right. Personal matters snowballing. Use of public resources towards personal gains. It’s so obviously possible, I wouldn’t want the real world to work like that!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 5 days ago (2 children)

We only had to deal with three EU countries and it was already messy. We are married, but kept separate family names. One of the three countries did not allow the kids to have the mother’s family name (yeah equality…/s), so we had to go with the father’s family name.

I assume you already checked your situation, but few countries accept “the right of land”, aka citizenship upon birth in that country, so we didn’t have to deal too much with the country with were in. Except for filling in the birth certificate that generates all other documents.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Personally, it feels like sooner or later something is going to majorly fuck up, but it hasn’t yet.

In my country of origin, only your first name is your legal name. You can have middle names on your birth certificate but they don’t get put on any other ID document. I honestly discovered I had them when moving to a new country. So now I have an ID and passport as but my education papers and marriage certificate are . Somehow nobody yet called me a scam.

To avoid this problem, my kid has <2 First names> . That is legal in my country of origin and where they were born… but I later learned not in my partner’s country, so my kid has two passports, one with <2 First names> , one with .

Anecdote: a Mexican guy I knew went to the US and got a visa. Went back to Mexico then back to the US again with a new visa. Apparently, between the two visas the naming conventions changed, and his US legal name got scrambled. It was a mess to prove he was still the same person… and he never really understood why it happened.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 1 week ago

Yeah, gym class seems like a lot at one time. Hope does she handle school? You say she has friend in the neighborhood, so she has social connections. Can you set up activities with known and unknown people at the same time? Going to the playground is good short term interaction, so there is little “pressure to perform”.

I would also remember that being a bit shy is not a problem and most kids naturally grow out of it. Keep providing opportunities for growth and eventually it will happen.

Good luck!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

A small thing, but my parents were very authoritarian. Rules were honestly fair, but any discussion was immediately closed by “because I said so”. In particular as a teenager, I was aware enough to both realize that the rules were overall fair, so I didn’t want to go on an all out war, but also wanted to discuss about finer points. But there was no space for a civil discussion because my parents “said so”.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 2 points 1 week ago

That’s rage inducing!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 12 points 1 week ago (6 children)

How can you design a system and think that not allowing any maintenance of this section is a good idea?!

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 5 points 1 week ago

Alimony: support for a spouse that sacrificed their career to further yours during the course of the relationship

Child support: support for the child, given to the parent that incurs in the costs for the child

What the novel talks about is child support.

I still don’t get the black humor and I will pretend to believe it’s because of the translation.

 

I just got my hands on a small garden! But I have no idea where to start…

There are quite some plants already planted: an olive tree, some small palm trees (that I don’t like), a Japanese maple (?), a raspberry bush and some others I don’t recognize (mostly decorative). Most of the floor is lawn (that I am letting grow wilder). Unfortunately I am not able to include a photo, it’s not loading.

I am in a 9a/9b zone (I think: mild winters rarely if ever freezing, mild summers, quite wet the whole year, continental Europe).

My questions:

  • what can I do to maintain the lawn walkable but let it get more diverse?

  • what tools do I need for every-day maintenance of a small garden?

  • do you have any advice on plants both perennial and annual for newbies? I’m in particular interested in small plants that produce something edible. Ideally would like to start with a small apple tree? And a pumpkin/zucchini plant next year?

 

I have been thinking more and more about how our personal lives impact our access to literature and information in general.

For example, I am reading a book I am rather enjoying, but it's in French with no translation in any other languages. It's also from a local small publishing company. At the moment, I am not aware if it has been published as an e-book, that would make it more available, but for what I know this one book is accessible only to people in a rough 100km radius from where I am, and has a language requirement.

In a similar way, news is highly language based, and new outlets will differ significantly in what news they are distributing depend ing on language and geographical location (have you heard about the Serbian protests in the last weeks? I wouldn't if it hadn't been for a Serbian friend - and I have very limited first hand access to news about it).

How conscious are you that you live - necessarily - in a bubble? When do you notice it most?

Related, check out this website: novelty-insights.com where you can analyse your goodreads book data to see what sort of categories you read most from - a sort of "filter" we apply to ourselves, sometimes willingly, sometimes unconsciously.

 

Overview: 3.5/5 stars

This book talks about difficult themes in the history of Africa and then US, centered around discrimination and exploitation. The book follows a variety if people along the last three centuries that dealt with various elements of discrimination, with slavery being a central theme.

While the topic in interesting, the writing style felt mostly flat to me. The characters were human, but it felt most of them were objects of their own lives instead of subjects. It seems they suffered not only from the outside world but also a lack of inner development. That was true not only of the characters that had limited to no agency, but also of the ones that had freedom and took revolutionary actions: they all felt limited and fairly unengaging.

From the more academic perspective, it gives glimpses of philosophical debates in the history of African Americans. This was the but I personally enjoyed the most.

All in all, an okay book about an interesting and well-researched topic.

 

I’m looking for a book that would explain the ideologies that played into the creation and development of the European Union. I’m less interested in the practicalities. Do you have a suggestion?

 

My kid is crawling all over the place and learning to stand. He is little less than a year. What are some games I can start playing with him? What games did you play with your little one?

 

No spoilers here, but there will be spoilers in the comments

As the third book of the Locked Tomb quadrilogy, Nona the Ninth is wild. What do you think of it? And what do you think the ending means?

 

Politically, Napoleon divides the history of Europe in “before” and “after”. He grabbed the power in France after the Revolution with such skills that he had virtually no opposition. From there he conquered everything, from Egypt, to Russia and Spain. His fall was equally momentous. And then he did it again, leaving everyone confused and the political board of Europe forever reshuffled.

Victor Hugo is a man of that time, trying to make sense of all of this turmoil while mainly talking about people and their inner worlds. In Les Misérables he concentrated on the lowest of the low, poor people making bad choices.

At the time, it was believed that crimes had to be punished, but there was no hope for the criminal to be reinstated into society as a fully functioning member. Hugo makes the opposite claim: criminals are just good people in bad situations. And he talks about them.

While the length can scare readers off, I would encourage anyone to start it. Every page is a little masterpiece of human perception and empathy, with an author taking his time to fully build up not only stages but also souls.

 

By this I mean, a book you had to brace yourself to read, and you feel proud for having read. Did you enjoy the process of reading it?

 

Is it interesting characters? Or believable motivations? Maybe writing style? Is the world building?

And how likely are you to enjoy a book that doesn’t fit your own criteria?

 

A bit criticism to the Silmarillion is that the style is very dry and the plot is disconnected.

This is by design. The Silmarillion wanted to be the creating work of the UK mythology. As such, it mimicked the style of other mythological sagas: the Mabinogion most notably, the minor Homer, the Eddas. Part of the idea is to create a shared well-know scene from which other authors can draw to set their own works.

In some ways, it was incredibly successful: nowadays it’s impossible to talk about Elfs without referencing Tolkien’s in some ways.

 

I read Plainsong by Haruf some two years ago, and I was immediately enamored with it. All characters are so easily relatable and the whole story unfolds along a sweet melody. While bad and sad things happen, you still feel lulled by the background song and you know things are going to get solved. For any fan of “slice of life” and small stories.

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