Eq0

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[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 12 points 2 weeks ago

Where I come from and where I live, April’s fool pranks are exclusively about taping paper fishes to people’s backs, usually stealthily. I always loved it - short term and fun for everyone.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 13 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

“Pumped up kids”

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Making art is just a part of being human. Who doesn’t doodle? Arrange something in a nice pattern? Sing a new tune under the shower?

We have been told that only “good” art is worth making, but that’s a lie! Any art in any form is worth it because it’s worth it to the creator. Art doesn’t need an audience, at just is.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 3 weeks ago

Queen Witch by Martha Wells, second book of the Rising World.

I knew her from the Murderbot series (amazing) and lately decided to read most of her books. Demon King (book 1) was really enjoyable and the beginning of Queen Witch seems to keep up with it.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 3 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Oh! It has been on my “maybe” reading list for a bit! Can you give a review? Is it worth a read?

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I understand this sucks. A lot. And you are probably right that the birth mother is influencing your child. But you can’t let it get to you and you can’t let you anger towards it (and the birth mother) show.

Unfortunately, it seems your child is stuck between his two parents. He will most likely lash out, now and in the future. And it will hurt.

I don’t have a lot of advice, just some support to give. Don’t let it get to you. Your kid loves you and you love him. Acceptance (yours towards whatever he say and will say) is fundamental even in the face of anger and rejection. You are also right that with only two hours a week there is little to do. I wish you all the best.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 9 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?

Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.

My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.

Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Banana juice is a thing, and banana chips and such. Probably too small of a market to repurpose all the uncool bananas :/

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 1 month ago

I hear you, but you might be able to decouple the lazy version and the fancy one. I love pasta al pesto. I have the lazy version (sauce from the store, chuck it in) and the fancy version (start with basil…). One is a comfort food in rough times, the other a delicacy I can only savor a handful of times a year. Both are great in their respective roles.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 4 points 1 month ago

I must have read almost all his novels, I didn’t know at all he did illustrations too. These feel so much more fantastical then his writings…

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 1 month ago

Absolutely. I am not that good at home improvement (that night already be overstating my capabilities) and I am always worried that touching something will break it even worse. At best I end up researching the problem for ages, then reporting to my partner until they feel confident enough to do it, while I play support (and feel like a self-inflicted idiot)

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 1 points 1 month ago

I would trade my very limited woodworking skills for equally limited artistic skills of any type, ideally music related.

I would trade some other skills (really any pick) for extra house improvement skills. It’s not even that I’m bad at it, I’m just too nervous to fuck it up to even start…

 

I just got my hands on a small garden! But I have no idea where to start…

There are quite some plants already planted: an olive tree, some small palm trees (that I don’t like), a Japanese maple (?), a raspberry bush and some others I don’t recognize (mostly decorative). Most of the floor is lawn (that I am letting grow wilder). Unfortunately I am not able to include a photo, it’s not loading.

I am in a 9a/9b zone (I think: mild winters rarely if ever freezing, mild summers, quite wet the whole year, continental Europe).

My questions:

  • what can I do to maintain the lawn walkable but let it get more diverse?

  • what tools do I need for every-day maintenance of a small garden?

  • do you have any advice on plants both perennial and annual for newbies? I’m in particular interested in small plants that produce something edible. Ideally would like to start with a small apple tree? And a pumpkin/zucchini plant next year?

 

I have been thinking more and more about how our personal lives impact our access to literature and information in general.

For example, I am reading a book I am rather enjoying, but it's in French with no translation in any other languages. It's also from a local small publishing company. At the moment, I am not aware if it has been published as an e-book, that would make it more available, but for what I know this one book is accessible only to people in a rough 100km radius from where I am, and has a language requirement.

In a similar way, news is highly language based, and new outlets will differ significantly in what news they are distributing depend ing on language and geographical location (have you heard about the Serbian protests in the last weeks? I wouldn't if it hadn't been for a Serbian friend - and I have very limited first hand access to news about it).

How conscious are you that you live - necessarily - in a bubble? When do you notice it most?

Related, check out this website: novelty-insights.com where you can analyse your goodreads book data to see what sort of categories you read most from - a sort of "filter" we apply to ourselves, sometimes willingly, sometimes unconsciously.

 

Overview: 3.5/5 stars

This book talks about difficult themes in the history of Africa and then US, centered around discrimination and exploitation. The book follows a variety if people along the last three centuries that dealt with various elements of discrimination, with slavery being a central theme.

While the topic in interesting, the writing style felt mostly flat to me. The characters were human, but it felt most of them were objects of their own lives instead of subjects. It seems they suffered not only from the outside world but also a lack of inner development. That was true not only of the characters that had limited to no agency, but also of the ones that had freedom and took revolutionary actions: they all felt limited and fairly unengaging.

From the more academic perspective, it gives glimpses of philosophical debates in the history of African Americans. This was the but I personally enjoyed the most.

All in all, an okay book about an interesting and well-researched topic.

 

I’m looking for a book that would explain the ideologies that played into the creation and development of the European Union. I’m less interested in the practicalities. Do you have a suggestion?

 

My kid is crawling all over the place and learning to stand. He is little less than a year. What are some games I can start playing with him? What games did you play with your little one?

 

No spoilers here, but there will be spoilers in the comments

As the third book of the Locked Tomb quadrilogy, Nona the Ninth is wild. What do you think of it? And what do you think the ending means?

 

Politically, Napoleon divides the history of Europe in “before” and “after”. He grabbed the power in France after the Revolution with such skills that he had virtually no opposition. From there he conquered everything, from Egypt, to Russia and Spain. His fall was equally momentous. And then he did it again, leaving everyone confused and the political board of Europe forever reshuffled.

Victor Hugo is a man of that time, trying to make sense of all of this turmoil while mainly talking about people and their inner worlds. In Les Misérables he concentrated on the lowest of the low, poor people making bad choices.

At the time, it was believed that crimes had to be punished, but there was no hope for the criminal to be reinstated into society as a fully functioning member. Hugo makes the opposite claim: criminals are just good people in bad situations. And he talks about them.

While the length can scare readers off, I would encourage anyone to start it. Every page is a little masterpiece of human perception and empathy, with an author taking his time to fully build up not only stages but also souls.

 

By this I mean, a book you had to brace yourself to read, and you feel proud for having read. Did you enjoy the process of reading it?

 

Is it interesting characters? Or believable motivations? Maybe writing style? Is the world building?

And how likely are you to enjoy a book that doesn’t fit your own criteria?

 

A bit criticism to the Silmarillion is that the style is very dry and the plot is disconnected.

This is by design. The Silmarillion wanted to be the creating work of the UK mythology. As such, it mimicked the style of other mythological sagas: the Mabinogion most notably, the minor Homer, the Eddas. Part of the idea is to create a shared well-know scene from which other authors can draw to set their own works.

In some ways, it was incredibly successful: nowadays it’s impossible to talk about Elfs without referencing Tolkien’s in some ways.

 

I read Plainsong by Haruf some two years ago, and I was immediately enamored with it. All characters are so easily relatable and the whole story unfolds along a sweet melody. While bad and sad things happen, you still feel lulled by the background song and you know things are going to get solved. For any fan of “slice of life” and small stories.

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